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[chiromama01]

ruby... get off the train tracks girl, this time there is a train barreling toward you, it would seem ;) ... seriously, though, i do hope things calm down for you soon. you need it!

alethia, i hope your new found motivation stays with you!  warning, though..as soon as you finish your to do list, you'll make another one... at least, that's what i did :) so i'm right back where i started! but good luck!

so i did make it to the midwife today and i'm glad i did. i wanted to talk about what would happen if i went past due again.  i really am getting nervous about that possibility.  she checked me and said that i'm 3cm and about 40%effaced, so stripping the membranes would probably be effective if we needed to go there.  she felt that would be appropriate at 41 weeks, which i'm fine with.  I'm kind of upset that they've just brought on a new midwife, whom i've never met, to help cover patients from april 4 thru 19.  (i'm due april 4) they have a few meet and greets set up, but i can't make it to them because i'm an hour away.  so potentially i could have a complete stranger at my birth.  this is really upsetting, so I'm hoping and praying that he comes next weekend.  I'd be 39 weeks and i think my favorite midwife will be the one on call that weekend.  i hope that's not too much to ask the universe for... it would just make me so much more comfortable...

opps, late for work gotta run

[thomatuttle]

chiro--i definitely hear you about having a stranger at the birth.  with DD, my ob was away at his daughter's cross country meet so i got the on-call doctor.  thankfully, he was the doctor of a friend of mine and i had heard good things about him from her.  this time around, i may be missing my doctor again!  i am due at the end of spring break and he will be out of town because it is also his kids spring break.  hopefully i'll have DS within the next few days so that my doc will be there!  i have an appointment set up for next week to see his partner who is a cnm, if i haven't had DS already. 

alethia--chiro is right, once one list is done another magically pops up!  we cleaned the house pretty well this weekend, and now i feel like i have to clean it all again!  my mom comes today (she should actually be here in a few hours!) and the house is a pigsty!  once i get dd put down for her nap, i'm hoping to get some major cleaning done even though i am exhausted and just want to nap.

afm--i think i lost some more of my mucus plug when i went to the bathroom earlier.  it was kind of yellowish though and not clear like it's been so i don't know if i should worry or not.  we also found out that my FIL is in the hospital.  he has a uti and earlier today when he went in, he had a temperature of 106.5!  DH just talked to him and SMIL about half an hour ago and his temp was down to 103.7, so at least it's going down.  the problem with all this, is that they were going to be our backup to watch DD if DS comes before my dad gets here next wednesday!  i would really like my mom to be there for the birth again and to help out, but if DS comes early, then she'll have to stay home with DD and it'll just be DH and i.  i just hope he steps up to the plate a little more than he did last time. 

[lalazap]

37 weeks today and I am in no hurry for labour. I am nearing the end of my 'must do before baby comes' list (taxes, hand over my part-time job, get carseat etc) and am excited about a few more weeks of nesting and self-care.

Am thrilled to report that I've found a fantastic chiropractor who is keeping my symphysis pubis pain under control. I'm no longer feeling as pathetic and sorry for myself as I was a couple weeks ago. Rolling over in bed is still painful 90% of the time but walking/standing/sitting is much better. So thankful for this chiro and for our extended health coverage to pay for her.

Got a text from my MW today telling me I'm GBS negative, hooray! I was really preparing for GBS+, figuring I've been around it so much at all the births I've been to that I must have become colonized. But I haven't been at births since 32w and have been taking echinacea and acidophilus so maybe that helped.

Can't believe how close we are all getting!

[flavorfull1]

lalazap- awesome for feeling better with chiro, it seems to work wonders.

thomatuttle- wohoo for mucus plugs! I hope babe stays in until your support people are ready though :)

chiro- bummer about the new mw/new person at birth but yay for natural progress and getting ready for labor!

day- can't look back but I think you were the one who was sad about your first stretch marks?  I sympathize completely. With my first pg I made it until 36 weeks with no stretch marks and when one came, it seemed like quite a few followed around my belly button.  I felt so vain for how distraught I got but I felt like it was completely normal to need to mourn that my body would be forever changed by my little one.  I will say, they do not bother me as much now and that they definitely do fade more and more over time.  I think I am getting a few extra now with this pg and it is a completely different feeling...like I just think "bummer" and move on.  Hope you feel better soon about it and hugs.

isa- I remember being really sensitive with a vaginal check, or dtd, when pg with DS and it was a completely different feeling in labor and him coming out, I don't think it made me more sensitive at all.

itsasecret- I hope your bp comes back to normal very soon!

aletheia- hope you get stuff done! I have finished my "has to get done" list but I keep finding more things that I want to get done. So I guess it is all really done once the baby comes lol. Oh and I am very sorry about your kitty, that is very sad :(

ruby- I am sorry, that sounds really rough. I really hope things settle down for you soon.

Thursday- your poop talk made me actually laugh out loud but not at you, just in the way that you put it. I am sorry that people are not helping get stuff straight around your house, that is hard.

Had my mw appointment today. I am GBS negative hooray!  I am a little down because I am measuring 3 weeks behind and only gained a pound in the past few weeks.  My mw was not concerned and just told me to increase my protein and calorie intake. Honestly, I have been eating as much as I can but have not had as much appetite lately. I am going to try to add in some smoothies.  DD has dropped so that might be part of the reason why I am measuring behind. My mw said that DD's head is on the larger side too so she really isn't worried. I just felt kind of bummed because I only want to hear "everything is perfect" you know?  Anyone else measuring behind?

I am feeling good, my sister came in last night and is doing a great job entertaining DS and giving me breaks to rest.  It means that my house is cleaner too which is awesome.  My mother's blessing is this saturday and one of my other sister's is flying in for it so it would be a great time to have a baby but I am feeling really content being pg and just waiting.  I like it because it is such a huge contrast to how I felt right now with DS.  I attribute a lot of it to going regularly to chiro and I am so thankful that is an option this time around when it wasn't last time.

[rubyjune]

I feel so much better just venting it. Keeping up a brave face takes more energy than you would think.

I can only hope that this means all will be calm during birth and all...burning off all the chaos now.

the menfolk say they can get the car done by this weekend, things will still be tight but I will have more control of it

37 weeks 2 days...2 cm but thick, and not effaced as of yet...so said the lovely DR.

ah those are warrior marks ladies, you have earned those tigress stripes :)

hoping for smooth labors for everyone

[Aletheia]

Originally Posted by chiromama01 

alethia, i hope your new found motivation stays with you!  warning, though..as soon as you finish your to do list, you'll make another one... at least, that's what i did :) so i'm right back where i started! but good luck!

Thanks to the others that chimed in on this as well.  I kind of got to realizing today that I might be more scared of an empty to do list than a full one!  What that says about my personality, well, is not that endearing...

Kitty is doing a bit better today.  I'm still his medical transport up and down the stairs to the basement, but at least he hasn't gone outside of his box yet.  All his bloodwork came back normal, so we're hoping it's just a virus and will pass.  Poor old guy.

[Christy1980]

Altheia- Yay for kitty!  Our oldest cat is 11 y/o, and we would be devastated if something happened to him.  Hope yours gets over this funk soon.

Ruby- Wow!  You have a lot on your plate.  ((hugs))  I hope everything calms down for you soon so your birth can be nice and calm, and your PP time can be healing and stress-free. 

DH had 2 cavities filled today, $350!!  He has to have another $1400 in work done ASAP or he's going to lose his 6 front bottom teeth, and he needs fillings in 6 others, plus have 2 pulled that are broken off at the gum.  :(  We applied for that Care Credit card, and were approved for part, but not all, of the cost.  I feel bad for him having to have all that work done, they want to do it all at once, (except pulling the teeth, they'll do that later), and he feels really bad about the cost b/c after the birth, we really won't have any $$ anymore.  We made payments to the MW and still owe her about $800, and I don't get a paid maternity leave. so we were relying on savings to get us through so I could take time off as long as possible.  Oh well, it's in God's hands, whatever happens financially, happens.

Pregnancy-wise, everything is going well.  Just BH constantly.  Started perenial massage lastnight, (36w yesterday), hoping that will help as I really don't want to tear again like I did w/ DD.

Question about birth balls...what excercises do you do on them?  I've just been sitting on mine and bouncing on it for 1/2 hour.  Should I be doing something else?  I feel like it isn't doing anything other than making the tops of my thighs a little sore from the bouncing, lol.

[thomatuttle]

Christy--is there a dental school anywhere near you? My BIL has really bad teeth and needed a TON of work done and he had no insurance. He ended up driving 3 hours away to the nearest dental school for all of the work, and while he still had to pay a lot of money, he probably paid a fraction of the amount he would have had to pay at the regular dentist. Just a thought to help with the overall cost.

My mom came in last night, so that's good! It means my house will be a lot cleaner for the next few weeks! She is staying with us until my dad gets here next week. Didn't find that out until she got here though, so that was a little bit of a surprise!

Yesterday kind of sucked though due to lots of bad news that we received. First thin in the morning we found out that FIL was in the hospital due to a UTI and a temp of 106.5 (I think I mentioned it yesterday). Finally they gave him a ct scan and found a kidney stone that was blocking things so he had survey to remove the excess infected urine and try and remove the stone. Thankfully he's doing much better today and his temp is below 100 and he's able to sit up and eat a little. When my mom got here, she told me that my favorite aunt, who is more like a grandma to me due to the age difference between her and my dad, is dying. She has colorectal cancer that has spread to her liver. By the time they found it, it was too late to do anything. They haven't given her a time frame. It could be weeks or months. I guess she has come to peace with it and is happy wih the way her life has been. She's lived an extremely full life which is good. I'm just hoping that she'll still be around in June when we drive through her town on the way to see my parents. It'll be really hard on my dad though, but he is flying up to see her this weekend.

Also found out yesterday that a high school friends mom was diagnosed with stage 4 colorectal cancer in June and is only doing ok. She told my friend to get pregnant so that she could be a grandma for at least a short while before she dies. Well, friend did get pregnant only to find out it was an ectopic pregnancy which she took really hard. Then a family friend who has been fighting prostate cancer for a few years has now had it spread to his bones and brain. While he's still fighting it with chemo and whatnot, there's not much hope. Another family friend has been fighting mesothelioma and not muh progress has been made. He wants to quit fighting it, but his wife won't let him yet. So, yeah yesterday wasn't the best for my emotional state. But it allowed me to cry a lot which I think I needed.

Lost more mucus plug (I think) periodically throughout the day yesterday and a little more this morning. Other than that no other signs of impending birth. Mom and DD's sitter don't think I've dropped enough to have baby this weekend, but we'll see. Hope all you ladies are having fairly stress free weeks!

[chiromama01]

thoma-wow, so sorry for all the bad news.  i wish all of your loved ones the best.  

 

christy--thats some major dental work! does your husband have a skill or a trade that he could barter with a dentist?  it might help cut some of the cost, and the dental school is a great idea.

 

flavorful--i am measuring 2 weeks behind now, which is smaller than i measured 2 weeks ago!  mw says at this point its not even accurate anymore because so much of baby has moved down below the pubic bone that there's less baby in the right place to even measure.

 

AFM... i heard from a really good friend of mine yesterday, actually my best friend of 8 years, and she had some really distressing news which has really upset me.  she and her dh have been going through a rough patch for about a year now (married 10 years, 3 yo ds and 8mo old ds).  she just found out why.  apparently he went out one night, got drunk at a bar, and got another woman pregnant.  he now has a 2 month old daughter.  she's devastated on so many levels.  we've known them as a couple for 8 years, and i would have NEVER expected this from him.  I'm so sad for her, and i'm so angry at him for putting her through this. ugh.  i'm just in shock.  

 

anyway, i hope you ladies are doing well. 

[RosieL]

Life continues to have ups and downs. Glad we can come and vent in here a little bit, safely away from the 3d world. chiro and thoma - I'm so sorry to hear of your friends/family's troubles. It's gut wrenching, and even more difficult when friends are far away and you want to lend support. 

Anyone else's BP going up and down? Mine was up two weeks ago, and I was obviously stressing about school. Down last week (after garden was planted and I made lots of school progress). Up this week, I think mostly due to my being tense, constantly, with pain. I thought the pubic pain was just baby descending, but MW told me it's SPD and gave me a list of things to do (bind hips, don't sit on birth ball, etc.). Two weeks ago they seemed comfortable knowing my BP was up from stress. This week there was more concern, I think. BP came down a bit after I laid on my left side and listened to a hypnobabies track...

[miss_honeyb]

Well I've had 2 days of prodromal labor, which is really frustrating. In the past I usually don't have much of anything going on until I'm a week overdue, then my labor kicks in like gangbusters and that's it! It's strange being on baby #6 and calling DH home from work...thinking *maybe* I'm going into labor??  Yesterday the contractions were definitely radiating into my back. This little one is posterior so I'm really trying to work on my positioning to get him/her to turn a bit. Doing inversions, etc. I've usually gone late with my other babies so I've been assuming I will again...I hope I don't have this crazy prodromal thing going on for the next 2-3 weeks! (I'm 38w 3d today).

So yesterday I was having contractions one on top of each other, and suddenly HAD to get the house spotless! I've been working on purging/organizing/cleaning my homeschool/craft room for some time and it wasn't 100% done yet, so I kicked butt and finished it (basically). Here's the before (when I was in the crazy middle of purging) and after pics!

Now if it can just stay this way!!! I also purged and organized ALL the kids' toys. Like that will stay for more than a day... 

[adoremybabe]

Yahoo Miss honey!!!  Great job!

[RosieL]

I bet that feels INCREDIBLE!!! Nice work

[wendybird]

That looks fantastic!

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

Honey, that does look amazing! Good for you!

Anyone else just in a foul mood lately? I have been so cranky and just DONE. Part of me is giving up on the idea of having this kid before my due date, which I shouldn't have thought anyways. 39 weeks tomorrow and just frustrated. I'm so ready for this baby to be here, to go on "maternity leave" (DH staying home from work, I have nothign to do but sit on my butt and feed my baby) and really, I wanna meet this kid. I had a spot last night, so the first hint of bloody show, but checked myself and still only 1cm. :/

[prettyisa]

Secret—we ended up with a hoover—actually a canister, because DP insisted (in our case she was right—we have no carpet but a TON of fiddly furniture that has to be gone around and under, so just having the wand is much easier. I was thrilled to vacuum under the couch without even thinking about it!). I’m in love! Hope you don’t have any other pre-e signs. My midwife keeps asking about headaches and the swelling not going down at night—so far, so good.

Adoremybabe—I am amazed at 19 pints of anything. Seriously. You make my pile of pancakes sound wimpy!

Ruby—ugh. I’m sorry you’ve got so much on your plate right when things should be winding down.

Chiro—I’m in a similar spot with the midwife—one suddenly left the practice, and a second is going to be on vacation for the next two weeks so only one that I’ve met will be there. I’m hoping to hold off until she gets back because I’d really prefer to know my provider if possible! So sorry to hear about your friend. I had a friend whose rat of a husband did something similar and it was devastating to her. I wish her well in deciding the best course of action to take—it’s worth looking into (and quickly!) how the laws work in her state about child support. Where I am the first person who puts in for it gets a significantly larger portion of the father’s income than the second, regardless of who was married or not. It’s such a mess.

Thoma—hugs to you! So sorry to hear all of the bad news.

Lala and Flavorfull—I’m going to hope your good luck rubs off on me through the interwebs—GBS negative, come on down!

Aletheia—glad kitty is better! Maybe he just wanted to get sick while you could still focus on taking care of him and now will be good and healthy so you can not worry.

Christy—it makes me sick to think about all that dental work. I’m such a wimp with that kind of stuff. Your poor husband! I hope you find a good price for all of it—or someone who’d do a long-term payment plan?

Oh my gosh, Honey, that looks amazing! Hoping you get real labor or a real break soon!

Sunflower—definitely cranky. But no signs of labor/baby dropping/mucus/nesting. Nothing. Bleh. I’m going to be preggo for the rest of time…

[Aletheia]

Melissa-

OMG those photos are like a tiny bit of crack to me.

must

go

organize

something

NOW!

But I'm holding a friend's 2 month old and he's so cuddly and asleep.  It'll have to wait.  :)  Instead I'll hang out on MDC and try to remember my one-handed typing skills.  :)

[Thursday Girl]

SFMB- yep, pretty foul mood, I even posted a negative pissy facebook post which I usually try and stay away from as when people have excessive negative posts I find it annoying.

Chiro, Isa- hope you get the person you know at your birth!

Thoma- I am so sorry, that really is a crappy day. I'll pray for all the people.

AFM- my friend came and used her steam cleaner thing to do all my floors and now we have decided to get that steam cleaner. I actually DO get my one pregnancy extravagence!! (hooray tax return) I can't believe how clean the floors are, my husband was pretty blown away too.  I think I will get it this evening or tomorrow..and it is about half the price I thought it was going to be. Goodbye stupid always breaking mop and bucket!

I used to do these potluck friday morning breakfast clubs about once a month for my mom friends and they were always really fun, i haven't done one in ages but decided last night to have one this morning and it was so great to have a bunch of moms come over to hang out.

Also went with my sister yesterday to her sono and I AM HAVING A NIECE!!!! I am super excited. My parents had 5 kids, 1 boy and 4 girls. of their kids 3 have now procreated and produced 9 biologic children (my brother has a step son) of those 9 biologic grandchildren 8 of them are girls. LOL. 

pregnancy stuff- contractions on and off, she's a bit quieter and the bones inside my pelvis ache.

[tarabelle]

ACK! 

DH and I are moving (to a place I'm not really sure we can afford) and we have 2 weeks to do it, thank goodness, but we have to be out of our current apartment by April 15th.  My due date is April 16th, my last day of classes is April 9th, and all my final assignments are due between April 13th and April 20th.  

Umm...  

 

and DH just tells me, "you relax and let daddy handle it," (he's already referring to himself in the third person as daddy, cute and charming if a bit strange) and I know we'll be fine but I can't help but feel like i'm losing my mind.

[Thursday Girl]

omg tara, that's crazy!!