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Let's focus on keeping it supportive and if we are offering an opinion on a product or method, etc. Just remember to phrase it in a supportive manner.  Thanks! 

 

 

post #2 of 135

Weeks/Days along: 33 weeks 5 days

Appointments: I think next wednesday we are going to the mw's farm for an apt.

Symptoms: So uncomfortable and it hurts to roll over and I feel about 90 years old.

Food:  Still eating oatmeal, and fruit but I LOVE CHOCOLATE. I am eating way too much sugar!

Exercise: I know I have said this for 29 weeks now, but seriously - I start monday!

Body changes and other milestones: I look huge and I know I have lots left to grow. ugh. LOL

Thoughts: One more final and I am going to nest like its 1999..or maybe I'll just sit on my butt and read a book. Whichever it is, it will be nice!

post #3 of 135

Lol. Onemore.  What on earth does "like it's 1999" mean?

 

I'd like to add that I am open to criticism of my posts.  I would like constructive advice about how to say things in such a way that is not offensive.  I'm serious.  I am all about learning how to relate to people better, and adjusting how I come across accordingly.  So, if anyone is offended by what I say/or have said, and would like to offer suggestions of better phrasing, etc, I would welcome it.  Again, totally no snark...I am absolutely serious.

 

 

post #4 of 135

You know the Prince song "Party like its 1999"?

 



 

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Lol. Onemore.  What on earth does "like it's 1999" mean?

 

I'd like to add that I am open to criticism of my posts.  I would like constructive advice about how to say things in such a way that is not offensive.  I'm serious.  I am all about learning how to relate to people better, and adjusting how I come across accordingly.  So, if anyone is offended by what I say/or have said, and would like to offer suggestions of better phrasing, etc, I would welcome it.  Again, totally no snark...I am absolutely serious.

 

 



 

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Lol. Onemore.  What on earth does "like it's 1999" mean?

 

I'd like to add that I am open to criticism of my posts.  I would like constructive advice about how to say things in such a way that is not offensive.  I'm serious.  I am all about learning how to relate to people better, and adjusting how I come across accordingly.  So, if anyone is offended by what I say/or have said, and would like to offer suggestions of better phrasing, etc, I would welcome it.  Again, totally no snark...I am absolutely serious.

 

 

((hug)) You are probably like me and don't have a ton of time to craft your post and you just want to get the information out and are not really thinking about it.  But maybe just couching things in, "I've read that" or "here is a link about the pros and cons of XYZ" and then you don't have to be the bad news bear, but the link can at least share the info for you.  :)
 

 

post #6 of 135

Tone is so hard on the internet too. ((hugs)) to you also Just1.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lqwdNqMZ8Ro&feature=related

I am being lazy today. I am trying to do the above but...it seems hard. LOL

 

I want to see if it looks adorable so I can make some for gifts. The fertile fairy has been busy!


 

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((hug)) You are probably like me and don't have a ton of time to craft your post and you just want to get the information out and are not really thinking about it.  But maybe just couching things in, "I've read that" or "here is a link about the pros and cons of XYZ" and then you don't have to be the bad news bear, but the link can at least share the info for you.  :)
 

 



 

post #7 of 135

Name:  Shanti

Weeks/Days along:  30wks

Appointments:  Last one was Friday.  We've moved the frequency up to every 2 wks since I am measuring unusually large and the mw's want to keep an eye on things.

Symptoms:  Humungous, sore when sleeping, awful heartburn about every other day, and it's so hard to bend down with this enormous belly!

Food:  Iron supplements have made my dirt cravings stop!  Just trying to eat a good amount of protein from mixed sources and lots of veggies and fruit.  I sometimes succeed.  But I usually just end up grazing on my daughters leftovers and forgetting to feed myself whole meals. 

Exercise:  Not much... I've been doing pre-natal yoga weekly but missed last week.  I am far less active than normal right now because things hurt and my daughter is hard to contain without chasing!

Body changes and other milestones:  Uh, did I mention humungous?  Yah, definitely that :) 

Thoughts:  I really need to get the house ready for baby!  (pulling clothes out of storage, making some space in the "kid room", and figuring out where we're all going to sleep since we're all in one big bed now...)  Oh and names.  I need to start thinking about those! 

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Name:  Sarah

 

Weeks/Days along:  32w6d

 

Appointments: 3-26

 

Symptoms:  Nothing new.

 

Food:  Yes!  I'm so happy to have an appetite again...and not just for crap.  I think it's the weather.  It's been in the 80's all week and I'm loving it!  All I want to eat is summer/picnic food.  Friday I made pork chops and a yummy orzo salad for dinner.  Yesterday I made macaroni salad and chicken salad.  Last night we ate the chicken salad on croissants and it was heavenly!  I ate another one for breakfast this morning.  Today we'll eat the macaroni salad and hot dogs (good ones) and all the leftovers.  It all tastes so good and fresh!  I can't get enough.  lol  And that's the most cooking I've done in the last 8 months.  lol

 

Exercise: Walking

 

Body changes and other milestones:  I think my feet look wider.

 

Thoughts:  I'm kinda bummed because I found a super cheap Britax Marathon 70 (brand new, in box) on eBay.  The store that's selling it is near where my family lives, and they offer local pick up.  It's one of those overstock type stores.  Anyway, I sent a link to my mom and sisters because it's on our registry and it's a great deal.  No one responded.  :(  I'm not having a baby shower, so it's not like it needs to be a surprise.  We don't want or need a bunch of clothes and baby gadgets.  We need a carseat!  :(  I know it's not a "fun" gift, but it's what we NEED. *sigh*

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Name: "casmer"

Weeks/Days along: 30w3d

Appointments: Wednesday is our 31-week appointment.  I hope baby is still head down...I'm pretty sure she was transverse this morning.

Symptoms: Round ligament pain. Still lots of Braxton Hick's.  I feel like my sense smell has gotten more sensitive.

Food: I can take or leave it. In a way I feel like the first trimester again. I gag easier and nothing ever sounds that great, but I'll eat it.

Exercise: This past week was walking, walking and more walking.  I hope to make it to the gym a couple of times this week.

Body changes and other milestones: Belly is growing, I guess that's about it

Thoughts: I can feel myself slowing down.  It's really sad for me because I really like to get things done around here and I'm having to rely more and more on DH.  I'm just too independent for this! :)

 

We're almost done with the painting in the nursery, I'm so excited.  I have a small shower coming up in April and I think DH and I are getting maternity pictures done in April as well.  I was kind of hoping that one of my cousins or aunts would throw us a shower, but it looks like it's not going to happen because no one has mentioned it.  It's not a huge deal (I don't *need* a bunch of stuff), but a friend of mine seemed surprised that no family had offered to throw us a shower.  My family is very small and I'm the first cousin to have kids, so I'm guessing the thought just hasn't occurred to them. I have an Aunt who said she already had a gift for us, so I don't feel like they don't care about us.  DH's step-father's family throws huge showers for their side, but DH has never been considered a part of their family, even though he's been around since he was 7. That would probably be really awkward anyway.

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Apologies for the double post.  Has anyone read "Beyond the Sling: A Real-Life Guide to Raising Confident, Loving Children the Attachment Parenting Way" by Mayim Bialik.  I've been reading AP websites and such, but would like an actual book or two to read on AP.  It would help if they weren't complete snoozers haha.  If I know something sounds like a research journal ahead of time, I can at least prepare mentally.  My concentration isn't so great these days, so it would be nice to find something a little reader-friendly.

 

And yes, I'm curious about this book because Blossom wrote it :)

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Casmer, my favorite AP book is called Baby Matters (by Linda Folden-Palmer). I think she may have updated it and republished it since I bought it in 2006 and there's some stuff in there that I really don't agree with (she sort of comes down on the "it's ok to vax" side of things) but for me, this was the first book I read as an FTM that helped me feel secure in trusting my intuition as a mom. It made me realize how important that was in comparison to all the people around ms who were constantly nattering on about schedules and sleep training and disciplining (a baby!!!). My instincts were rebelling big time against people who were telling me I was going to ruin my daughter if I didn't get her sleep trained and basically show her who's boss...but in the circle I was in at the time, it was downright weird for me to shun CIO (cry it out :-)) and formula and vaccines...and breastfeeding as long as I did (2.5 yrs)? Nuts!

Baby matters sort of spoke to me where I was as a very nervous FTM who was sort of teetering on the edge of AP without exactly knowing what it all was...

The book is very anti-cows milk but has some really useful and practical info for dealing with food allergies and common sicknesses in children. I still use it as a resource even though I don't agree with all her ideas. It's a good place to start.

Generally though I don't like parenting books. smile.gif I think they tend to engender a lot of mommy guilt and push the notion that there is a Right Way to raise kids and if you're not following the dogma, you're Doing It Wrong. ;-) But generally anything that urges you in the direction of loving your child, having reasonable expectations for them, trusting your instincts instead of constantly silencing them...I'm a fan.

But I am a little intrigued by Mayim Bialik's book...I'll be looking for it in the library soon. smile.gif
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Name: roxi

Weeks/Days along: 33w4d

Appointments: we went for an orientation at a birthing center this morning... have prenatal appt and birth class on tuesday.

Symptoms: annoying to bend down/get up. we steam vacuumed the entire house  a couple days ago--now i am sure the carpet is clean! it is nice that it it is spring (daffodils and magnolias everywhere!) and warm and the house is cleaner than it has been. hopefully i can keep it up--i am going to try and follow these cleaning schedules: http://www.thekitchn.com/how-to-keep-your-kitchen-clean-in-20-minutes-a-day-for-30-days-164563 and http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/the-schedule-house-cleaning-in-131142

Food: egg salad sandwiches, tortas de aceite, the amazing huevos rancheros i had at a cafe after the orientation, lemon sorbet

Exercise: walking, yoga video, wii fit

Body changes and other milestones: yep

Thoughts: i am really confused about where to give birth.

 

maybe the birth center would be better--they don't even have epidurals and stuff, so it's a better option for going unmedicated since they can't even offer that stuff. the rooms are more like hotel rooms with real beds and they have really nice tubs for water births. i would have to transfer prenatal care to a midwife near that hospital though--like an hour away. i still can't drive. i'd have to see if i could get appointments on days my husband could take me. i could try and get my license, but i would be scared to drive that far by myself after not having driven in so long (8 years). the birth center is inside a hospital so in event of transfer they just push you down the hall. usually you stay in the birthing suite PP but there are only 4 rooms and it is a popular program so laboring mothers have priority. the midwife practice i would use has 6 midwives; whoever is on call would attend the birth.

 

VS. the hospital here. no options for water birth. it is more mainstream, i already had to go in & meet with the anesthesiologist, etc. but my midwife would be the one to attend the birth, and she is supportive of it being unmedicated, had 4 children herself unmedicated, and has birthed children of of friends there unmedicated. the rooms are more like regular hospital rooms, with gurneys... they are nice enough. we also have a doula who will labor with us at home & go to whichever hospital. 

 

ugh i need to decide soon, because we'd need to start prenatal care/filling out paperwork for the birthing center at 36 weeks (OMG almost 2 weeks away!!).

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Name: Need to know basis haha, seriously though

Weeks/Days along: 33ish??? I'm bad at this!

Appointments: Wed I think

Symptoms: I'm dying! OMG this baby is like the terminator baby my uterus hurts! I get kicked in the stomach and I vomit, never hungry now, but it's engaged in my pelvis?! What is this kid 30 inches?

Food: no real cravings

Exercise: yeah I have a broken ankle...

Body changes and other milestones: pain pain and more pain.

Thoughts: I'm so done, but need to keep cooking. Please stay in there but stop hurting me!

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Name: roxi

Weeks/Days along: 33w4d

Appointments: we went for an orientation at a birthing center this morning... have prenatal appt and birth class on tuesday.

Symptoms: annoying to bend down/get up. we steam vacuumed the entire house  a couple days ago--now i am sure the carpet is clean! it is nice that it it is spring (daffodils and magnolias everywhere!) and warm and the house is cleaner than it has been. hopefully i can keep it up--i am going to try and follow these cleaning schedules: http://www.thekitchn.com/how-to-keep-your-kitchen-clean-in-20-minutes-a-day-for-30-days-164563 and http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/the-schedule-house-cleaning-in-131142

Food: egg salad sandwiches, tortas de aceite, the amazing huevos rancheros i had at a cafe after the orientation, lemon sorbet

Exercise: walking, yoga video, wii fit

Body changes and other milestones: yep

Thoughts: i am really confused about where to give birth.

 

maybe the birth center would be better--they don't even have epidurals and stuff, so it's a better option for going unmedicated since they can't even offer that stuff. the rooms are more like hotel rooms with real beds and they have really nice tubs for water births. i would have to transfer prenatal care to a midwife near that hospital though--like an hour away. i still can't drive. i'd have to see if i could get appointments on days my husband could take me. i could try and get my license, but i would be scared to drive that far by myself after not having driven in so long (8 years). the birth center is inside a hospital so in event of transfer they just push you down the hall. usually you stay in the birthing suite PP but there are only 4 rooms and it is a popular program so laboring mothers have priority. the midwife practice i would use has 6 midwives; whoever is on call would attend the birth.

 

VS. the hospital here. no options for water birth. it is more mainstream, i already had to go in & meet with the anesthesiologist, etc. but my midwife would be the one to attend the birth, and she is supportive of it being unmedicated, had 4 children herself unmedicated, and has birthed children of of friends there unmedicated. the rooms are more like regular hospital rooms, with gurneys... they are nice enough. we also have a doula who will labor with us at home & go to whichever hospital. 

 

ugh i need to decide soon, because we'd need to start prenatal care/filling out paperwork for the birthing center at 36 weeks (OMG almost 2 weeks away!!).


Here is my 2 cents. From women I know who birthed in attached centers it did not make much difference. I birthed my first in a freestanding center and had the MW on call and I hated her. This coming from someone who hates hospitals in general and is having a HB, *I* would porbably stick with the MW you know and KNOW will be attending your actual birth, even if it's at a hospital. I'm not a waterbirth fan though, not for any particular reason. What is your gut telling you?

 

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i feel like i would like the water birth option but i have no clue what will happen during labor or if i will even use it... it seems like a lot of people plan to and then don't? my CNM here is kind of cold & business-like, but our friends who used her had great birth experiences which is all i really care about. i know having to go to dayton & back in the last 4 weeks or so would be stressful and annoying, so i like the ease of just sticking with what i'm already signed up for. my husband is more excited for the waterbirth; he really likes how calm and relaxed the room was, and how intervention-free that part of the hospital is (he will probably freak out when we go to the hospital--his mother died when he was senior in college of breast cancer and he really hates hospitals, so he likes the assurance that we won't have interventions pressed on us, plus he turns into a raging crazy person whenever we do life changing events--he's been groomzilla, move-zilla, etc.). 

 

the drive is kind of excruciating, it's an hour of driving through farms and rural hoarder's houses and roadkill and small towns before we get to the highway. but tubs! with peaceful blue lights ;)

 

we looked into doing HB but that was even more complicated--none in the area, i can't drive, difficult to even find one since they don't have websites (HB prohibited in OH). all you HB mamas are lucky! we have a good friend who is a HB midwife in st. paul, i love listening to her stories :) plus i have a lot of friends who have had amazing HBs! it sounds so nice to just be where yr already comfortable. tho, i hate my house so i don't necessarily want to give birth here, either. lol.

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we looked into doing HB but that was even more complicated--none in the area, i can't drive, difficult to even find one since they don't have websites (HB prohibited in OH). all you HB mamas are lucky! we have a good friend who is a HB midwife in st. paul, i love listening to her stories :) plus i have a lot of friends who have had amazing HBs! it sounds so nice to just be where yr already comfortable. tho, i hate my house so i don't necessarily want to give birth here, either. lol.


 

We toured family beginnings a few weeks ago and really liked it also. I feel the same way as you about rather being at home. I guess I would factor that into your decision also. I had a friend that drove from Cincy to give birth there a few years ago and since it was so far, she left earlier on in her labor so the ride would be easier. For me I want to labor at home for as long as possible. But, that birth center does seem great. I am with you about the water sounding like something I would love. I wish I could offer you some advice, but I don't really have any other than what has already been said, to trust your gut.

 

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Roxi- I looked at your cleaning schedule things and at first was like, "yeah, totally manageable!" and then realized that... well... maybe it looks mangeable, but it's not including kids who will undo one room while I clean another, or for all of the cleaning I'll need ot do to surface clean... and the fact that I'm a slob and don't do dishes, wipe counters, or sweep every day. Yep. I'm that terrible. I'm working on it, I promise!

 

Birth center vs. hospital- even an extra step towards interventions can slow you down a bit, make you ask more questions or think about it more, and I think being somewhere both you and your husband are comfortable is important. Having a midwife who fits your groove can definitely be important, but if you can get her on the same page as you regarding what you want then I think that even with a sort of cold bedside manner it might be preferable...? Who knows, though, right? And yeah, some people talk about the birth pool as being amazing, incredible, like an epidural, etc and osme people hate it. I was in between- enjoyed it for labouring but it was not amazing or pain relieving in any way, and didn't like it for the actual birth part at all.

 

And I hate roadkill. Sometimes it makes me cry. Terrible, since i grew up in the country :/ Summer = roadkill, motorcycles, construction. Yuck.

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Sorry for the double post, forgot some stuff i meant to reply to! Okay, al ot of things. I have no brain.
 

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Weeks/Days along: 33 weeks 5 days

Appointments: I think next wednesday we are going to the mw's farm for an apt.

Symptoms: So uncomfortable and it hurts to roll over and I feel about 90 years old.

Food:  Still eating oatmeal, and fruit but I LOVE CHOCOLATE. I am eating way too much sugar!

Exercise: I know I have said this for 29 weeks now, but seriously - I start monday!

Body changes and other milestones: I look huge and I know I have lots left to grow. ugh. LOL

Thoughts: One more final and I am going to nest like its 1999..or maybe I'll just sit on my butt and read a book. Whichever it is, it will be nice!



Hahaha, I gave up and returned the prenatal yoga DVD to a friend. Never going to bother. I still LOVE LOVE LOVE chocolate, I eat a lot of good dark chocolate every day. I look huge, I feel like a beached bloody whale, and am sick of the "any day now, huh??" comments. 

 

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I'd like to add that I am open to criticism of my posts.  I would like constructive advice about how to say things in such a way that is not offensive.  I'm serious.  I am all about learning how to relate to people better, and adjusting how I come across accordingly.  So, if anyone is offended by what I say/or have said, and would like to offer suggestions of better phrasing, etc, I would welcome it.  Again, totally no snark...I am absolutely serious.

I have never been offended, even the teensiest tiniest bit, by any of your posts. I'm pretty hard to offend to begin with, but seriously- totally fine.

 



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Food:  Yes!  I'm so happy to have an appetite again...and not just for crap.  I think it's the weather.  It's been in the 80's all week and I'm loving it!  All I want to eat is summer/picnic food.  Friday I made pork chops and a yummy orzo salad for dinner.  Yesterday I made macaroni salad and chicken salad.  Last night we ate the chicken salad on croissants and it was heavenly!  I ate another one for breakfast this morning.  Today we'll eat the macaroni salad and hot dogs (good ones) and all the leftovers.  It all tastes so good and fresh!  I can't get enough.  lol  And that's the most cooking I've done in the last 8 months.  lol

 

Thoughts:  I'm kinda bummed because I found a super cheap Britax Marathon 70 (brand new, in box) on eBay.  The store that's selling it is near where my family lives, and they offer local pick up.  It's one of those overstock type stores.  Anyway, I sent a link to my mom and sisters because it's on our registry and it's a great deal.  No one responded.  :(  I'm not having a baby shower, so it's not like it needs to be a surprise.  We don't want or need a bunch of clothes and baby gadgets.  We need a carseat!  :(  I know it's not a "fun" gift, but it's what we NEED. *sigh*


Yay food! I want to be eating tons of fresh yummy stuff, but uh... I'm clueless >shrug< I think I need to eat more asian-inspired salad. Jeff is always whining about cold foods being gross, but if it's asian-ish, he'll gobble it down. Carseats- that's a huge bummer. It's disappointing to be on the ignored end, and carseats are so so expensive. We need one too. Trying not to think about it.

 



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Name: Need to know basis haha, seriously though

Weeks/Days along: 33ish??? I'm bad at this!

Appointments: Wed I think

Symptoms: I'm dying! OMG this baby is like the terminator baby my uterus hurts! I get kicked in the stomach and I vomit, never hungry now, but it's engaged in my pelvis?! What is this kid 30 inches?

Food: no real cravings

Exercise: yeah I have a broken ankle...

Body changes and other milestones: pain pain and more pain.

Thoughts: I'm so done, but need to keep cooking. Please stay in there but stop hurting me!


:( Sounds like le suck. I've never had such a strong baby, but this one has done some crazy heaving from one side of my belly to the other movements that have been really really close to making me vomit, and it's terrible. Engaged baby- yikes! I'm not ready for that yet! Wish there was something you could do for the pain, it sounds lousy.

 

 

Me:

 

I'm fat. I want to eat but I'm too lazy. Sick of peeing every 10 minutes. Baby is getting mroe active and on the one hand it's awesome but on the other, it hurts sometimes. I had a friend over today and she helped me purge my basement. We have to wait until garbage day (NEXT SUNDAY! UGH!) to get everything out, but I'm trying to convince my husband to find a friend with a van (like, um, his brother!) and take it to the dump or something. Why have i been hording this crap? Seriously, so much garbage, it's insane. Now I feel like an idiot, but the basement is arleady looking a LOT better and we haven't cleaned or organized we've just moved out all the garbage. Geeze.

 

I've had some crazy dry lips recently, no matter how much water I drink or how much lip chap I use, and now it's turned into a seriously itchy/painful rash all the way around my mouth, on my SKIN. It's inflamed and flakey and so insanely, insanely itchy. What the hell?

 

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I have never been offended, even the teensiest tiniest bit, by any of your posts. I'm pretty hard to offend to begin with, but seriously- totally fine.

 

 

 

I've had some crazy dry lips recently, no matter how much water I drink or how much lip chap I use, and now it's turned into a seriously itchy/painful rash all the way around my mouth, on my SKIN. It's inflamed and flakey and so insanely, insanely itchy. What the hell?

 



Thanks :) (And forestmushroom and onemore.) 

 

And, I have no idea, but I do know that I am really thirsty, too.  But, I'm also often dehydrated, so, in my case, there ya' go.  The rash though?  No clue.

 



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Roxi- I looked at your cleaning schedule things and at first was like, "yeah, totally manageable!" and then realized that... well... maybe it looks mangeable, but it's not including kids who will undo one room while I clean another, or for all of the cleaning I'll need ot do to surface clean... and the fact that I'm a slob and don't do dishes, wipe counters, or sweep every day. Yep. I'm that terrible. I'm working on it, I promise!

 

I don't bother.  I do one load of dishes and one load of laundry a day and check those boxes off.  You're in the hard part right now.  A few more years and your little monkeys can help so much.  Dd (7) cleans off the table (and does it well...scrubs chairs and everything), sweeps the kitchen, cleans up her room, and does tons of little tasks that I just need done (like take water to the dogs or put them on the lines, sometimes changes the toddler, fetches clothes and things from the van.  She's awesome and quite reliable.).  Ds (4.5) can put away lots and lots for me, and can do some gopher stuff.  He usually makes breakfast as long as I prep a bit the night before.  Or, if I let them have cereal, he does the whole thing for everyone.  That alone is huge.  They all get up and get the toddler up.  The little one nurses, and they go in the kitchen and make breakfast.  I lay around in bed slowly waking up, and they come get the lo, and take her to the table.  They have breakfast, and then dd cleans it all up and sweeps the floor.  Then, the toddler comes back to me (I'm usually up by then), and the big ones go get dressed and make their beds and tidy their room.  Sometimes I pass out washcloths and they all go dust, or we go downstairs and we fold laundry.  The bigger two can pretty much handle putting a whole load away.  Anyway, my point is...just coast a few more years and don't feel guilty or like you have to come up with some awesome system.  The littles get bigger and biggers can work. :)
 

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 it sounds so nice to just be where yr already comfortable. tho, i hate my house so i don't necessarily want to give birth here, either. lol
 

So frustrating to have choices and yet feel you have none!  Sorry you have to figure it out.  I wanted to encourage you, though, to try not to get *too* hung up on the where.  I know for some people it really matters, and I'm not comfortable being watched in any location, but, mostly, the main thing is...you want your baby!  So, do the best you can with what you've got, but I hope you can go into it anticipating good things, and not expecting lack of perfection.  Barring forced intervention, the story is what the story is...and what we make of it.  I know it's a big deal, but sometimes pregnancy can make things a bigger deal than they have to be.

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We toured family beginnings a few weeks ago and really liked it also. I feel the same way as you about rather being at home. I guess I would factor that into your decision also. I had a friend that drove from Cincy to give birth there a few years ago and since it was so far, she left earlier on in her labor so the ride would be easier. For me I want to labor at home for as long as possible. But, that birth center does seem great. I am with you about the water sounding like something I would love. I wish I could offer you some advice, but I don't really have any other than what has already been said, to trust your gut.

 



this is what I was going to suggest.... being far away you might leave for the birthing center too early, and be there longer then you might want to be.  I like to labor at home for as long as possible... but if it is more comfortable, it may be worth it.  Especially if your DH freaks out in hospitals. That is something to consider, if there is a lot of stress in the environment for him and triggers.... ugh.  That is tough. 

 

I think if the hospital environment is too stressful for your DH and he can make a commitment to drive you (even if you were a seasoned driver, it isn't the best thing to be doing super preggo for that long IMHO) to your appts. maybe the birth center is better.

 

I wish there was a closer, better option!

 

SoSu: omg to the super painful kicks!  it hurts!  such a tiny creature of great might.

 

lightheartedmom, I dislike parenting books, too.  But their are a few good ones.  I like happiest baby on the block for practical baby care stuff... and the Mayim Bialik book looks interesting. I like siblings without rivalry, too... and it is worth reading now, I wish I read that one before I had 2 kids, and reread it before 3.... I should probably reread it now.

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