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post #1 of 15
Thread Starter 

So, Charlie is 7 months old today! I like to read the "what to expect" things when he gets a new month. This months, though, has got me stuck. One of the "Intellectual" milestones is:

  • Your baby will start to test your authority

 

What on earth? I'm not able to figure that one out. Up until this month, they've been reminding us that our babies have no idea what we're doing so saying "no" is futile. Are they suddenly understanding it and thus able to be bad?

 

Where do you go for your info? I'm thinking I need a new place.

post #2 of 15

This is all I can think of!
 


Where do you go for your info? I'm thinking I need a new place.


Here, mainly. But also I like Dr. Sear's The Baby Book, although at this point, I don't really find the need to refer to anything unless it's sickness/medical related.

 

post #3 of 15
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Originally Posted by cat13 View Post

This is all I can think of!
 

 

hee hee! exactly what i thought of.

 

i have the sears baby book as well and i like it, but i do wish it was more detailed for all the stages.
 

 

post #4 of 15
They know what they're talking about. I swear to god, last week DD decided that she would not be put down unless you were providing constant attention. She's never been the greatest floor baby, but even as her first two teeth were coming in, I could still put her down for 5 minutes here and there to change over laundry or unload dishes. It's really as though she just woke up one morning suddenly aware that she would no longer play second fiddle to anything.

I never put any stock into the "What To Expect..." books, but, by golly, they may be on to something.

Also, my house is a disaster because little miss testy pants has me at her beck and call every d@mned minute of the day. Sigh.
post #5 of 15
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Originally Posted by Italiamom View Post

They know what they're talking about. I swear to god, last week DD decided that she would not be put down unless you were providing constant attention. She's never been the greatest floor baby, but even as her first two teeth were coming in, I could still put her down for 5 minutes here and there to change over laundry or unload dishes. It's really as though she just woke up one morning suddenly aware that she would no longer play second fiddle to anything.
I never put any stock into the "What To Expect..." books, but, by golly, they may be on to something.
Also, my house is a disaster because little miss testy pants has me at her beck and call every d@mned minute of the day. Sigh.

 

No second fiddle in this house either. It has been a bit of a shock as DS1 is happy to be ignored for the most part. He has been happy to just play by himself for short periods of time since he was tiny. DS2 wants constant attention and stimulation from EVERYBODY in the room. I can only get stuff done while he is sleeping. I sometimes think his head is going to spin off from all the twisting and turning he does when other people are around, not to mention how difficult he has become to feed when he insists on turning around to engage Daddy or his big brother while nursing and demanding my full attention at the same time. When DH is home I have to go to another room to nurse because of how bad it is. It came on suddenly just over a week ago. I would swear under oath that he just woke up one day and decided that he was going to try and control the world around him. (And he only turned 6 months on the 7th, so I'm also not liking him doing this stuff earlier than average either.)
 

 

post #6 of 15
Thread Starter 

Interesting! Charlie doesn't do that unless he's having a rough day.

 

 

 

Thank you!

 

 

 

and thanks for getting south park voices in my head! =P

post #7 of 15
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Originally Posted by Lynann View Post

 

No second fiddle in this house either. It has been a bit of a shock as DS1 is happy to be ignored for the most part. He has been happy to just play by himself for short periods of time since he was tiny. DS2 wants constant attention and stimulation from EVERYBODY in the room. I can only get stuff done while he is sleeping. I sometimes think his head is going to spin off from all the twisting and turning he does when other people are around, not to mention how difficult he has become to feed when he insists on turning around to engage Daddy or his big brother while nursing and demanding my full attention at the same time. When DH is home I have to go to another room to nurse because of how bad it is. It came on suddenly just over a week ago. I would swear under oath that he just woke up one day and decided that he was going to try and control the world around him. (And he only turned 6 months on the 7th, so I'm also not liking him doing this stuff earlier than average either.)
 

 


I have to do this too, or at the very least I have to tell DH not to talk. It drives him crazy because I continue to talk to him and ask him questions. lol.gif

 

But DH understands. When he's home with DS during the day, he often has to stand facing a plain white wall silently while he bottle feeds him.

 

post #8 of 15

We have everything you guys have here too, but I feel like she's been like this for forever!  If I try to put her down to do anything she follows me around and yanks and pulls herself up on my legs (usually pulling my pants down in the process).  Sounds cute, but driving me insane.  We've had a terrible week, she has had diarrhea all week and barely sleeping at night, in a moment of desperation we were at the store and she was in her stroller complaining and complaining, I got down to her eye level and said "no".  She stopped complaining, stared at me for a second, and started laughing.  Then I started laughing at my ridiculousness of trying to treat her like a toddler. 

 

I agree with the Dr. Sears books being sort of vague with the milestones, although maybe that's for a reason so us mamas don't go crazy over them.  I do go back and forth between the Dr. Sear's book and What To Expect, then I decide which milestones I think are relevant. 

post #9 of 15
Thread Starter 

Wow :) I think that all starts more when they're able to follow you around instead of with age. Charlie can't, so he's mostly agreeable.  He's starting to move about and has been fussier, but that's just normal for learning a new skill.

 

I love it that she laughed at you ;)

post #10 of 15

Rafe will laugh too when I tell him not to bite etc.  He stops, looks up and smiles.  We try not to use the word "no" too much and find other ways to "correct" him from pulling off DH's glasses.  His latest deal is that he's on a bottle strike.  He's so dang independent that he "chooses" what can and can't go into his mouth.  Some days getting teething tablets in is such a chore, others he just opens up and is like "yes please."  My MIL had him today and I suggested that she take the nipple off the bottle and treat it like a cup.  He was more than happy to drink out of the cup but was having nothing to do with the bottle.  I guess I'll be looking into those Doidy cups after all because sippy cups seem like too much work for him (just like the bottle).

 

post #11 of 15
Thread Starter 

I guess I just don't see it as a challenge to my authority. He is getting stronger opinions and is starting to get upset if we take things away, but that seems reasonable to me and I don't feel at all challenged.

 

He is a lot fussier these last few days since he started being able to move around more. He's interested in things now that he can more fully interact. It's really cool :) He's playing with the level that raises and lowers Dusty's office chair right now.

 

Charlie loves drinking out of cups! He doesn't know about bottles, really. He used one for two days because he'd lost so much weight when he was 5 days old - just to be able to quantify his intake. The other day I tried pumping and got about a quarter oz, so I popped a nipple on it and gave it to him and he had no clue what to do with it. He just chewed it. Drank the milk, but was confused. Sippy lid things seem to make him chock more because he sucks differently. Drinking from cups seems about right.

 

We haven't tried to give him pills or anything, so I don't know how that'd go. I do give him intraoral massage every day now, though, as per the chiropractor's instructions. So that's me shoving two thumbs in and pressing. He likes it, actually. I thought that was weird because I never like it when I get it, but I did it to my mom, too, and she says it feels great.

 

Huh.

post #12 of 15

Intraoral massage, huh? I can't imagine that going well over here, I'm glad Charlie likes it. Notice any improvements with him?

post #13 of 15
Thread Starter 

not with nursing, no. it's been two dys sine he's nursed left. he cries if i try  no matter the position. i'm about to try to rent the left out :P

post #14 of 15

I am no longer allowed put my finger in her mouth to investigate the teething situation. She is ok chewing on my finger but not letting it go roam around anymore. I have taken this as her telling me what she does not like..instead of testing my authority - perhaps that is what they were talking about? As in   you cannot do whatever you please? 

 

we use the dr. sears baby book. Not so fair that first days a described day by day than it is chunk of months where they will in general do a,b,c....so i tend to ask you guys ;-)

post #15 of 15

Do you think it could mean that you say it's time for bed, they fight you on it...and then it's time to Lay Down the Law and just let them cry?  To me it sounds like a weak advertisement for cio/sleep training techniques.  But that's just my take on it.

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