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Things you never expected

post #1 of 18
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We spent endless hours trying to plot out our pregnancies and our babies. Read more than many, knew statistics and normal behavior...

 

So what goofy/annoying/painful thing does your charming child do that you never thought to plan for?

 

For Charlie, it's still mostly the refusing to nurse my left boob thing.

It's actually getting worse, not better. He first refused to nurse in our normal nursing position, but he was fine with sidelaying - I'd just mostly nurse him on the left side at night - he'd lay on my left side and we were fine.

And then he stopped doing that.  But then I could put him on my right side and just nurse leftie from the top. But then he started hating that - he'll actually cry about that in his sleep if I try sometimes.

Currently if I have him on his back and then lay down perpendicular to him, with my left elbow resting on the other side of his body.. he will sometimes nurse! Woo :P But mostly only because it gives him access to my hair.

 

And then randomly he'll nurse and be fine. But it's frustrating because then he'll up my milk in that side... and refuse to nurse it AT ALL for more than 24 hours. Mostly I just get a light suckle, usually once, maybe twice a day.

 

He's had a more energetic chiropractor working on him since he was five days old, cranio-sacral work (that's actually gotten the best results so far - but they wore off after two days), an acupuncturist (who used tuning forks on him) and a more traditional chiropractor who referred us to another chiropractor who we're trying Monday.

 

It's such a weird thing. It was less wonderful from the start because that whole nipple is smaller. And then it was added to by tightnesses in his neck that we're still trying to full address. And then just habit compounding it - his and mine.

 

I am amazed that I haven't gotten mastitis. And terrified to write that down :P

post #2 of 18
How over the top Happy and Loud she is! I love it but it still astounds me. Based on DH and my personality I always just imagined her as a chill, quiet baby. it's so much more energy dealing with such a boisterous personality.
Edited by SouthernStormy - 3/9/12 at 7:33pm
post #3 of 18
Totally shocked by how much harder it is to get all of the poop off of little girls! I knew there were more crevaces, but crikey! Little boys are SO much easier to clean up. I had been assured (by parents of girls) that it wasn't all that much harder. Lies! Every time DD poops, I swear I go through 20 wipes before I finally come off completely clean.

But what she lacks in convenience, she more than makes up for in her fabulous little baby jowls. I didn't expect those either (DS had a much less chubba face), but I LURV the Winston Churchill jowls. They are SO cute!
post #4 of 18

The reflux thing threw me for a loop.  I'm still amazed at how much puke a tiny baby can produce!  The crying, the spit up, the mess, the constant nursing.  The sleeping on the couch thing for 3.5 months was NOT planned.  I never expected any of that.  I had my cosleeper all hooked up, I was all set to go them - BAM.  But we survived!  Wading through baby puke, we are surviving, still!

 

IM - You are so right about girls being harder to clean.  Nothing more tricky than poo up the puss.  I'm actually surprised at how easy it is to clean a boy.  I thought I'd be afraid of hurting his junk but it's so much easier to not worry about getting poo *in* anything, lol!

 

Becky - that is so strange that he doesn't like the left side.  I mean, who could plan for that?  

 

 

post #5 of 18
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Stormy - I'm so glad she's so happy! You've had a rough start with her (being alone and then unsupported by your family), so I'm glad that she was there and bright and happy. We got a baby with similar energy levels with us, so we like that.

 

Michelle - YES. We really wanted  girl, but I'm so happy about boy diapers! And we need new pictures of her chubba cheeks.

 

Carrie - Yeah! Your poor pukey guy :(  I'm so glad you guys got things better, that was miserable!

 

And yeah, the left boob thing. He's very odd. I"m going to post a picture of him in his new "okay"position.

post #6 of 18

That I'd get yet another high, high needs baby. My first child was a never napped more then 20 minutes, only slept on top of me, night woke every 45 minutes until 2 years of age, she screamed all the flipping time. My second child was slightly better, she was all that except without the screaming she but had massive amounts of medical problems. Dominic is a carbon copy of the first kid. banghead.gif I kind of feel like I've paid my dues, why do I get all these kids and everyone else I know just get normal babies? 

post #7 of 18
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That I'd get yet another high, high needs baby. My first child was a never napped more then 20 minutes, only slept on top of me, night woke every 45 minutes until 2 years of age, she screamed all the flipping time. My second child was slightly better, she was all that except without the screaming she but had massive amounts of medical problems. Dominic is a carbon copy of the first kid. banghead.gif I kind of feel like I've paid my dues, why do I get all these kids and everyone else I know just get normal babies? 


There's no answer but I'm so sorry.

 

I know a mom who had a son with muscular dystrophy. And then another. Got divorced and remaried.. and had a third.

 

I wish the baby-doling process had some type of fairness built in!!

 

post #8 of 18

Fairness would be nice! And then I think I should shut my mouth because while my first 3 kids all have different issues and disorders, (who knows about Dominic yet, maybe he will be normal after his PIA baby stage passes by) they can function in most things in life, sometimes with hundreds of hours of therapy but still, they will be able to live alone some day and many people can't say that about their kids. But sheesh. The only kid I got that was fairly normal as a baby turned out to be delayed and now gets 8 hours of therapy a week. I just can't win. biglaugh.gif

post #9 of 18

Peony, I'm sorry. That is just so much to go through. hug2.gif

 

Becky, I'm glad Charlie has a mama so willing to work with him! As I read about the stiffness in his neck I started thinking... would I even notice if Mal had sore muscles? I don't know. I hope so.

 

Carrie, I'm glad Finn's reflux is getting better. Clementine has a bit of it (not as often, but it was projectile a lot of the time and seemed to hurt her) and it was unspeakably hard to see her pain and not be able to do anything.

 

Michelle - I can't for the life of me wipe DS back to front. It's drilled so hard into me not to do it. The first time I saw DF I was like "Noooo! What are you doing?" before I realized it didn't matter so much. I agree about the cheeks, Ellie is sooo cute. Her hair, too!

 

Stormy - It's sweet that Mags is such a happy girl! We're pretty quiet people, too, including my 5 yo DD, but I'm sometimes surprised just how loud she can be.

 

My DD was so lovely and calm and easy and I expected a more difficult baby. Wrong, wrong, wrong. He's so cuddly and sweet and calm and happy. I didn't expect he would feel so fully formed when he was born. He never really spit up, he was so strong, and he nursed perfectly. I did miss the "newborn" feeling, though. Sometimes I look at newborn pictures of other babies and feel sad, like I didn't get that with him. I didn't expect how much my kids love each other, either. And I didn't expect to make a giant baby. As a rather small person having the biggest baby on the block was a surprise, but his chub! I die. I did expect things with DF to be a lot better, though. TBH a lot of times I feel like I'd rather be doing it myself again.

post #10 of 18
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Mares - honestly, I didn't notice. Luckily the body workers I took him to did! And I had to take him - his jaw was on crooked and made it hard to nurse.

 

And congratulations on your giant sweet baby :D I agree about missing the newborn stuff. Charlie was holding his head up day one.

post #11 of 18

grouphug.gif to all of your struggles.

 

I didn't expect that it would all be so normal and commonplace. Oh yeah, no big deal, I just have a BABY is all! It's still so weird to think about, yet I go through the motions every day. And he is just such a part of the family that I can't imagine life without him in it.

 

Not that it's not hard as all hell... because it is. It's just that hard is the new norm.

 

This is horrible to say out loud, but I didn't expect him to be so damn cute. Maybe it's a low self-esteem thing, but I'm surprised I made such a gorgeous baby. I guess it helps to procreate with a hottie. luxlove.gif

post #12 of 18
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grouphug.gif to all of your struggles.

 

I didn't expect that it would all be so normal and commonplace. Oh yeah, no big deal, I just have a BABY is all! It's still so weird to think about, yet I go through the motions every day. And he is just such a part of the family that I can't imagine life without him in it.

 

Not that it's not hard as all hell... because it is. It's just that hard is the new norm.

 

This is horrible to say out loud, but I didn't expect him to be so damn cute. Maybe it's a low self-esteem thing, but I'm surprised I made such a gorgeous baby. I guess it helps to procreate with a hottie. luxlove.gif

indeed it does! And your husband sure did! you're gorgeous.
 

 

post #13 of 18
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indeed it does! And your husband sure did! you're gorgeous.
 

 


You're sweet. I swear I wasn't fishing for a compliment there, but I'll still take it. innocent.gif

 

post #14 of 18
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You're sweet. I swear I wasn't fishing for a compliment there, but I'll still take it. innocent.gif

 

I know you weren't. I've totally brought a picture of you with River to Dusty and said, "Isn't she just gorgeous?!" and he agreed. So. And also? River is SO cute! You did good!
 

 

post #15 of 18

For me the worst was lack of sleep. I just didn't expect that. It's like no one told me this was coming. And, I don't do well at all if I'm sleep deprived. Also, didn't expect to have a baby who would cry, cry and then cry some more till she couldn't cry any more since all her energy was gone and would finally close her eyes. But then again God forbids if I put her on bed...she would be back with full force! It was the MOST frustrating time of my life, first couple of months post birth!

 

I think, I hit the worst when one day my sis came to my room to give Eliana back to me and I was telling her how I needed to sleep caz well, I was sooo sleepy. She told me, "but you just slept!" I was like ummm no, I didn't! I went on to argue with her how I didn't sleep and then she tells me, "yes, I came to your room to give Eliana, but then I saw you sleeping so I went back to my room. And it's been an hour, so now, I'm back again to hand her back to you..you just WOKE up from sleep hearing my voice!!!!"   That was just how bad it was for me! :( It was like my brain completely stopped working or something! But thankfully, it has gotten better!

post #16 of 18

I never expected such a big baby. I never expected nursing to go so smoothly this time. And DS2 is only about 4 lbs lighter than his older brother while still being EBF.

 

I also didn't expect to be so moved at watching the boys develop a strong love and friendship bond, but there are times when watching them together has me on the verge of tears.

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For me the worst was lack of sleep. I just didn't expect that. It's like no one told me this was coming. And, I don't do well at all if I'm sleep deprived. Also, didn't expect to have a baby who would cry, cry and then cry some more till she couldn't cry any more since all her energy was gone and would finally close her eyes. But then again God forbids if I put her on bed...she would be back with full force! It was the MOST frustrating time of my life, first couple of months post birth!

 

I think, I hit the worst when one day my sis came to my room to give Eliana back to me and I was telling her how I needed to sleep caz well, I was sooo sleepy. She told me, "but you just slept!" I was like ummm no, I didn't! I went on to argue with her how I didn't sleep and then she tells me, "yes, I came to your room to give Eliana, but then I saw you sleeping so I went back to my room. And it's been an hour, so now, I'm back again to hand her back to you..you just WOKE up from sleep hearing my voice!!!!"   That was just how bad it was for me! :( It was like my brain completely stopped working or something! But thankfully, it has gotten better!


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I never expected such a big baby. I never expected nursing to go so smoothly this time. And DS2 is only about 4 lbs lighter than his older brother while still being EBF.

 

I also didn't expect to be so moved at watching the boys develop a strong love and friendship bond, but there are times when watching them together has me on the verge of tears.



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I never expected how "easy" it would be to manage 2 kids. I thought I'd be constantly pulling my hair out and chasing DD and juggling DS.  But...it kind of feels normal.  It hasn't felt too crazy, save for a few frazzled moments. 

 

post #18 of 18
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Just because you "just slept" for an hour, does not mean you're not sleepy! I think I'd have to sleep 12 hour nights for a week to feel fully rested. I'm very sorry.

 

I'm glad your boys do so well, Lyn, and that things went so much easier with birthing and feeding DS2 :D Those two should be close for life and that's a wonderful thing.

 

And yay Carrie! That's good to hear!

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