Background: I married my high school sweetheart who had a child back in high school with another woman. Difficult situation, so I left and joined the military. He soon followed me after a year and we decided to get married. His daughter still lives back in our hometown, and I am miliary so we are constantly on the move with our children.
Now: Everytime we move, she does the crosscountry traveling with us. She only gets to visit during the summers and sometime during Christmas as well. That is all we can afford. I don't want her to feel left out, but I am being told from her mother that she deserves more than my children b/c they have their dad. But what is not understood, is they do not have their mother all the time. They also don't have family. It's just us.
Question: How do I help my stepdaughter feel like she belongs if that is really the issue. I'm not quite sure. What should I do more of? Less of?
What is being done now.
We mail letters. Talk/Text daily regardless if she doesnt' respond back. Mail pictures. Mail packages. She has her own room always decorated in whatever she tells us to do.
Edited by USAFMOMSTEPMOM - 3/9/12 at 10:24am