My 7 year old is in a class at public school with a new boy who has always been physically aggressive. In the fall, he was tripping my daughter, pulling off her shoes, throwing pencils. My dd is a focused, sensitive child and didn't say anything to anyone, but when she told us, she was very upset. We spoke to the teacher, who was unaware that she specifically was having issues with him, and moved them apart in seating. As far as I know, she is not being bothered personally by him. We kept telling her he was adjusting to a new school/town and that he would get better.
We're now over half way through the year, and this boy's physical attacks are continuing. My daughter said that on Friday, when there was a sub, he hit a classmate so hard on the side of the head that she had to get an icepack. There have been other physical fights in the classroom. My daughter was so upset about that and that the whole class got a talking to from the principal ... she was weeping and saying she didn't want to return.
My question is: what are reasonable expectations in this situation? Is this chronic, physical aggression allowed ? When do schools blow the whistle and say this child needs to be in a special classroom?
I think a certain amount of physical roughness happens at this age. Kids get angry, and can't really help themselves and it gets physical. I don't think that means a child should be taken out. But this feels different -- and this boy has been a major disruption to the entire class in so many ways for the entire year. This class is apparently the talk of the school for being the most out of control -- and this boy is, I am guessing, the epicenter.
We've set up a meeting w/the principal really to clarify what the school rules are on this and what measures would hypothetically be taken.
As an aside, I don't know much about the boy beyond personal observation -- he seems to crave attention but to have a very unhappy mean streak. His family seems to be trying but to all be very depressed. But these are all just very vague impressions. I don't see meanness/roughness in public from them -- you know, the classic yelling at the kid thing or nastiness. Just deeply depressed. :(
Thanks for any ideas/experience
Edited by Subhuti - 3/20/12 at 5:37am