I'm sorry if this is in the wrong place...I haven't been following the schooling forums and I haven't been posting in a while, but I always turn here when I have a problem I just can't work around myself because you mamas know so much.
So the problem is that my otherwise intelligent 4 1/2 year old daughter, who has no problem correctly using words like paleontology and irritating and colors as well as children three years her senior, also has some serious delays, most notably in numeracy. In short, she can't count past four, and until her grandmother hammered away at her for a week straight visit last week, she couldn't get past three. She would and generally still does count, "One, two, three, my age." And yet, as much as half a year ago, when I showed her that we had five sausages for dinner she promptly told me that that was one for her, one for her brother, one for Papa, and two for me (she also obviously knows who the chowhounds are around here). She couldn't have said that there were five sausages, but she could divide them up just fine. She also doesn't know her alphabet at all and basically only recognizes the letter O and sort of the letter E, which is the first letter of her name, but which she usually calls "three". She doesn't seem able to distinguish between numbers and letters, either. It also took her a LOOONG time to even vaguely grasp the concept of patterns, and she's still not so sure about it. Mind you, she sometimes asks for us to help her write things, and all you need to do is show her the letter/word in question and she can copy it very clearly. So baffling!
I'm pretty unschooling oriented, and we don't do "lessons" or push things she's not actively seeking information on, but I am starting to be really concerned that the intelligent, capable little girl who has been having me count EVERYTHING for three straight years now, and who even sometimes randomly quizzes me on "What is two and two and two?" and such things, seems to be completely blocked on something as basic as learning her numbers. Plus, I'm sick to death of reviewing them and not being able to do more complex stuff with her. I have no idea what to even call this. I have no idea what to do, or where to look for help.