DH and I are in total disagreement, and my "pregnancy rage" is back full force....... seriously, it wakes me up at night, the anger and the "how could he not see it the same way without me even mentioning"..... I know, I should know better, and I am sure we will agree on something soon... (I am just half-kidding, it's not that bad, really.... ).
But I am very curious about what other families have in a similar situation-
come September, we will be a family of 5. My 10-year-old is a tall boy, out of a booster. my 7-year-old is in a backless-booster, and then the infant seat. We are in need, anyway, of a new car. I mean, it could have waited two more years, but given that we currently drive a (9-year-old) Toyota Matrix, there is just no way (in MY mind) we can comfortably manage. I should also add that my 10-year-old plays the bass, and it is a BIG instrument, that currently takes the front passenger seat when we need to drive him to his lessons and rehearsals.
We live in a town that goes through 6-months-long cold and snowy winter (Upstate NY), so we need something that does well in the snow (I always wanted an all-wheel-drive, and so far never had one, and, honestly, never had a problem with a good set of snow tires, but still...). So in MY mind, our options are an SUV with an extra row, or a mini-van. my thinking is that I want us/me to be comfortable- driving three kids around, getting baby in and out of the car, plus a potential stroller, and maybe sometimes the huge bass. I get it that a nice station-wagon could do it too, but in MY mind three kids will get very crowded in the back seat with two car-seats.
We haven't started actually LOOKING, as in going to the dealer and trying out cars. My DH believes "all we need" is a nice station-wagon, such as a VW Jetta or Passat (they come in 4-motion, same as AWD). true, these do have large trunks. but still.......
he says "I will not drive a mini-van". yeah, well, do YOU want to sit next to a baby while *I* drive? (DH is 6' 2....:).
my top wishes right now (without having test-driven any, though) is the Toyota Highlander (hybrid or not), or a mini-van. The VW Toureg looks amazing, but it is a different price-range..... unfortunately. Those of you who have a car with an extra row, I heard that sometimes, in some cars, it's not comfortable to actually get to that extra third row. is that true?
so here is my question (sorry it got long...:)- those of you who have three kids already- what do you drive, and how would you rate your car, mostly in terms of space/comfort? gas-mileage also matters to us, but for me it's not on the top of the priority list, as we don't drive much. Who thinks that three-across is totally, comfortably doable, and who swears but an extra-row or a mini-van? could you list pros and cons?
thanks SO MUCH ladies. I am totally wasting way too much energy and nerves on this. I should also add that "how we spend money" is a huge issue between DH and I, and always has been. But in recent years we have totally come towards each other, and it almost became a non-issue. now that I am pregnant, of course, all the "defenses" are off, and it's a huge trigger for me. of course, most of this car-issue is money-based.
I really appreciate all input and opinions.