How do you combat this? Or help your child to not feel abandoned? My DD is very loved and has me and her grandparents in our home to love her, play with her, tend to her needs etc... yet, it seems she is starting to really struggle and question why her Dad isn't around more and if he loves her... This is breaking my heart. One example is what happened this morning.
Well, that started an interesting conversation. She says, "No, Mommy. I don't want you to buy me play make-up. You love me so much. Daddy can buy me play make-up. I want him to pick me up from school and buy me play make-up." Then she kept telling me she doesn't want me to pick her up from school today, she wants Daddy to.
Last night she actually asked, "Does Daddy love me?"
My EX has cancelled more than half his time in the past three months. I have tried talking to him about this and each time he plays the victim, or just cops an attitude. He tells me he doesn't have to explain himself to me on why he cancels, he has personal things to do. I told him his personal priorities should be to his children and that DD knows days of the week now and knows he is supposed to pick her up on Fridays, so when he cancels that, she is really effected by that. She cries for him often, especially when it's been 2 weeks since she has seen him last.
It's breaking my heart how much this is getting to me DD and that I can't do anything to fix it. :-(