I had a nice long lying-in with DD (our first). I had planned on it from the start and arranged PP doula help. But then, with the heavy bleeding at birth, it became necessary to stay in bed. I couldn't even get out of bed to pee on my own for 3 days!
I am planning it again this time, but without the birth drama to reinforce it! What I did last time was one week in bed, one week "around" the bed, and a third week just in in house. We also didn't take DD out for 6 weeks. It was perfect for us, and because her birthday was in winter, it worked well. We "emerged" as spring was coming out.
This time I plan to keep dd at home for 6 weeks again. I know that it seems old fashioned as most moms are out and about with days old babies. I just think that the babies are so wide open that it helps ease the transition into the world and gives them time to come into their senses in a more gentle way. But I just don't know how that is going to work with a summer birth. I want to be out and about much more in the summer. So, I may just aim for the 3 weeks lying-in and then see what seems best from there. I will still avoid being in very public or loud places but perhaps we might do some hikes and walks in nature.
I have a PP doula again (the same from last time, I'm so excited to have her back again!) and my parent's now live next door. So I am very blessed with help. I'm sure it will still be tough with two children, though. But I loved, loved, loved it with DD and it just makes so much sense to ease them into the world that way!