As a trained Waldorf teacher I'm probably on the more extreme side of media issues. Currently we have a computer monitor that we watch movies off of and that's it. I have absolutely no interest in sharing movies or television programs with my kids until they are older. I like the idea of monthly family movie nights starting in grade school, that way no one feels deprived and there's a ritual involved that keeps t.v. watching to a minimum. As for computers and video games, video games will be simple as they just won't be in the house. When our kids are older I won't forbid them from play vdg's at friends houses, but we just won't have games of our own. The computer thing will be tougher though as its definitely one of my vices ( I probably spend about an hour or two a day on this thing... although some of that is work related), we'll probably enlist some sort of rule that limits the amount we use during the week and keeps us altogether off any media device on Sundays. I don't really think young children need to be exposed to computers and such, although I know if I'm on it all the times, my little ones will certainly be curious. One nice thing about being a part of a Waldorf community is that all parents make a commitment to keep medi to a minimum so, in my experience, its not as big of a deal to the kids.
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I'm the big sister to a brother only 15 months younger than me. We grew up like besties our entire lives, despite gender differences!!! In fact, I tell stories about our childhood wrestling and bickering and fighting, and how it always ended up with both of us in tears, apologizing to each other and letting each other know that we don't really want to hurt each other. EVER!!! Of course we went through our differences as we grew, but to this day we remain very, very close. I trust him, and respect him, and love him, and I know that your Cecelia will feel the same about her little bro! I have two daughters who are 5 years apart, and I'm subjected to arguments, and temper tantrums, and slamming doors on a daily basis :) Someday they will appreciate each other. As parents, it's our duty to teach love and compassion no matter what, and that will allow them to form their own special sibling bonds! Good Luck! My thoughts are with you!
We have a TV in the living room with satellite service. Cecilia is allowed to watch 1-2 shows a day at the max, and they are all commercial free (I HATE commercials with kids' shows. I really, really, really do). Her current favorites are her beloved Baby Signing Time, which even though she speaks full sentences she still adores, and Sid the Science Kid. I am happy with the amount she watches. She's also not the kind of kid who veges out in front of the TV; she plays with other stuff and watches some, but not the whole episode straight through. We listen to music most of the rest of the day.
DS1 watches TV at my parents house (which is ironic because pre-DS they always were critical about parents who let their kids watch any TV- - now when we visit, 'he is just too active' and so he watches TV 24/7 if left with them, sadly its usually the only way I can leave him with them for more then 10 minutes otherwise they call me in a panic after about 40 minutes asking me when I will be back. . .
I would like some kids TV shows for DS to watch once and a while- esp. on days like today where I haven't showered for 4 days and Id like a solid 10-20 minutes I know he won't rip apart the house or terrorize the dog where I can shower with the door open.. .. so yeah.. when do the terrible twos end again?
We have a TV downstairs, but it is mostly used for my husband to watch sports. My daughter calls it a "dada football." I do watch an occassional Top Chef or such thing on it when she's not around. We do more media watching on Netflix Instant either on the iphone or computer. Watching TV on my iphone through Netflix has definitely been great for all the time we spend holding DD during her naps, although books on tape (or because I'm such a geek, lectures on tape through teach12.com), work well too. While I've been tempted lots of times, we haven't introduced any kids TV to my daughter. The only TV she sees is the occassional live sporting event, which doesn't hold her interest at all. She does play with apps on my iphone from time to time, more so when I was feeling so crappy during the first trimester. We'll see if the no TV thing can withstand the birth of #2--I'd be okay either way.
Im just so exhausted this pregnancy and I know it will be 100x worse once the twins are born.. just trying to find ways to get 20-40mins here or there with DS being 'calm'. He HATES his car seat so just driving isn't an option he screaming bloody murder the entire time and sometimes can get out of his seat..
We don't have a TV, and we get movies from the library once every couple weeks or so. Once in awhile I'll put on a kid's dvd (Bob, Thomas, Franklin) on the laptop for them while they eat breakfast (and I shower), but it's very low-priority for us and them.
I am annoyed to hear of how often my MIL sits them in front of the TV at her place, they are self-occupying children who do not need a lot of one on one supervision so I see no need for her to utilize the TV so much. But what can ya do... At least they respect our wishes on what is appropriate for the kids (nature documentaries - yes, Free Willy - no).
I absolutely LOVE that when my kids play act and use their imaginations, it's completely THEM and not just them copying a commercialized character ;)
As for computer time, I'll admit that I'm on it WAY more than I need to be, but they have shown very minimal interest. DS1 likes to tell people he goes on Facebook with me, but really we just look at friend's photos together :)
I let my 2 year old watch Sesame Street. It started when I was struggling with borderline hyper emesis. We're now trying to limit it to 2 episodes a day, and by the summer time (which is what it feels like already here in Chicago) when the garden is in and we'll be outside most of the day, i'm hoping to eliminate it completely. Its actually.... helped him... I know that sounds crazy, but he knows the alphabet and can sight read "Mama" and "daddy" but he still sh*ts his pants on a daily basis so he's not THAT advanced ! HA HA HA ! I'd rather he be toilet trained. Seriously.
I can't leave him alone with the TV. I learned that mistake early. I plonked him in front of THe Red Menace (Elmo) and went to PEE for 2 glorious minutes. IN those 2 minutes, he opened the fridge, took out a stick of butter, and ate most of it.
Our tv broke a few months ago so we won't be getting a new one until the Olympics. Then'll we'll spend a disgusting amount of time watching tv and then nothing until football starts. Both my kids watch a lot more in winter than summer. Today was the first day in over a week DD1 watched netflix, but in winter it was a show or two a day.
Is anyone who hasn't had an u/s a little freaked out. I feel tadpole moving all the freaking time, but I'm still really really scared about going in next week. Plus I really want another girl. Like to the point I know I will cry if it's not. I know I'll be thrilled no matter what once we have the baby, but the initial shock if it's a boy (and I think it is) is going to be rough.
Edited by Honey693 - 3/21/12 at 1:06pm
You know Ninetales and I have been there, are there now...so if it is a boy, we can all work together.
In the first trimester, my son and I slept downstairs so I'd be closer to the bathroom. Every morning he'd be up around 7 (which was way too early for me), so he'd go upstairs and wake up my partner. His response was to put on a show (usually Dora) on Netflix so he could gradually wake up. After a week or so, I got pretty mad at him for being "lazy," even though I was sleeping in and expecting him to get up (I was exhausted!). Anyway, now my son has cartoons on Saturday mornings only and it works really well for us. He doesn't even ask to watch anything anymore. He'll usually watch Dora, Curious George, or Bob the Builder. Most of the shows are about 20 minutes long. I have to add, though, that he didn't watch anything at all until he was 2 1/2 or so. I was very adamant about "no tv" before 2. He prefers to do puzzles or read books anyway, so watching a show isn't really high on his priority list (thankfully!).
I'm terrified. I can't feel the baby move, and I've just been so afraid I'll go in and it will be bad news. I've been so worried and now B is worried too. Our scan is tomorrow morning.
Good luck, VV - I'm sorry you're feeling so freaked out! I haven't felt any movement whatsoever so far. I saw my midwife yesterday and became convinced when she got out the doppler that we wouldn't find anything, but then the heartbeat starting chugging away. It's so hard to be worried about something that you can't find out the answer to on your own! I wish I had my own doppler so I could check things out whenever I get anxious, but something tells me I would get a little obsessed.
Veritas, good luck tomorrow. I didn't feel anything until basically 18 weeks. No flutters, no "gas", no nothing. Try not to worry! You'll have a great scan and be so relieved tomorrow. Hopefully you get a little sleep tonight. Just remember it's really rare, especially for first time moms, to feel anything before 19 weeks or so.
I get scared every time before an ultrasound or midwife visit. I hope you get to breathe a big sigh of relief tomorrow (same for everyone else when you have your scans)! I only started feeling movement over the past 3 days (I'm 19w5d), and it's mostly in the evenings after dinner. I think you're a couple weeks behind me, and one of my friends didn't feel movement til 22 weeks with her first - it seems pretty normal for it to take awhile to feel things with your first! Though that doesn't make it any easier to wait.
Coincidentally, my partner made some awesome black bean chili on Monday, and I've had leftovers the last two nights as well, so now I'm worried about what happens when it's gone - what if the baby *only* gets excited over this chili?
I thought the anxiety of OB visits would pass after I first heard the heartbeat, but after seeing so many second trimester losses on our boards, I'm freaked out every time as well. I've heard the heartbeat twice now and I have my ultrasound next Friday. At this point I'm worried that they'll find something wrong with the baby at the ultrasound. I had the same fear with my son and he's the healthiest kid in the world. I really hope that holds true for this little one as well! I'll be thinking about you tomorrow VV! I hope everything goes well!
Oh, VV, thinking of you. I haven't felt baby move for weeks, (after feeling her for the first few weeks after 15) and today, sure enough, midwife came over, and it took about 5 minutes to find heartbeat.
But, there was baby, thumping along...most likely in an anterior placenta since I haven't felt movement.
Good luck with your appointment tomorrow. Hopefully you get the little thumps too.
Count me as #4 for the uncooperative babies. The cord was between baby's legs at my u/s yesterday and the tech couldn't even venture a guess. I won't be getting another scan unless the pics they got yesterday aren't good enough for some reason. I was really really disappointed yesterday but when I came on here tonight and saw the sad news others have shared I got some perspective. Baby is looking healthy and growing right on schedule, and I am grateful for that.
VV- how was the scan? I am anxious about mine Monday, not much movement (or what I would expect for 2 in there) and I am trying not to think about it but also a bit freaked out with all the bad news in the DDC lately. I am really feeling for everyone.
moremadder - aahhhh how frustrating! I'm sorry but you're right- baby is healthy/alive/well and in the end thats what matters the most to all of us.
AFM- taking the day off from work!! wahoo! Bought myself a big thing of strawberries for lunch and ate it with some hazelnut butter (don't ask, it just sounded really good). I also am meeting a friend to go on a walk this afternoon (its amazing hot spring weather here) and trying to appreciate the total silence of the house before I pick up DS at daycare at 330 today.
My next scan is Tuesday, I don't know why but like a lot of you I am really nervous for some reason. I'll be about 22w then I think... If there are any complications or signs of preterm labor (which my OB brings up all the time ) I have to cancel my obligations on the east coast/USA at the University there for April (which I am super looking forward to) and then also cancel the visit after my University lecture series to my family in Oregon which I would be pretty disappointed about, its probably my last chance to go to the US the rest of 2012.. so I'm keeping my fingers crossed as Im not sure when I'll be able to go back again.. probably not until sometime in 2013 if I'm lucky. .
Any fun plans for the weekend? Thinking about taking DS to the zoo here if its not too hot (for me)and having brunch with some friends and their kids Saturday which is always fun (esp when they have kids, it means they get the eat and run mentality)