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Poll Results: Does your everyday silverware match

 
  • 30% (23)
    Always! Down to the sugar spoon
  • 10% (8)
    Mostly but I've had to fill in
  • 19% (15)
    They used to, but then life took over
  • 39% (30)
    Match? What's that?
76 Total Votes  
post #41 of 61
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Originally Posted by Linda on the move View Post

Everything matches here.

 

I don't understand how people lose a lot of flatware. We eat, wash, put away, repeat. No flat wear is allowed to the leave the house EVER. The kids have special fork and spoon for the lunches, and we keep of box of plastic for emergencies, but "I want to yogurt in the car or I will die" moments etc.

 

A few things went missing when they kids were smaller, but that passed by the time they were school aged.

 

Because flatware last for decades for us, I would pay $24 for a spoon. It would drive me crazy and I would whine, but if you are going to enjoy the spoon for 10 years, how many pennies is that per day?

 

 

OK, I just figured it out -- its $0.0065 cents per day if you keep the spoon for 10 years. 

 

If you don't spend the money and instead switch to lower quality, you'll notice it. Every single time you touch a piece of flatware.  May be not right at first, but within a few months. 

 

It's too early in the morning to do the math, figuring out how much my .75-each Oneida forks and spoons have cost me per day.  You are right, they last a long time!  I've had mine for 20 years, and who knows how long they were in use before that.

 

We don't lose flatware (much) but we frequently find stuff years later in the compost when we are spreading it.

post #42 of 61
We have a matching set in a cupboard for special occasions but we tend to use mismatched stuff from the drawer
All of our silverware combined was probably about $24. We buy cheap and have never been bothered by it. I think spoons are like socks, there are always some missing but nobody knows where they went.
post #43 of 61
Thread Starter 

OK, for the curious, the pattern is Oneida Community Stainless  Clarette:

Oneida Clarette.jpg
 

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Originally Posted by AbbyGrant View Post

Have you checked Replacements Ltd?  They're not far from me, and I think they have just about everything, but I'm not sure about their prices.  



Yes and replacements ltd is where they're $24 a spoon!

 


 

Quote:
Originally Posted by Linda on the move View Post

Everything matches here.

 

I don't understand how people lose a lot of flatware. We eat, wash, put away, repeat. No flat wear is allowed to the leave the house EVER. The kids have special fork and spoon for the lunches, and we keep of box of plastic for emergencies, but "I want to yogurt in the car or I will die" moments etc.

 

A few things went missing when they kids were smaller, but that passed by the time they were school aged.

 

Well,my kids are just school aged now. If I knew  where the spoons went, I'd be a happy camper. I suspect one or two went out in the trash. I suspect dh of mangling a few in the disposal and just quietly throwing them away. And the others?? Probably under something somewhere. Or.... in the backyard? They're not supposed to take them out of the house, but I don't actually police the kitchen.

 

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by Linda on the move

 

Because flatware last for decades for us, I would pay $24 for a spoon. It would drive me crazy and I would whine, but if you are going to enjoy the spoon for 10 years, how many pennies is that per day?

 

 

OK, I just figured it out -- its $0.0065 cents per day if you keep the spoon for 10 years. 

 

If you don't spend the money and instead switch to lower quality, you'll notice it. Every single time you touch a piece of flatware.  May be not right at first, but within a few months. 

 

That's a nice way to rationalize it! We've had this set for 20 years. I think they'd last another 20 or 30.

post #44 of 61

A relative of mother's had a set of gold plated flatware. My mom inherited it. When I was a teen I borrowed one of the spoons to help me learn to illustrate gold for a picture I wanted to do. Years and years later my mom moved and gave me all the gold plated stuff since "You like it." NOOOOOO. I should have tossed it then but I tucked it away somewhere. Another dozen years pass and my 6 year old daughter finds it. She just about goes "squeeeeeee". She thinks it is the most beautiful flatware in the whole world and wants to use it at every meal. 

 

Sigh. 

 

So no, my flatware does not match. 

post #45 of 61
Have you looked for other patterns you might like more. They have a bunch of plain ones and some flowery stainless steel spoons. Three spoons in your pattern would pay for a new set, unless you want the fine dining stuff (which looks the same imo) .
post #46 of 61
Thread Starter 

I've looked into new patterns and that's on my mind. I don't like the flowery ones. And even if I get a plain one, they'll still have to be all the same pattern for me to be happy. There are subtle differences that will drive me nuts. There's actually another set made by Oneida that I like a lot and getting 16 place settings would be the same as replacing 6 spoons. But then part of me thinks it's wasteful to get rid of a whole set of perfectly good stainless silverware for wont of 6 spoons. Even if I give it away, I'm still contributing to consumerism by buying a new one. If I had 6 spoons, I'd be happy. What's the environmental cost of a whole new set vs. 6 old spoons? Monetary value? Apparently, it's easier for me to dither and complain about my missing spoons!

post #47 of 61

How about buying your replacement spoons on ebay?

 

It doesn't look like there is much in the way of teaspoons on their right now, but I'm sure if you keep checking you can eventually get all that you need for way less than replacements.com

 

 

post #48 of 61

     Quote:

Originally Posted by LynnS6 View Post

There's actually another set made by Oneida that I like a lot and getting 16 place settings would be the same as replacing 6 spoons. But then part of me thinks it's wasteful to get rid of a whole set of perfectly good stainless silverware for wont of 6 spoons. Even if I give it away, I'm still contributing to consumerism by buying a new one. If I had 6 spoons, I'd be happy. What's the environmental cost of a whole new set vs. 6 old spoons? Monetary value? Apparently, it's easier for me to dither and complain about my missing spoons!

 

Another thing to consider is that most of the less expensive flatware out there now, including Oneida's "casual" patterns, is not the same quality as what you have. It's only 18/0 stainless which I didn't even know existed until recently. I thought it was a typo (18/10 missing the "1").  But apparently the cost of nickel has gone up, so they just leave it out of the less expensive stuff now. This means it's not going to hold up as long as the more costly 18/8 or 18/10 stainless. You'd have to buy an Oneida "fine flatware" set or another brand of 18/10 stainless to get the same quality as what you have which will cost more than replacing your spoons. Also, almost every manufacturer, including Oneida, has off-shored manufacturing which probably hasn't improved quality.

 

I think your pattern is really pretty. If it were mine, I would hold out for the spoons. Also, maybe you could get some some cheap spoons for your kids to use, particularly outside. I have a cute little mismatched bunch of vintage spoons and forks that I picked up at the thrift store for 25 cents each to use out of the house.

 

post #49 of 61

No, I wish I could have all nice matching silverware as that would be pretty nice.  However, other things seem to come before the silverware quality and matching in the budget for us.

post #50 of 61

Matching silverware? headscratch.gif

post #51 of 61
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Originally Posted by IxIa View Post

Matching silverware? headscratch.gif

For some reason I was just reminded about my aversion to "matchiness".  When my hair was longer and I braided it in two braids I always put in different color hair bands.  My girls would ask why I didn't wear matching ones, and the best I could answer (with a smile) "What would people think??!!"

 

Same with the table.  What would people think?

 

I think I have some issues that need dealing with here....... orngtongue.gif
 

 

post #52 of 61

Our 'every day' stainless silverware is all one set and it would drive me BATTY to have mis-matched pieces.  So, yup, down to the sugar spoon.  At MIL's house, it's all mis-matched and it drives me nuts.  Every Christmas, I ask DH if we can just get her a nice, inexpensive but MATCHING set.

 

My silver silverware is different.  Some of it is very old from both sides of my family and I keep it for sentimental reasons (there's a great family story of when the family lived in Maryland during the Civil War and they buried the silver in the back yard during the raid of Jubal Early...dug it back up again the next day as the raid didn't make it as far as their house. Then they sensibly moved back up to New England).  Most of it, however, matches in sets.  So, 16 matching dinner forks, 20 matching knives, 6 matching fish knives, 8 matching oyster forks, 10 soup spoons...that kind of thing.  I kind of like the mis-matching fancy stuff.  It goes with my collection of mismatched but complimentary antique plates that I've been collecting forever.

 

So, yeah, glaring double-standard!  The stainless stuff just kind of looks ratty to me if it's not matching, but beautifully polished silver seems OK.  No idea why.

post #53 of 61


 

Quote:
Originally Posted by MammaG View Post

Our 'every day' stainless silverware is all one set and it would drive me BATTY to have mis-matched pieces. So, yup, down to the sugar spoon. At MIL's house, it's all mis-matched and it drives me nuts. Every Christmas, I ask DH if we can just get her a nice, inexpensive but MATCHING set.

 


 

Sigh.....we did this for my grandmother.  She put the box in the cupboard and continued to use to old crap because the new was "too nice."

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by MammaG View Post

So, yeah, glaring double-standard! The stainless stuff just kind of looks ratty to me if it's not matching, but beautifully polished silver seems OK. No idea why.


I can't explain it either but I completely agree with you.  Not only OK, but somehow even more charming that matchy-matchy.



 
post #54 of 61

all of my silverware matches, but only because I just bought a bunch of the cheapest utensils because I moved in to my first apartment this month.  To be honest, "matchy" bothers me.  It makes me uncomfortable that all the cups and plates and bowls are alllll the same.  I'm not sure why.  I want to go to the thrift next weekend and buy a few items to throw off the monotony in my cupboards :)

post #55 of 61

You are not nuts! Or at least if you are, I am nuts also. I spent a crazy amount of time going from store to store to feel the silverware in my hands before I chose what to put on my wedding registry. My bridesmaids thought I was nuts (at least the couple I dragged along with me thought I was), but it was worth it. I LOVE my silverware set! It's modern, elegant, and the perfect weight. LOVE! I am also saving pennies to get the iced tea spoons (ooh la la) and was so disappointed when I realized that the company didn't make matching baby/toddler spoons. My grandmother's set had matching baby spoons and I always thought that was special.

post #56 of 61

I inherited a set of real siver and I gotta say, it really is better. They are like fine instruments, and I love the patterns. Not everything matches and I just love all the intricate variety. If it's beautiful, then it matches my set!

post #57 of 61
My husband and I inherited sterling pieces and then bought a vintage set on eBay (also put am eBay listing our our registry).It's fun to mix. Sterling is expensive to start with, but will last forever and you can pass it on (or sell it for not much less than you paid -- try that with stainless). There are dozens of teaspoons on eBay for well under $24.

If you use it everyday, it doesn't need polishing and it makes every meal a special occasion. We put it in the dishwasher.

Actually the set we bought together when we married was monogrammed "P" and we joked about our instant ancestors -- we gave our son a named beginning with "P"!
post #58 of 61

I have all matching silverware, except for serving spoons.  But the stuff on the table must match!  I remember when I found my Oneida flatware at Kohls about 6 years ago and I just had to have it!  I still love it, though if I was missing spoons/forks/whatever, I don't think I'd pay $24/spoon just to keep the set.  Rather, I would go out and find a new set that I loved and spend the $60-100 on a new complete set.

post #59 of 61

Alas I have Damask Rose sterling for the Lenox china that as a sixteen year old I chose as my pattern.  Also have tableware that is intentionally mismatched, because I like the shabby chic look which works well with the Fiestaware we have in five different colours.   French drinking glasses from Pier One Imports for the Fiestaware.

 

Like others, all our house plants are in matching white pots. Bear in mind we live in mountain cottage so this style works well for us .   It's a California and French thing with us (smiling). 

 

Would NEVER ever demean someone who either doesn't want or cannot afford matching tableware.

post #60 of 61

Stainless steel flatware that is 18/10 stainless is better at retaining its shininess. 18 refers to 18% chromium content, and the other number refers to the percentage of nickel content. There is no difference between 18/8 and 18/10. It's purely marketing. 18/0 however, has no nickel content, which means it won't keep its silver-like shine over the years. So try an buy the 18/10 stainless which I have seen in various patterns on Amazon, eBay etc.  It's why you may marvel at the beautiful stainless some restaurants have that is always so shiny and nice.

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