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Poll Results: Would you encourage your high school aged daughter to explore her own body?

Poll expired: Mar 24, 2012  
  • 45% (10)
    Yes
  • 54% (12)
    No
22 Total Votes  
post #21 of 23

I'm not a mother to teens or girls but at younger than your daughter I was digging around under my mother's bed to read the steamy parts of her romance novels. Eventually she just started leaving them on the bookshelves which made my life a lot easier, so did finding written erotica on the internet. I wouldn't pointedly leave erotica in the bathroom (because she'd know it was from you), I'd just have some, of various levels of graphic-ness as part of your book collection. She'll find them if she's interested.

post #22 of 23
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Originally Posted by Terrilane37 View Post

I consider myself a sex positive parent and even went to a weekend workshop several years ago on Sex Positive Parenting, which was wonderful and enlightening.  I believe that all children should learn about their bodies and feel free to explore their sexuality.  But I think as long as these discussions are ongoing at age appropriate levels, kids will learn on their own.  Some children are interested sooner than others and I think that is something they need to determine in their own time frame.  My two girls are 17 and 15 and they both have brought up many subjects with me and we have discussed these non judgementally and openly.  I want my girls to have a glorious sex life when they are ready but I have never "forced" the issue on them.  My 17 yr old has been with her boyfriend for 2 years and they have been active for over a year now and they protected and enjoying a wonderful emotional and physical relationship.  My 15 yr old has just recently started dating her first boyfriend and they are not sexually active now, but when the time comes and they are mutually ready and safe, I will provide them with all the information and support they need. 

 

My advice to you is to make sure your daughter knows she can talk to you when she is ready and let her know you will support her and guide her in her decision making.  I would just sit back and wait for her to come to you when she's ready however continue the discussions along the way so she understands that sex is not a dirty word and you will tell her anything and everything she needs to know.  Good luck and it sounds like you are heading in the right direction that your daughter will do just fine...when she is ready!




Agree with this and pretty much have done the same throughout my daughters lives with age appropriate levels. My almost 17 yr old has been on BC since Aug.2011 because she thought she was ready to become sexually active with her boyfriend but then decided no,she is still on BC but a virgin also. at this moment has no interest in sex. also if either my almost 17 or almost 15 yr old asked for vibrators I'd buy them but I'd also let them know hands and fingers work too and show them educated sites or videos( not raunchy porn) on female masturbation.

post #23 of 23

I have 3 girls aged 18, 13, and 9 and I wouldn't exactly "encourage" them to *explore* their bodies, but if they were to, I don't see myself having any problem with it. It is normal for children to do this at some stage in their tween/teen years. And I know a lot of moms on here have said that their children feel awkward talking to them about sex, but in our family, we don't make a big deal of it; it is a part of life that most everyone experiences. So my girls are comfortable talking with me about it because we have never made it an issue and therefore they don't feel the need to make it one either :)

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