So, I watched Alfie Kohn's DVD. What he says makes a lot of sense but I need help implementing.
My 3 year old pulls all off his books out when he's looking for one, or when he's angry. So almost every day, I'm asking him to clean up his books. He says no, he can't, and freaks out. He has cleaned them up before without trouble so I know he *can* but he just doesn't want to. He'll also empty his drawers in a rage and throw all kinds of things helter-skelter about the house. He then refuses to clean any of this up. Am I expecting too much to think he should be able to clean up his messes? If he can't clean up his messes, is there any way to stop him from creating them nonstop?
Also, he hits and throws things at and is just generally incredibly rough with his baby brother. How can I not give him some kind of consequence this behavior? Talking to him about it does nothing.
I'm yelling way too much right now. I really want to stop but I don't know how to get his attention otherwise. :(