I think I need to trade in my friends and family for newer, upgraded models :-P DD just turned 4mos old, she's our first, EBF, and I love every minute of it. I do pump before I go to bed at night because she sleeps 12hrs (8pm-8am) and I'd otherwise be engorged by morning. DH's one request was to be able to help feed her before bed, so she gets her pumped bottle with some probiotics every night. Everywhere I go, everyone I talk to lately, keeps asking the same questions - is she getting cereal yet? My MIL BF for 2 weeks then stopped bc of issues, so she not only put DH on formula early, but also added cereals at 2wks to "help him sleep through the night" per dr's orders. He has major food allergies now because of this yet she in no way believes her actions caused this (nor does she believe he has issues to begin with!). So bc I've had issues with her being pushy from the moment DD was born, my MIL will talk in the background to my daughter saying things like "oh, you want real food, don't you" and "yummy, get that food, tell daddy you want to eat that". She drives me up a wall, but I'm getting good at ignoring her since DH won't say much to her and if he does, she still doesn't change. My parents are cool about it. My mother BF me for 6 weeks then wasn't able to keep up when she returned to work so she's pretty excited that I'm able to do this. My parents are also more into healthy eating so they don't question my decisions, like going dairy free at the suggestion of my chiropractor who noticed that DD's early issues seemed dairy related - that lead to sleeping through the night when I changed my diet.
Then there are friends. None of our friends BF'd. And the few I can think of who may have tried, weren't sucessful long-term. Now at 4mos, DD is 25" and 16lbs....she's a solid baby! At birth she was 7.5 19" so she's had awesome growth and has hit her milestones ahead of schedule so far and is on course to be a very early walker. So I feel like people don't see her as a "baby" because of her size and they automatically assume that I should jump into feeding her other things. It kills me when people who never BF their own kids try to give me advice on how to feed my child. Especially one "friend", a mom of 4 who is a nurse, and is completely anti-breastfeeding! Her 6yo daughter asked how people feed babies if they don't use bottles (in response to seeing me covered up nursing my daughter), and she told her "they put them up to their boobies and the babies eats from there". When the 6yo said iiiew, that's gross, rather than taking a chance to explain to her how good and normal it is, her response was "yes it is gross". I was furious when she told me this story afterwards! Talk about raising your kids to be ignorant to other views.
Other people have told me to give her bread, and crackers....you name it! She may be pretty advanced, but she still needs help to balance while sitting and doesn't quite have the "hand-eye" coordination necesssary to eat finger foods! I don't know why everyone is in a rush to move my child along in her eating habits when I'm happy as is!
Sorry, this was a longer vent than I thought it would be. Anyone else had to deal with pople like this, and what did you do? I told my husband I'm not going to stop BFing til DD decides she's had enough, regardless of her age and much to his dismay (he's still squeamish about me BFing in public but I do it anyways, it's not like I let it all hang out!). I'm reading more about going right to solids rather than purees and I kind of like that, I'm def ok with waiting til she's ready. Her 4mo Dr appt is next week and as much as her pedi is ok with some things I do I'm sure she'll bring up food and I'll have to explain to her too. That and I'm leaning more towards no-vax even though we started, but that's a whole seperate issue! Any advice or words of wisdom are appreciated!!