we have our own set of responsibilities that are a given, and then some that I will ask him to do when I feel overworked, but he only does them when I ask. I do all the dishes and laundry
take out trash (with DS)
make appointments, pay bills, manage the budget, shop for most of the gifts
do all the grocery shopping aside from the occasional stop by DH on the way home from work, or if we do grocery shopping on the weekend together
pick up prescriptions.
Make DH lunches(mostly to save money and help him eat healthier. If it was up to him, he'd eat fast food every day)
Gardening(one flower bed and our veggie/herb garden)
DH does all the home repairs(when he gets around to it, lol)
All the lawn work
Services the vehicles, I clean mine, but DH works for a car dealership, so he washes it at work.
He makes sure the trash makes it to the curb on trash day
hmm..that's about it consistently
He makes his own dr appointments(he has diabetes and ADHD)
He works 50-60 hrs a week and the time he spends at home is usually spent with the kids, working on projects or helping with all the parenting stuff. We're starting to finally get into a routine at night when he's home before 7, so that's been nice. :) do I feel like it's even, no not really. Pretty much because all the home stuff never ends. Even if you get to the end of the day and have finished your chores, there's still a list a mile long of things that could have been done, ya know!?