My ds1 is 6 and in the first grade. I have no idea how to help him with this issue as I always LOVED school (and still do, I'm taking grad school classes now).
Every morning, it is a fight to get him to school. He wakes up crying, saying he doesn't want to go. I know part of this is the actual waking up; he is not a morning person. If left to his own devices, he'll sleep until 9am or later, even when he goes to bed at the same time (bed time now is 7:30-8pm).
He's not having any issues socially in school. He has friends, plays hard, isn't teased, etc.
His grades, however, are another story. He went from having As and Bs in the first 9 weeks to Bs and Cs in the second and now he's got Ds and Fs. His teacher said that his handwriting was part of the problem in math the last 9 weeks because they were working on word problems. He really struggles with handwriting but the school's OT people are maxxed out and won't see him. Teacher also says he's having a hard time focusing; he fidgets, won't sit in his seat, swaps his shoes from one foot to the next, etc. Teacher is great and will let him kind of stand and dance around if that's what it takes to get his work done. But yesterday she said he stared at a math worksheet for an hour (4 problems) and never even wrote his name on it. I asked him about it and he said he didn't understand. I told him his teacher would help him, but he said she was helping someone else. I told him that, if he asked, she would help him, he'd just have to wait his turn.
He's also said things like: "I like to get the problems wrong b/c I hate school." and "If I do a good job, they'll think I like school!" I'm not sure if this plays a role in the grade drop or not.
Teacher has also said that he doesn't seem developmentally ready for some of the concepts, but there's nothing we can really do about that except hold him back a year.
None of this stuff was an issue last year (except the waking up, but it is a much bigger deal this year). His Kindy teacher did have to stay on top of him getting his stuff done in class, but nothing to this degree. I know that when I hear "can't focus" from a teacher, she might as well be saying "medicate him," which isn't fair b/c she's never said anything to me about medication.
If he hates school now, we're in for a long, hard road, so I want to fix this. Or at least improve it.
I'm open to suggestions, if you've got 'em.