I'm 37 and this is my 6th pregnancy. I have had 3 hospital births that had complications in some way or another. With the exception of the first one (I had pre-eclampsia that *I* diagnosed), the second one had mild complications and the last moderate ones--all due to the hospital staff. The second one I tore a little, the third one, my baby had head compression and some stress (due to their lack of patience and pushing of pitocin), low blood sugar (which they tried to blame on me because of "undiagnosed gestational diabetes" even though I had the testing at the exact time I needed it and didn't have it. I recently found an article from one of the OBs most trusted associations that said that infant low blood sugar can be due to glucose iv given to mom--which they DID give me.)
In the first one, I had terrible care and was forced into quite a bit that I didn't want. I had a terrible delivery, and terrible discharge issue. I understand that with pre-eclampsia I really needed to be in a hospital, BUT, that's no excuse for terrible treatment. After I healed from the unnecessary birth rape, (something that took close to 3 years), I decided that it was because it was a military hospital and that the results would be different somewhere else. They were, but not terribly--even though I didn't have any complications.
In anycase, from the first delivery on, I had this nagging feeling that none of it was right and was, in fact, dangerous. I kept dreaming of going camping and giving birth where no one could find us and interrupt me.
The 2 pregnancies I had before this current one ended in miscarriages. But, I had decided to do a UP with a UC (once I found out that there ARE other options) when my husband would not opt for the additional cost of a midwife. I had the flu with the first one and was sick for 2 weeks. Not just, "I don't feel good, but I'll do a load of laundry anyway" kind, but the "I can't get out of bed" kind. I was 16 weeks during this time and had a sudden fear that I had lost the baby one night. At 19 weeks, I started spotting. I went to the emergency room to find out that my suspicions were right. The ER staff seemed to think that it was the flu I had that took him, though the OBs remain ambivalent and prefer "unexplained". Still, the ER staff said there wasn't really anything that could have been done if I had come in for the flu anyway. I did get to deliver his body at home and it was wonderful--even though it WAS a delivery, complete with contractions and transitional phase--though it was quicker. I wasn't prepared for the massive blood clots (some bigger than the baby) and the amount of bleeding (they didn't prepare me for that--I was thinking it would be more like a full-term delivery, and it wasn't and isn't expected to be.) I thought I was hemoraging so I went back to the ER to deliver the placenta and was told that my bleeding and clots are normal for a miscarriage of this gestational age. Must have been because they didn't really do anything for me. Once I delivered the placenta, the bleeding just nearly stopped.
The second one was at 7 weeks. I got pregnant 4 months after the loss of the first one--which was the recommended time that I should wait. (Well, 3 months, anyway.) They couldn't do anything about that one, either. That was like a hard period and I had more bleeding than a normal period, but I didn't bleed too many days overall.
This one I conceived 4 months after the second miscarriage. I took my time making an OB appt because I didn't want the stress they would cause and I was sort of waiting to miscarry again. I still wanted to do a UC, but I thought that I should at least do prenatal care with an OB.
Well, I had my first OB appt yesterday (I'm 17 weeks now). I was deeply disappointed. Besides the ultrasound and blood work, I'm not getting any care that I can't and don't provide for myself here at home. I test my urine (the strips are easy to get), listen for a fetal heartrate, and take my blood pressure with a foolproof cuff. I DO feel like I got railroaded into a procedure or two that I didn't need.
I'm thinking of keeping the appointment for the ultrasound and the appointment afterward just to make sure that I have all the test results, then dropping the rest of the appointments because there isn't anything that they can do for me in normal care that I can't provide for myself. I think I've proven with the miscarriages that if I find something wrong, I don't hesitate to get help.
In anycase, it's a strange predicament. I KNOW I can trust my body better than them. I certainly don't feel safe at a hospital AT ALL. I'm getting a lot of "you're crazy and reckless" responses if I even mention it, which I try not to listen to, but at the same time my experience has proven time and time again that a hospital is NOT the place to be for a normal delivery.
Anyway, anyone else have similar reasons for UP/UC? Did you have any problems with getting a pediatrician if you had insurance? Birth Certificate/SSN#? How do you handle the feedback? Any problems with authority from either applying for a birth certificate or pediatrician appt? Have you even been asked about the birth at peds? Just want to know what to prepare for in these areas.
Thanks for any feedback you can give.