I wasn't sure if I should start a new thread on this second issue or not, but since it's concerning my 4 year old, I thought I would. He turned 4 in December so he's a Prek 3 kid right now. He's supposed to go to Prek 4 this coming year.
He never showed signs of obvious early intelligence like the now 6 y/o. But just before #2's 4th birthday he started reading and doing math. I've spent probably close to no time with him because I was busy with a new baby and the other very little one. So I think he's extremely bright at least, especially since he acquired these skills completely on his own. I honestly don't know where he learned the phonics from.
Issue #1: he is very smart and quick. He is also common sense smart/street smart, not so naive like child #1. He has excellent writing skills and athleticism etc. But he's extremely small, as in 5th percentile for height and weight small. The issue is should I allow him to start K this year or let him go to Pre K 4? He's smaller than all of the kids. My 2 year old is almost the same size as he is.
Issue #2: we are having very big behavioral problems. He (like #1) has anxiety, but his is much worse. He spits at school, at home, bites child #3 and sometimes child #1, never child #4. Child #1 expresses his feelings and #2 shows it by acting out, tantrums, chewing on his shirt to the point of eating it and leaving holes, the entire thing is soaked in a matter of minutes, I've never ever had to cut his nails after I'd say 18 months old or so because he bites them, things like this. I can't figure out what is making him upset/anxious. This is the way he is. He was premature (32 weeks) so I think he would have developed on the same curve exactly as child #1 if he was born on time, I can't say for sure. He did surprise me though.
What I am doing now is trying to stagger and spend some time doing workbook activities with him, like one or two pages at a go. He is doing well with spelling and writing and I'm just shocked that he can spell words off the top of his head verbally and written with no exposure (only phonetically correct) that #1 couldn't when he started school a few months ago. He also reads in two languages (English and Arabic, two totally different scripts and script directions). I feel like he got sandwiched in there and needs more time from me. It's so very hard to give him more time because I have a now 9 month old baby and also the 2 year old literally thinks he owns me and #2 is NOT allowed to cuddle, sit with me etc. He tells him, "Move, this is my spot."
Do your kids horribly misbehave due to lack of attention combined with higher intelligence?
I feel like this child needs a person just for himself to keep him from getting hurt, destroying everything, etc.
Edited by aishamama - 3/15/12 at 8:31pm