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post #21 of 26

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Originally Posted by AbigailG View Post

Ive been reading Heart and Hands..lots of info about complications, which is useful,  but the role of the midwife seems to be very hands on. Which is what I'm trying to avoid by having an unassisted birth. I'm wondering what everyone else thinks about these more midwife driven books (also Ina May Gaskins Guide to Childbirth). What did you take away with you after reading these types of birth stories where the midwifes were so central to the delivery?

 

I think I had the same initial reaction to some of these books, some of the rhetoric. Just kinda ignore/think of yourself in the mw's position. The info is still very valuable. I had a cervical lip I had to push over my baby's head. I referenced heart and hands while in labor before doing so. It was invaluable to me. I will keep that book with me for the rest of my life, although the pages are stained now :)

 

A lot of the book is not really too applicable - like forming relationship with clients, birth professional options, etc. But the info about complications, herbs, normal labor progression, etc. I think is great. Same with Ina May's Spiritual Midwifery. I skimmed/didnt care about probably 3/4 of the book, but the other 1/4 is great. Take what YOU need and leave the rest.
 

 

post #22 of 26
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I think I had the same initial reaction to some of these books, some of the rhetoric. Just kinda ignore/think of yourself in the mw's position. The info is still very valuable. I had a cervical lip I had to push over my baby's head. I referenced heart and hands while in labor before doing so. It was invaluable to me. I will keep that book with me for the rest of my life, although the pages are stained now :)

 

A lot of the book is not really too applicable - like forming relationship with clients, birth professional options, etc. But the info about complications, herbs, normal labor progression, etc. I think is great. Same with Ina May's Spiritual Midwifery. I skimmed/didnt care about probably 3/4 of the book, but the other 1/4 is great. Take what YOU need and leave the rest.
 

 


This, exactly is my perspective, and purpose in ordering the book (which should hopefully arrive this week, I'm excited and can't wait!). There's some stuff you can find online, but I'm really looking for more technical info to be better prepared. And I've found that once I know the names of certain "problems" or variations, it's fairly easy to google and find pics to learn from too!

BTW, I totally lol'd about your stained pages. wink1.gif
post #23 of 26
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Yes, I will definitely take some notes on complications. I was just surprised by how hands on the midwives were. Things happened fast in my first birth and nobody really did much other than watch the monitor and tell me when to push. I know my dad, a family doc who delivered 2200 babies in his birthing centers, mostly focused on keeping women comfortable and did not frequently manipulate the baby. He had great outcomes. Probably witnessing so many simple births has led me here today. I think I'll have a better grasp on what I need to know when the time is near.
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Originally Posted by AbigailG View Post

Yes, I will definitely take some notes on complications. I was just surprised by how hands on the midwives were. Things happened fast in my first birth and nobody really did much other than watch the monitor and tell me when to push. I know my dad, a family doc who delivered 2200 babies in his birthing centers, mostly focused on keeping women comfortable and did not frequently manipulate the baby. He had great outcomes. Probably witnessing so many simple births has led me here today. I think I'll have a better grasp on what I need to know when the time is near.


Wow, that's awesome about your dad. If you own the books, I would just mark info you think maybe important, so when you want to revisit it/time gets nearer, it's easy to find. If they are on loan, maybe make some photocopies of important sections? I made a lot of lists/cheatsheets, but I needed to do that for my peace of mind personally. There seem to be soo many different styles and philosophies within midwifery, I guess at least in ucing, you more or less know what you are going to get! 

 

post #25 of 26

I am expecting this summer too (end June/July-ish) and am hoping to UC. I've been UP so far and am waiting for my husband to decide if he feels he really needs a mw at our birth.

 

I have been reading Heart and Hands and going over all complication scenarios and I also have a copy of Emergency Childbirth on the way.

Just wondering for UC ers in the past how much did you feel you needed to study up on all this stuff? I've been a doula and educated myself on birth for years. My first baby was born at home, w/ a hands off mw, so it was almost a UC.

 

I eat super well and am super healthy.  I don't expect any complications, but I feel that to be responsible I have to have every possible scenario figured out. So I lay awake at night going over what to do in case of cord prolapse, hemorrhage, or slow to breath baby. How much energy should I be putting into this? Part of it is that I want  my husband to trust that I know my stuff and so that if people ask I can say that I was very prepared. How much of it is trusting your intuition to do what is needed in the moment vs. head knowledge?

 

I'm sure everyone is different, but I would just love to hear some thoughts...

post #26 of 26

To be honest, there isn't really a limit to what you should know.  I continue to educate myself, and I'm having my second UC soon (just hit 36 weeks).

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