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[oikophile]

It seems like so many of the folks in this DDC have BTDT! Anyone else new to this whole pregnancy thing? I am hesitant to say "expecting #1" in my case, because we already have "1" (my stepdaughter). But I bet for some of you this is #1. Anyone? Bueller?

[degaro]

Hello Oikophile! 1st timer here! So excited - so nervous...Other than my hubby, I haven't told anyone. We had been trying for over a year and had finally decided on a fertility specialist doctor and had appointment scheduled for next month and then VOILA!

[nemrac917]

I'm a first-timer here. *raises hand*

[Hijynx]

Me too! Super nervous but really excited!!!

[Gemmine]

I'm kind of a first-timer. I had a pregnancy loss last April at 5 weeks 2 days. After today, I will be past that point in this pregnancy so this is my first successful (I hope) pregnancy.

[JodiAriel]

I'm a first timer too.  This is our first baby and it was quite a struggle to get here.  I am super excited and super scared all at once!

[oikophile]

Originally Posted by Gemmine 

I'm kind of a first-timer. I had a pregnancy loss last April at 5 weeks 2 days. After today, I will be past that point in this pregnancy so this is my first successful (I hope) pregnancy.

I'm sorry :/ After I posted this, I realized there would probably be people who've had pregnancy losses. I was just hung up on the "expecting #1" wording. I guess...expecting to give birth for the first time? 

Great that you have passed that milestone. Here's to sticky embryos for all of us!

[STLmama225]

This is my first time! First pregnancy ever. I'm a dollar coaster of emotions. I'm thrilled. Ive wanted a baby for as long as I can remember! But I'm petrified. I wish I could go back in time and not get pregnant (this was not planned). At the same time, I'm terrified of having a miscarriage -- it just seems unsurvivable I feel guilty for not being all happy. I'm nervous as hell about the fact that DH and I have only been married for 6 months...I know there is no "ready" for a baby, but man this seems really not ready! I'm scared to tell anyone because I don't want to have to un-tell them if I miscarry OTOH, not telling is a huge burden because I have no one to process with. (Other than DH, who is being fantastic, but it's not the same as female IRL support). I'm afraid my mother is going to be really unsupportive, because she hates my DH, which has already been so hard. Was already planning on quitting my job independent of this, because I work for an OB's office and I hate it, but I want to get out of there ASAP now. I really don't want them to know I'm pregnant...they have so much disdain for pregnant women! And I'll be having a homebirth with a midwife, and I don't want to hear it from them. Also...I never thought I would feel like this...but I feel like my body's been hijacked! Really not looking forward to the fat-but-no-bump phase. And now I'm freaking out about all of this and sobbing...damn hormones! I need a hug.

[babychak]

Yep, this is our first! I'm in the "excited but nervous" club.

[jeunesdragons]

Originally Posted by STLmama225 

This is my first time! First pregnancy ever. I'm a dollar coaster of emotions. I'm thrilled. Ive wanted a baby for as long as I can remember! But I'm petrified. I wish I could go back in time and not get pregnant (this was not planned). At the same time, I'm terrified of having a miscarriage -- it just seems unsurvivable I feel guilty for not being all happy. I'm nervous as hell about the fact that DH and I have only been married for 6 months...I know there is no "ready" for a baby, but man this seems really not ready! I'm scared to tell anyone because I don't want to have to un-tell them if I miscarry OTOH, not telling is a huge burden because I have no one to process with. (Other than DH, who is being fantastic, but it's not the same as female IRL support). I'm afraid my mother is going to be really unsupportive, because she hates my DH, which has already been so hard. Was already planning on quitting my job independent of this, because I work for an OB's office and I hate it, but I want to get out of there ASAP now. I really don't want them to know I'm pregnant...they have so much disdain for pregnant women! And I'll be having a homebirth with a midwife, and I don't want to hear it from them. Also...I never thought I would feel like this...but I feel like my body's been hijacked! Really not looking forward to the fat-but-no-bump phase. And now I'm freaking out about all of this and sobbing...damn hormones! I need a hug.

Here's a big ((((HUG)))) for you!

I know exactly how you feel, even down to the "body being hijacked" feeling. This is my first time, too, and it was unexpected and we are not really prepared for it. I am 36 years old! I cried for the first three days solid after finding out and went through a pretty bad time. Now I'm coming around to the "acceptance" phase, and I'm not depressed as much, but it's hard to feel excited or happy the way everyone else seems to feel. That also has a lot to do with the fact that I have some pretty bad morning sickness, so it's hard to feel anything but "ugh" all the time. Everything I read about pregnancy is very off-putting to me, due to my many body issues, and I am ambivalent about breastfeeding (I will do it, but I feeling squicked about people touching my breasts is one of my issues).

I also do not have much IRL female support though my SO has been great. I'm a Canadian in China but don't have any friends here yet. I would love for my mom to be around but she's across the world from me. So that's hard. Most of the time I am alone to deal with everything by myself.

God, I didn't think an OB's office would be disdainful of pregnant women! That's horrible!

Anyway, I feel totally where you are coming from and I do send you all the hugs I can from China. Hopefully it gets better soon!

[tetiana]

Had two misscariages last year, both at 7w5d, pregnant again this time around cautiously excited, and very anxious, I am no longer consumed by baby thoughts like i was the first two times, all i do is  pray i can carry a healthy  baby full term. My first appt is on 4/10 it cant come fast enough.

[JodiAriel]

This is my first pregnancy ever and it was a long hard struggle to get here.  I am beyond scared about the whole thing!  I wanted this more than anything in the world but I am still so nervous about everything.

[SuperK]

First-timer here too! Just wishing for a healthy, full-term baby! :-) I believe I am about 5w3d and my first appointment isn't until May 1st in which I'll be just about 9 weeks... I am so nervous!

[wantabeanbrat]

first timer here :))

really excited but a lot nervous too.