I did, still do, a lot of parenting in opposition to the way my parents did. But I can acknowledge and be very grateful for the efforts they made to do better than their own parents. My mom was #5 of 9 kids, was the second mom to her younger siblings. She had way too much responsibility dumped on her. Her dad was an alcoholic and got mean sometimes, liked to beat up his sons. Mom married a man who could never in a million years beat up his kids. They made time for us individually and as a family.