So, parents, what is your advice? I can't afford private school (and DD's father would have to agree, which he wouldn't) and the state is looking at removing PK and K from the curriculum. Should I home school DD when it gets to that point. She will only be 3 in June, so she will be a late schooler, anyway, but here is the problem:
DD's half sister was already tested and they wanted to move the child up two years ahead. DD's dad won't let them move her half-sister, so I am really sensing problems ahead for us, since DD is already well ahead of the game. She is already identifying capitals and lower case letters and tracing them just for fun. She is reading some, already, but not much. Dd's receptive and expressive language skills are unbelievable--to the point where I can't even grasp how advanced they are and I have a Masters in Literacy.
Dd is learning how to add and can identify most of her numbers up to around 50. She's counting backwards from (who knows why this number LOL but) 46, but only upwards of around 25. She is showing left-handed and -sided strength/preference, though, like normal, she is still using both hands when one tires.
Her social skills are advancing very well, too. She leads and teaches much of the time and follows, where appropriate, when she is trying to learn something from another child or trying to assess a situation. The only trouble we have is with potty training. Ever since her nightmares where she told me her Dad is "out there" and "gonna get [her]" she refuses to have a BM on the potty and told me, "Momma, I prefer to peepee on the potty and poopy in my pants." This is really only one of two areas with which I am concerned.
Her gross motor, that had a 2% delay at 10 months, is now caught up and tuahen some, after doing swimming, and now gymnastics. She is throwing and catching balls, jumping in place and off of objects, beginning to ride a 2-wheel bike, and wanted to, and is starting to, learn to roller-skate.
The other area with which I am concerned is still her emotions. She DOES know/recognize them, but even with the language skills she has, she has a huge issue reacting appropriately when her emotions come into play. This probably has to do with our custody situations, as well, so we've been seeing a therapist, who suggests playdough work and blowing BIG bubbles, so she has to take in a deep breath and blow out slowly. Any other suggestions for this? I know this is so normal at her age, but it's the lack of progress--in fact the back-tracking--that is kind of worrisome.
I am just worried that with all the changes they are making to the school system, with her personality, she is going to have a really rough time once school starts, if she gets frustrated, especially. She refuses to do things that are easy for her more than once or twice before she tunes out and gets annoyed. My guess is, that between the lack of Kindergarten that is likely to come by the time she hits school age, she will not understand the social norms involved in attending school and between that and the fact that Dad will not be on board for challenging her within her educational career, things are going to be really rough, at least for awhile. The good thing is, she is a very quick learner. The bad thing is that she gets so easily bored and tunes out.
So, any suggestions on how to prepare a gifted child for the expectations that she will have to meet at school and how to handle the frustration and tuning out? I know I can provide her at home with more challenging material but her personality is already established as (as her gymnastics instructor put it), "She is the type of child who will walk into the classroom, find her desk, and put it where SHE wants it to be."