I was hoping I could hear people's thoughts on my situation. My ds will be 4 years old next month and is an only child. He is in his first year of preschool and is the second oldest in his class. The teacher and director of the preschool talked to me today. They feel my son is gifted (no testing, yet), but think he may need a psych evaluation. The teacher feels like my ds "has an on/off switch". He can be really sweet, helpful, and compassionate, but then, all of a sudden, put paint on another child's face or scratch a teacher without any provocation. The teacher feels like he has to shadow him because if he is not occupied or stimulated he could end up doing something destructive. They are concerned about this.
They are also concerned with his gross motor skills. He has always been a little slow with his gross motor skill development and social devl, meeting the milestones at the slower end. His cog and fine motor skills have always been way ahead. He knew the whole alphabet by 20 months, did 100-piece kid's puzzles by himself by 3 years old, etc.
He has never liked loud noises or big groups. These are the only sensory issues I have ever noticed. He is definitely shy, but both my husband and I were, too. The teacher seems to feel that when ds is in a big group or is doing outside play the more destructive behavior comes out. He is just beginning to do more interactive play and is not yet good at initiating play. The teacher tells me he sometimes sits away from the other kids and just watches them play.
When we have one-on-one playdates outside of school he does do some interactive play. Sometimes I see his impulsive behavior at home if I leave him alone for too long, but I am usually interacting with him a lot.
I guess I am wondering if this sounds like a gifted and sensitive child or if it sounds like something else? Clearly there is some impulsive behavior. Why does he have this "on/off switch"? Any ideas?
Thanks in advance for your help!