This year has been very interesting! I come to you with a few issues. I can't remember how much I've told last. Basically, my son skipped Kindergarten and went into First grade. The principal wanted to ensure he'd be ok with First grade so the school had the Dept of Ed. reading specialist come and test him. She told me that she hasn't seen a child this bright in ten years. We never officially got him tested, didn't see any reason really as long as we're getting resources and all's well. Anyway, he's been doing perfectly well and scoring well above his classmates. His teacher even decided on her own to give him Second grade Social Studies/Science. His class is mixed between First and Second grade so it's an accelerated environment. He's got all A's since the beginning. We struggled (and still struggle) with handwriting. But I'm proud of him and think he's improved well.
The issues: he's being picked on. There was a boy who was kicking him. Then the group told him they don't want to play with him and upon him tearing up and walking off they told him to come back. And lastly, he asked me for cookies to take to school to give to a boy. I asked him why and he said, "So he'll play with me." My heart broke, and my husband says to leave him alone and let him get toughed up. He naturally feels everyone is a friend. He is naturally a friend to anyone and everyone. He kind of assumes that...as in why wouldn't that person want to play with me? kind of attitude. But there aren't a lot of students in his class to choose from and like I said he's being abused from the ones who are.
Every morning it's hard to get him to get dressed. He said he hates school. He's having a hard time making friends. He's extremely nice and a very easy target because of that. He's so sensitive and loving to others and the other kids are mean. He's the kind of kid who walks the line and tells others they should too 'so that' and gives the reason. Yes this would be slightly annoying if I were the other kids. But he gives them good reasons like, you shouldn't hurt others' feelings. How would you like it if your feelings were hurt and long explanations. I've talked to him and tried to explain that we don't have to lecture anyone about anything. If they are a close friend you can give encouragement etc. I don't know this to be what's going on, but I do know what he does and what he's said in the past. I also know he's physically slower and clumsier, and younger so that makes him feel sad. He still walks upstairs same foot, non alternating etc. So here we've got a very moral kid who is smart and awkward and clumsy physically. My husband works hard with him physically. We were both trying to teach him how to kick the soccer ball. He can kick from a still position if he just stands there and pushes out his leg, not like a typical kick. His arms and whatnot go flailing all over and he trips on his feet. My heart really breaks because he so wants to play soccer and sports. He told me he doesn't want to go to the playground anymore because he gets hurt everyday. He's such a hypochondriac and everything is giant. He bumped his elbow and to him that was grounds for not going to school.
I'm sorry this has gotten so long but I wanted to try to explain various points. How do I help him? He needs friendships and to feel like he belongs and not to be the target of bullying or abuse otherwise.
Anyone have experiences with this?