That is sooo interesting! I didnt realize that either. That is my husband though, he always pays such close attention to details because he HAS to in order to do it right. Things we just take for granted!
My husband is hoping to be a Pastor of a church. He teaches sunday school, preaches at the nursing home we go to on thursdays and preaches at our church on the days when my pastor is gone or sick and sometimes just because lol. He says he is still scared everytime he does it lol. But I dont think you can tell, because he is an over achiever so he is always very very well prepared and studied. He studies A LOT.
Being the special interest of an aspie can be .... challenging. Its kinda crazy really. LIke, I think, I cant imagine someone loving another person as much as my husband loves me. He has this love for me that goes beyond normal love. And I do love it because I am a very insecure person, but at times it is hard. I am a more leave me alone, not wanting to be touched kinda person. But even though I want the attention, at the same time I dont, and as I am sure you know, someone with aspergers needs a CLEAR MESSAGE, not hints or signs. You need to spell it out. I cant hint around, he doesnt get it. It used to upset me before I knew what this was, now its soo much easier to deal with because he cant help it.
With the kids he is pretty good. I would say he has a little less empathy then I do, and maybe expects a little more out of them, but over all he is pretty good. He isnt athletic or into anything really. Before me it was video games, but alas, that has passed :D Although now, if I am just really not wanting to be touched or am gone, he turns to video games to keep his mind occupied until I am there lol.
Your DH sounds a lot like mine when it comes to being an over achiever in public speaking. I think that is so awesome that your DH wants to be a pastor. I can imagine he must be really good at it with the amount of preparation and study and detail he probably puts into preaching. My DH teaches adult classes and is really amazing at it. People just love him because he is so clear and is able to take really huge concepts and make them easy to understand. But the personal side is so draining for him. Because he is so good at it (and no one knows he has aspergers) they flock to him after seminars wanting a lot of one on one attention. This is the most challenging part for him. I would imagine there would be a lot of that as a pastor too. My DH can be wonderful here too, but it takes so much more work for him than it might for someone without AS. He is drained for days afterwards and has little left for me or the family. That is the challenging part. But, now that I understand it better I'm able to give him more space. I used to get really frustrated about it.