My DD1 is currently going too long in between taking baths. She's 4. She has sensory issues and some other stuff going on. I've contemplated posting this for awhile but have always figured I could handle it. I saw a thread about it resurrected so here I am. A lot of responses there were just "oh it's a stage", but for my DD, it is not a stage, so those replies don't really help
She has a huge aversion to water, unless she's washing her hands in the sink or drinking it. She freaks when it rains or snows and the drops touch her. Her biggest aversion is water on her head and face, but hates it in general. She has long (below her shoulder blades) thick and oily hair, and she gets quite messy when eating (won't wear anything to hold her hair back from her plate) so she needs her hair washed. It is thick (straight) and needs to be brushed daily. I can't brush it if it isn't conditioned.
Bathing her is a terror.. she flips, hits me, screams, flops around.. I have an extra large bathmat, but she still manages to slip and I need to catch her somehow. It's hard on my back (she's over 45lbs) when she's flopping around like dead weight. I'm pregnant and it is going to get increasingly difficult for me to bathe her and deal with all of this once I get bigger. My husband can't help me as he lacks the appropriate tools to deal with her behavior.. he doesn't get that there's actually something wrong with her and she's not just being "bad". He needs a reality check, I know, but let's put that aside for now.
What can *I* do to make this situation easier for myself? It is so difficult. I was contemplating getting waterless soap (the kind we used on patients who were confined to their beds) and doing spongebaths on a bed or the carpet where she can't bang her head on tile.. but she can't stand being cold or feeling a chill which is inevitable and will likely send her into another wild fury.
On top of this, her 2yo sister has seen and heard her put up a fight in the bath, so now she's doing it too (to an extent, just smacking the water cup of shampoo out of my hand. we talk about it and she's okay, but it is getting incredibly trying!).