I thought this was an interesting artlcle that exactly describes the debate between dh and I. Our kids are 11 and 8 and perfectly capable of contributing more to household duties and things they need in their own lives. My 11 year old can cook simple meals and enjoys experimenting with ingredients. I also ask her to do her own laundry. I ask both of them to make their own lunches for school with guidelines for including certain food groups. Lots of other examples.
My dh thinks I'm being hard on them to expect them to do more. He also finds it tedious to supervise them and would rather just do it himself because it's easier and faster and he has to clean up more mess or ask them to. Most evenings he literally spends a half an hour cleaning up the dinner mess and dishes while they are lounging around or fighting over whose turn it is to use the computer. For him doing it for them equal love. It is part of his culture where he grew up. For me, teaching them life skills and confidenence equals love. I compare them to kids in other countries or even kids in the US whose parents own a farm or business, and how the kids help out a lot more at earlier ages. Im not talking child labor, just contributing.
I work nights and sleep during the day if it's a work night. The kids actually enjoy when I sleep and they have to do things on their own including completing a chore list and making lunch for themselves. They usually make sure the house is really nice and clean when I wake up and are proud to show me. (the flip side is if they don't at least do minimal chores they lose computer)
What are your thoughts and how do you strike a balance in your house? Especially, how did you transition from APing a baby/toddler and then stepping back so your child can learn life skills and the pride of doing it themselves?