Gosh, there are so many issues I don't know where to start, Maybe just with tonight's most prevalent issue...DD would not fall asleep for, or be soothed by DH, even when he picked her up out of the crib (which usually makes her stop crying). She is 9.5 months old and is a great sleeper once she's down (although the last few nights haven't been that way), and can give me up to 5 hours a night bookended by 2 or 3 hour stretches. But lately things have been all over the place.
So I'm pretty anti-CIO and he's willing to go along with that (though his family are of a different mind), and we've tried a bunch of stuff:
a regular nighttime routine
watching for her sleepy signs
trying to get 2 good naps in per day, in her crib if possible
I try not to nurse all the way to sleep (though I do cheat sometimes)
we have an ipod with the sound of waves
I carry her on my back at least an hour per day (while walking the dog)
and she has lots of active playtime during the day
and I'm sure there's more, but that's all I can think of now.
She's had short stretches where a pattern emerges, maybe 3 days-week, where things go great; naps happen, she goes down without a huge fuss at night, she sleeps for nice long stretches, we can easily soothe her back to sleep, etc. But it never seems to last.
Anyway, this is sort of coming out like a rant, but if I had to pick one issue it would be the getting her down without hysterics ensuing. DH did a little sleep training - not CIO, but just a couple minutes of crying with him right there soothing her, but now I'm concerned that she has a negative association with being in her crib.
Ugh, I could just go on and on. I would just love to hear of others' experiences and maybe some stuff that helped turn your issues around.