My DD is almost 14m and still BFing 4-7 times per day. A few weeks ago I was away for 5 days for work and with the pump I got about 21 oz per day on average. I've been pretty sick (cold, stomach flu, cold #2) for the last three weeks, plus I ovulated, so my supply has dropped a little bit, but I think that it is coming back now, although I haven't measured it by pumping.
My MIL, who watches DD during the day while I'm at work, keeps pressuring me to give DD fluids other than BM. I do already do that somewhat - she has a sippy cup with water in it that she can drink from at any time (she doesn't seem all that interested in it except to take a few sips every now and then, but maybe she just doesn't like water, or doesn't like sippy cups), and if she has already emptied my breasts and is still asking for more milk, I will give her some soy, coconut, or organic cows milk in a bottle (we're going to try to transition to a straw cup with that over the next few weeks). But I don't offer her other fluids unless she asks for it (she can sign "milk" and often does when she is thirsty/tired, etc).
MIL says that she gives her about 12-15 additional oz of soy or cow's milk during the days she is watching her and insists that I need to give her more fluids. She says, for example, that DD was really cranky after she got her this morning, and that she immediately drank up 7 oz of milk when she gave it to her after they came in from playing outside. DD was very happy and nursed several times before I dropped her off, and wasn't asking for additional milk at that time. She says that DD's poops are "very dry" on days after she has spent all day with me. I haven't noticed any difference - sometimes her poops are more or less solid, but they always look fine to me, and she is definitely wetting diapers regularly, although I haven't counted the number of hours specifically between wet ones.
I'm not opposed to offering DD additional fluids, but I also don't like getting all of this pressure to feed DD a bunch of other milks that are not BM. What do you guys do - do you offer non-BM fluids regularly, or only when the kiddo specifically asks?
If you do offer without waiting for the kiddo to ask, how do you decide how much to give when? (I think DD will basically always drink a bottle, whether she is thirsty or not... :))
And any tips on how to respond to concerns that a nursing toddler is getting dehydrated? (I feel like there is this implied criticism of BFing - as though by continuing to BF DD I'm somehow dehydrating her, and that makes me feel defensive, which I know isn't helpful...)
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