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Don't let this happen to you!

post #1 of 16
Thread Starter 

Some of you may remember that on Monday I posted an "I'm out" thread. Well I started red bleeding on Monday morning and went to the doctor. They did an ultrasound and told me that I was miscarrying and that I should take Cytotec to help complete the process. Well I took the meds Monday afternoon and waited for the process to complete but instead the bleeding stopped. I went back to the doc today and it turns out there were twins and I only lost one. The other looks fine. Now for the really bad part, Cytotec causes SEVERE birth defects! I go back to the doc in a week and have to decide if I want to terminate now, go through a battery of fetal tests that won't be complete until 16 weeks and make a decision as to terminate or not based on the test results, or just go with whatever happens. An early termination is the safest procedure for me so my husband and I are leaning heavily toward that. We already have 5 children one of which is special needs and we do not have the resources to support another special needs child, not to mention the lack of quality of life available to a child with the kind of birth defects caused by Cytotec. I'm pretty much just shocked by the whole thing and haven't begun to emotionally process. My doc looked mortified and seemed really upset that he had prescribed the Cytotec to me and that there was still a living embryo. He didn't even realize it caused birth defects until I asked him to look it up upon seeing a heartbeat. UGH!!!! bawling.gif

post #2 of 16

Oh my! That is absolutely horrible! I am so, so sorry you and your husband are going through this. Please keep us updated and let us know if you need anything. You will be in my thoughts. Big hugs to you mama.

post #3 of 16

I'm so sorry, pattimomma! That is awful :( They didn't see the other twin in the u/s on Monday?!

post #4 of 16
Oh my gosh!!! I cannot even imagine how difficult this must be! You and your family are in my thoughts.
post #5 of 16

OMG.  I am SO sorry.  This is absolutely horrible and downright criminal.  How careless of your doctor.

 

I hope whatever decision you make brings you some peace.  My thoughts are with you and your family right now.

post #6 of 16

I am so sorry! no on should ever have to go through that. Sending you lots of virtual hugs!!

post #7 of 16

OMG I am so sorry you are in this situation.  How shocking and utterly upsetting.  

post #8 of 16

This is awful, I'm so sorry to hear it and I hope you and your husband are able to do what's best for you given your less-than-ideal choices :( *hugs* Thank you for choosing to share this story with us. You may have saved someone else from having the same experience.

post #9 of 16

Oh Pattimomma I am so sorry for you and your family.  What a heartbreaking thing to have to go through.  Your in my thoughts and prayers.

post #10 of 16

Patti - I'm so so sorry. That is truly horrifying. Sending you prayers and hugs.

post #11 of 16
I'm so sorry! What an absolutely terrible and unfair position to be in. I wish you and your husband peace with whatever decision is right for you. I'll be thinking about you and wishing you the best.
post #12 of 16

How horrible! I'm so sorry you and your family are having to go through this.

post #13 of 16

Oh dear, I am so sorry.  I wish I could give you a hug in person.  What an incredible emotional turn for you.  Please take care of yourself and lots of love and support as you make such a difficult decision.  

andrea

post #14 of 16

I'm sorry this happened to you. How much cytotec did you take? Is there any correlation between dosage amount and likelihood of defects? 

post #15 of 16
I'm so sorry. What a terrible decision to be forced to make.
post #16 of 16
Thread Starter 

Thanks for all the support ladies. It's very weird being pregnant and so unsure about the future. If you are interested more details about the situation can be found on the pregnancy and birth loss board http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1347990/dont-let-this-happen-to-you my last post on that thread is pretty long.

 

Babycatcher - I took a total of 800mcg over 4 hours at 5 weeks 4 days pregnant. I go to the doc again on Thursday (I'll be 7 weeks). My husband and I are still favoring termination and TTC in August. There is so much mixed information about the rate at which birth defects occur. Some of the published peer reviewed scientific papers I read showed an odds ratio of 95% for birth defects yet other people are telling me things like it's only a 1% chance. 

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