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post #41 of 103

Hi I'm Mary & have 3 boys...my 2nd pregnancy ended in a messy m/c. We discovered the loss at 13 weeks 5 days during a scan. It was devastating to us. We waited almost 2 weeks for my body to process the loss, but instead of the pregnancy ending, my uterus continued to grow. It had no idea the baby had passed weeks before. I had 5 scans done during this time and had a choice of a D&C or induction. I chose induction with Cytotec. Which failed miserably. I went in at 16 weeks 5 days for a manual extraction of the "remaining tissue".

 

My next pregnancy was smooth and the birth was an amazing homebirth. My fourth pregnancy was smooth also with a crappy birth experience. I'm hoping this little one is just fine and I will be getting a scan done within the next few weeks to ease my mind. It was a huge surprise to us knowing that we had lost the baby & it was never dectected...I really like the early u/s scans for this reason.

 

 

post #42 of 103

I hope your ultrasound goes SMOOTHLY this time with a wonderful result.  I'm so sorry for your loss and everything you went through. (((HUGS)))

post #43 of 103
I had an ultrasound today- very happy to see a heartbeat and that everything seems to be normal. According to my calculations (based on lmp and ovulation date) I should be 7w2d, but they measured the baby to be 6w6d. Of course she's now basing my due date on that and saying that my "changeover day" is now wednesday instead of sunday- which thoroughly annoys me. I feel like I've already been pregnant for 5 months and I don't want to go back to being 6 weeks! Anybody else have this experience? Is it in fact normal to have the baby measure 3 or 4 days smaller than what you know it should be?
post #44 of 103
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Originally Posted by kateaton View Post

I had an ultrasound today- very happy to see a heartbeat and that everything seems to be normal. According to my calculations (based on lmp and ovulation date) I should be 7w2d, but they measured the baby to be 6w6d. Of course she's now basing my due date on that and saying that my "changeover day" is now wednesday instead of sunday- which thoroughly annoys me. I feel like I've already been pregnant for 5 months and I don't want to go back to being 6 weeks! Anybody else have this experience? Is it in fact normal to have the baby measure 3 or 4 days smaller than what you know it should be?



Actually, the OB's in our area won't change an EDD if the dates are less than 6 days apart. They figure that it close enough. 3 or 4 days smaller is fine...now if it were 3-4 weeks, totally different story.

Glad your u/s was a happy one.

 

 

post #45 of 103

That is annoying!  I changed providers with my second because the OB insisted on changing my due date from 6/1 back to 5/24 because an u/s late in the first trimester had the baby measuring big.  I argued with him because I knew when I ovulated since I was charting.  He spoke very condescendingly to me and dh said we're leaving.  As it turned out, dd#2 was born via induction on 6/15!  

post #46 of 103

I got to see our little one this morning!  So exciting seeing that little heart thumping away at just 6w2d stillheart.gif  Everything looked great, it was really awesome.  I have never had such an early u/s.  The tech was great explaining everything to me.

 

I am now over a big hump.  Seeing this baby and feeling pretty crappy most of the time has me just trying to survive the day physically and dreaming about November.  Right now there is thankfully no room in my mind for excessive miscarriage worry.  That said, I still won't look when I use the bathroom.  I just don't need to obsess over that and I know if I looked I would.

 

I hope everyone is settling in and starting to dream about their little ones grouphug.gif

post #47 of 103

Oh how exciting that you got to see your little one! :D  I was soo soo happy at our ultrasound appointment, getting to see that little heartbeat going thump-thump-thump. :)  It eased my mind so much!   Now if only I could see that every day!  I'm with you on still not wanting to look when you go to the restroom - but I do... I still look.  I wish I had the strength not to!

 

Today marks 8 weeks for me... I made it past my 2nd miscarriage milestone, so I am beyond thrilled.  One more to go, at 12 weeks... 

post #48 of 103

It's so great to join this group! It is a relief to read other people's stories.

 

A little about me. I'm going to be 41 in a few weeks. I've always wanted to have a family but couldn't ever quite go through with doing it on my own. I'm so happy that I met and married my soulmate last year and we're on our way to starting a family. I was pregnant last fall and had a miscarriage last October (10 weeks but baby stopped growing at 7 1/2). I found out last week that I'm pregnant again and I'm so cautiously excited, but am having a lot of anxiety about miscarrying again. I had labs done yesterday and will repeat on Monday to see if the hcg and progesterone are going up. The first results look good so far. I was thinking I'd try to wait until 8 weeks to get an ultrasound (around when the other stopped growing), but now I'm thinking maybe I'll do it in a week or two, when we can see the hearbeat.

 

I'm due 11/28.

 

 

 

post #49 of 103

 Hello Lulubike,

I can completely relate to you. I am 33, and had two misscarriages last year both at 7.5 weeks i never heard a heart beat (Agust 2011, and Dec 2011) I am pregnant now, and completely terrified that it will happpen again. My first apt is on 4/10, the only thing that doctor recommended  i do differently this time is take a baby aspirin and a progesterone pill daily. I am also very athletic, so i completely stopped doing all the high impact works outs, the most i do is  walking.  Hope all of us on here, carry full term and give birth to healthy babies! :)  

post #50 of 103

DS2 was my rainbow baby after a chemical and then a m/c at 10w. It's so hard to trust, even now, that I'll have a baby at the end of this. Hoping for all of you that your rainbow babies are born healthy and full term.

post #51 of 103

Ugh, I have been a basket of nerves since last night.  I had been feeling awful since last Thursday and yesterday afternoon I started to feel better.  I am up at 4AM because I am nervous about not being nauseous dizzy.gif  Ugh, I would give anything right now to have that "comforting" nausea.  I don't think I would be quite as nervous if I didn't have cramping last night.  I know cramping is totally normal in pregnancy, but it just makes me nervous.  I was doing so well relaxing about this pregnancy especially after seeing the heartbeat last Wednesday.  I am just praying for a return of that nausea....

post #52 of 103

Therese's Mommy- I so feel for you.  I've had a few days here and there where the nausea has let up, and I was a nervous wreck too.  It has usually come back within 24 hours, and hopefully it will for you too.  The cramping is actually a good sign.  When I had a miscarriage last time- the nausea went away, but I had NO cramps- b/c my uterus stopped stretching.  I can't remember your miscarriage history, but if it doesn't return today, can you call your m/w or dr. and let her know your concerns.  I think I would do that.  I'm sure she would understand your apprehension.  If you google it, you will find that it is completely normal for many women to experience a coming and going of symptoms throughout the first trimester.  I've googled this extensively every time my nausea seemed to fade.  It was really comforting.  Best wishes.

post #53 of 103

This happened to me last week Therese's Mommy.  My nausea went away for like 2-3 days, and I felt really good, aside from a little bit of soreness/cramping.  We had seen the heartbeat too, so I kept trying to tell myself it was ok, but I was scared STIFF.  On the third day, before my nausea came back I realized I'd been complaining about my BB's still hurting, and I kinda had a "duh" moment for me, where I was like "Oh yeah... morning sickness isn't the only thing."  Are you having any other symptoms?  Maybe google pregnancy symptoms and see if there's anything on the list you're feeling.  Hopefully that would help you ease your mind a bit.  I also agree with asking if you can come in to see your midwife to make sure everything is just as wonderful as it was at your last appointment, because you are feeling unsettled with the nausea gone.  Getting in there to see your midwife would probably help to ease your mind a lot.  (((HUGS)))

post #54 of 103

Thanks for the replies.  I was famished to the point of nausea an hour before I would usually eat lunch, so that is a good sign for me.  Also, my food aversions have continued today (I have no desire to eat chocolate and for me that is equivalent to saying I have no desire to breathe).  I was a little tired this morning, but just chalked that up to being up two hours in the middle of the night worrying.  Now, I am much more tired and really wish I could nap.  So, I am starting to calm down some.  Poor dh, he puts up with all my worry and my lack of attention to him.  His response to the neglect and my freaky worry is to be so kind and gentle to me.  Thank God for him!

 

Also, I do agree with the cramping in a way.  With my first miscarriage I had no cramping AT ALL, none.  With my second I had some cramping just before my BFP, then it stopped and a couple days later I started bleeding.  Both of my miscarriages were right around 4 weeks, so at 7 weeks I am way past that milestone, thankfully.

 

Thank you so much to whomever started this thread and to all that have contributed.  It is so nice to have somewhere to come where women understand and where I can get this stuff off my chest grouphug.gif

post #55 of 103

I have an u/s appointment for the 17th...my goodness that seems so far away. I just pray my worries away during the day--trying to give thanks for every little symptom I am experiencing as a blessing & sign to know this baby is alright.

post #56 of 103

Hey everyone, super good news here! After I posted last week, I stopped feeling nauseous and then on Friday my boobs stopped hurting. I totally freaked out and was convinced that a miscarriage was imminent all weekend. I had my repeat hcg and progesterone test yesterday and the results are great. My hcg went from 1832 to 11901 (5 weeks and then 5 weeks 5 days) and progesterone 14.8 to 15.7. I might need to go on progesterone, we'll see. I am old (41 next weekend). But it is so reassuring to see that big jump in hcg!

 

I think I'll see about getting an ultrasound next week. Maybe one reassuring test each week, will keep me sane?

 

It is interesting that today a feel a little nauseous again and my boobs started getting a little sore again on Monday. But I was without nausea for 4-5 days!

 

This forum is great support for me.

post #57 of 103
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Originally Posted by lulubikes View Post

Hey everyone, super good news here! . I am old (41 next weekend).

 

It is interesting that today a feel a little nauseous again and my boobs started getting a little sore again on Monday. But I was without nausea for 4-5 days!

 

This forum is great support for me.



I turned 41 this past December...no worries on the age thing here at all. I know I am in better health than some of my younger mama friends.  My nausea comes and goes on a daily basis. It doesn't come at the same time, so when it hits, I'm always thrown off guard. This is also the first pregnancy I've had it--I am doing my best to consider it a blessing and be thankful for it.

 

post #58 of 103
Hi. I've been away from all forms of social media for weeks while I get on top of my studies but I thought I'd pop in and say that at 7wks4days, I saw a delightful little heartbeat. The babe was measuring at our exact dates which is also reassuring. That put us at more than a week past my miscarriage and yesterday, at 9 weeks, I passed the time when we discovered that the babe had died. Of course, my nausea has been all consuming for about 2 weeks which is a great sign, but any time that it eases off I freak right out. I keep doing silly things like drinking a glass of water straight (which I cannot stomach unless it has some lemon juice) or eating chocolate to induce the nausea and reduce my stress but honestly, it just makes me stressed and miserable in other ways.

I'm glad to see that lots of us are seeing heartbeats and getting some reassurance. My fingers are crossed for everyone.
post #59 of 103
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Originally Posted by MujerMamaMismo View Post

That put us at more than a week past my miscarriage and yesterday, at 9 weeks, I passed the time when we discovered that the babe had died. Of course, my nausea has been all consuming for about 2 weeks which is a great sign, but any time that it eases off I freak right out. I keep doing silly things like drinking a glass of water straight (which I cannot stomach unless it has some lemon juice) or eating chocolate to induce the nausea and reduce my stress but honestly, it just makes me stressed and miserable in other ways.


My DH keeps threatening to do things like this. eyesroll.gif  He doesn't feel comfortable when I'm not gagging, apparently.

 

Congratulations on passing your miscarriage dates! This past Thursday was my last m/c date, so we're past all of ours, too. And a week from today is my first appointment, so hopefully we'll be able to hear a hb then, too!

post #60 of 103

I am so happy to hear that so many of you have passed your miscarriage milestones.  I've passed two of mine, and I know what a relief it has been each time one of them has come and gone.  I still have one more. That date will be on the 26th of this month, and it can't come fast enough so it can just be over.  By this time next month I am hoping to have a little more confidence.  I'll be 14 weeks about then.  I know anything can happen, but by then, hopefully the chance of miscarriage will have dropped significantly, and I can relax (maybe even get an ultrasound to confirm everything looks good not too far out from there). 

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