My DS is almost 6, and we are having major behavioral issues. I am home full-time with him, his 4-yr-old brother and 2-yr-old sister. When he was 2, we had issues with temper tantrums. They have resurfaced from time to time with difficult times (moving; DH working long hours for a few months). This time, however, I don't know what's causing them, and he is (in my opinion) too big to be acting the way he is. At the end of November he started yelling at me if he didn't get his way. By December, he was screaming and hitting, biting, and pulling hair. He only does it to me, he only does it when he doesn't get his way, and he 'snaps' into and out of these fits. Often they will last an hour. I guess I should add that he has had tantrums for my mom recently (she watches them often), but has never hit her.
We stopped doing schoolwork (it wasn't much anyway, just about an hour a day of Kindergarten) and started staying home more, and he did get better. I do recognize that he has trouble with transitions (playing at home to going to the playground, or eating at the table to the next activity). However, I think that he is getting old to be just left to play. There are times when we have to leave the house, or times when I would like him to be doing something other than playing (always legos or cars), and I'm at a loss as to how to deal with it.
Both DH and I have talked with him many times about why he's so angry (he doesn't have an answer), about how hitting me hurts me, about alternatives to hitting ... like I said, I'm at a loss now.
Thanks for any insight ...