I'm eating more often and trying to choose protein over carbs when I feel I can stomach it. I think this is helping with my nausea (so far it's not as consistent or severe as last time) but of course part of that may be because I was pregnant before so it's not as big a shock to my system this time.
I'm trying harder to stick to my usual schedule, instead of lounging around until I feel like going to work. Last time I think I may actually have made myself sicker by just not trying! But I am willing to cut myself some slack if I start feeling really bad.
Instead of a midwife-assisted hospital birth, I'm going to a freestanding Midwife Center where I hope to avoid some interventions and annoying policies that really bugged me. Assuming there are no complications that make it unwise, I plan to hold my baby immediately after birth, keep the cord attached until it stops pulsing, leave the vernix on the baby for a while, and go home the same day.
I will have lots of loving cuddle time with my partner while in labor, even if the midwife or nurse acts like we're weird. (We think that one of the reasons my labor stalled after we got to the hospital was that everybody was making us self-conscious about hugging and kissing!)
I will try sitting on an exercise ball during labor.
I will not start pushing until my body tells me to push, unless I am really convinced it's necessary. Last time I was nudged into early pushing which just made me tired by the time I was ready for the REAL pushing!
If I need stitches, I will make sure to get a peri bottle to use at home--much easier than a sitz bath! Last time I forgot to bring it home, and drugstores don't seem to sell them.
I will not let my mother-out-law convince me to eat chicken every night and inadequate fiber. If she is cooking for us, I will insist that my partner prepare high-fiber snacks for me instead of tiptoeing around his mother's feelings. I understand she was trying to make healthy, pleasant meals and doesn't normally cook the way we do, and I did appreciate her help, but I got so constipated I popped out a stitch!
I will speak up and ask family members to bring me things (water, food, extra blanket) or hold the baby while I use the bathroom, instead of quietly suffering wishing someone would come ask if they can get me anything!
I will not listen when my mother tries to pit me against my partner by pointing out everything he is not doing (even though nobody asked him to) and saying men are like that and it's so pathetic and horrible. Instead I will focus on loving him and explaining how he can take care of me.