Dd, 9 yo, is Gifted with learning differences. Her grades are reasonable, not as good as they probably should be - mostly Bs, a few As, the odd C. Her work habits are, by the public school's estimation, in need of improvement. She works very hard, but gets lost & confused and doesn't know what to do. We are finding that we are often re-teaching her at home. She goes to a tutor, she has an IEP and gets as much support as we can get her in class. I advocate for her as much as I can.
The problems here are that her grades do not reflect her knowledge, her anxiety has been sky high (crying about going to school, shutting down and refusing to do homework, incredibly grumpy when she gets home etc.) , and she is not getting her work done. Her reading is lagging behind and she is getting pressured by other students to skip ahead and copy answers. The way she is talking about herself is that she's slow, that she can't do it etc. School work has always been tough for her, but she's always been persistent until this year. It feels like shes giving up.
I have an opportunity to get her into an LD focused school that would be able to address her LD needs and develop her strengths. I couldn't keep her there for more than a couple years, but maybe that would be enough time to get her work habits on track. I'm not sure why I'm hesitating, entirely. Some of me wonders if this is just stuff that all kids have to deal with. I've heard a lot of people saying that school is stressing their kids out and they're under performing. There are lots of LD kids in the public system that arehaving a much harder time academically. She's got a great social network there, and I think that generally the staff there is great. But they seem to be unable to provide the amount of teaching and quiet that my kid seems to need to be happy and learning. Part of me feels like I'm throwing her under the bus by sending her to an LD specific school, like I'm admitting that she's defective or something.
Does it sound reasonable to go ahead with the private school, despite the cost, or do you think this is just one of those things kids struggle with?