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post #21 of 92
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how much are people gaining with their twin pregnancies? Im about 21/22w right now and at a 16-17lb gain. Wondering if that is on the high or normal or low side of things..

 

I also asked my doc about the headaches, she said they are normal between 18-24w, my blood pressure was also ok.. so lets see.

Oh! and she thinks I am having 1 girl and 1 boy (di/di) although the girl isn't 100% because 'just because I don't see a penis doesn't mean there isn't one somewhere' lurk.gif

 

Im anxious to know the genders mostly because I only have boys and for some reason having a girl seems really foreign for me.

 

 

how is everyone else doing?

post #22 of 92

Hi Ladies, I'd like to join in too :)  I have Di/Di girls due mid July, although I wonder when they will actually arrive!

 

Wow, Mamalovex3 and momtoafireteam, multiple multiples!!  I can't even imagine.  I am like ithappened and am barely grasping to figure out how I'll do with a 2 year old and twin infants :)

 

rinap, I LOVE the idea of the frozen smoothies!!!  It's basically all I have craved with both pregnancies...now to get DH working on it!

 

AFM, first trimester was miserable with morning sickness which lasted to about 15 weeks.  Everything was going better until this week (24 weeks) and the exhaustion and body fatique/soreness has hit me like a ton of bricks.  I really need to work on taking it easy, but I have so many projects left I'd like to finish and I hate feeling like I am not doing enough for DD. 

 

 

post #23 of 92
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how much are people gaining with their twin pregnancies? Im about 21/22w right now and at a 16-17lb gain. Wondering if that is on the high or normal or low side of things..


I posted in another thread about the weight goals and my own experience. There are a few quotes about food and gaining from Dr. Luke's book in my post, I don't want to duplicate them here.

 

She mentions these weight gain targets:  "for 20 weeks: Singletons 12 lbs, Twins 25 lbs, Triplets 35 lbs."
 

I think the goal is to pad on the pounds before the 3rd trimester. I've found it true that it's harder to gain weight in the end of pregnancy, I don't know why. The "starving" feeling is gone, and I don't get enough activity to stimulate the appetite. And the stomach space is shrinking. I eat a lot, but the latest gain is mostly water weight, the swelling is noticeable, I bought compression knee-highs.

 

~Adorkable~ posted in the same thread that in the end of pregnancy, the babies kept gaining and she started losing weight, the book mentions that too.

post #24 of 92
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I am wondering what sort of births everyone is planning?

 

So far (almost 22w) I have one baby transverse and one breech so I am preparing for a c-section as my only birthing option but also hoping I might be able to try a vaginal birth. . It seems twins come early but isn't always the case and I still can't figure out what causes the earlier births? DS was born at almost 42w naturally so I am expecting even if I am 'late' I will be 'on time'


The babies still have a lot of time to move around!  At my 20w ultrasound (last time) my girls were changing positions a lot, and I actually had two footling breech babies in the ultrasound that they sent to my doc who informed me that I would obviously need a c-section.  At 38 weeks I had two vertex babies and a natural unmedicated vaginal delivery.  Just to give you some hope :)

 

I think some of the earlier birth comes from the added weight and pressure on the cervix...the body can only take so much!

 

I've gained 5 lbs so far and I'm nearly 16 weeks.  Last time around (I feel like a broken record saying that, sorry!), I lost weight in the first trimester and then gained it back in the second and ended up gaining about 35 lbs total.  I found that between nausea and m/s I just couldn't put anything on in the first tri but was able to eat more in the second...and less as I got huge and had much less room for food!
 

post #25 of 92
I love this thread!

I flew from Chicago to Los Angeles for spring break yesterday, and it was rough. I was so uncomfortable, I had heartburn, I was thirsty but then had to get up every 30 min, which my copassengers LOVED, my lower back was killing me, etc. Now that I'm here i feel great, and went to a restorative yoga class tonight that was wonderful and relaxing.

I've been feeling movement, but mainly on the lower right part of my abdomen/uterus. Maybe because that is an area without placenta? Pretty consistent kicks and swipes there, but not much of anything anywhere else. At my last scan thats where Baby A was, so I'm trying not to worry too much about the seeming lack of movement from baby B...

My 20 week scan will be April 26 and i cant wait to find out what combination of boys/girls I'm having. joy.gif
post #26 of 92
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I fly at 24 weeks from Frankfurt to Philadelphia with my toddler in tow. Im really nervous and then I fly back at 26 weeks to Frankfurt.. this reminds me to call the airline and get isle seats :)

post #27 of 92

Bumping this up...

 

Support belt + Suspenders = Happiness. I can feel the weight lifting off my poor pelvis bones. smile.gif  Dh says I look like Super Mario.

 

Nausea and vomiting - not cool. Really, in the 9th month?

 

Blood pressure 145/95 all of a sudden - very not cool. It used to be 125/80, 115/75, around that.

 

 

How is everyone else doing?

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Bumping this up...

 

Support belt + Suspenders = Happiness. I can feel the weight lifting off my poor pelvis bones. smile.gif  Dh says I look like Super Mario.

 

Nausea and vomiting - not cool. Really, in the 9th month?

 

Blood pressure 145/95 all of a sudden - very not cool. It used to be 125/80, 115/75, around that.

 

 

How is everyone else doing?

With the vomiting, are you staying hydrated?  It might effect your BP like that.  Sorry for your discomfort.  Not long, now!
 

 

post #29 of 92

You are right! I was out to see the doctor and probably didn't get enough to drink, hence being sick again. I get enough water when I'm at home. I can get nauseous but I thought getting truly sick was long gone. I'd better watch the water intake when I go for another doctor's appointment... But the BP was taken before I got dehydrated, so that's the scary part. I don't like those numbers. greensad.gif

post #30 of 92
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I just landed in Frankfurt this morning on the red eye from the US.. survived the flight with toddler and DH in tow (amazingly DH was more to deal with then DS).

 

I am doing ok. I am about 26w now.. having a lot of BHs and noticed if I eat the wrong things I tend to feel sort of dizzy or shaky after, which is a bit concerning. Hoping the BHs are just that and not prelabor.. we will see.

 

Ive been having bouts of nausea as well, so perhaps it comes with twins? I have no idea.

 

 

 

Question: how many of you are planning a natural birth vs. a scheduled c-s? and do you mind if I ask which you are choosing and why?
 

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having a lot of BHs and noticed if I eat the wrong things I tend to feel sort of dizzy or shaky after, which is a bit concerning. 

 



I get like this if my blood sugar is low, whether pregnant or not.  Of course, pregnancy makes me all the more sensitive.  But make sure you are eating lots of quality protein before eating carbs.  

post #32 of 92

Hey Everyone,

I'm 30 weeks today witl di/di boys. Some people have it easy, some have it hard. As a really positive person, the severity of the suckiness of this pregnancy is a little shocking. I don't want to make anyone worried, as all pregnancies are different.

 

1st Trimester: Worse morning sickness than with my singleton. A few serious migraines. Breastfeeding my 6-10 month old was really draining, especially when I went back to work after maternity leave, already pregnant again with twins, and getting up 4x night to nurse my baby with my dwindling supply. That was crazy.

 

2nd/3rd Trimester: There really wasn't a 2nd, it went from 1st to "3rd" immediately!! Hehe. My belly was just so big, it feels like I've been in the 3rd for a while. I developed gestational diabetes, but my sugar readings have all been great. I have hip and pubic pain, and occasional shooting pain up from my ankle. I have been congested for 5 months, and my appetite is really weird. I gained a lot of weight as Dr. Luke's book recommended, and now it's really leveling off. I have no appetite (as a PP mentioned, it is probably due to my lack of movement). I have very little energy for anything. Very weird as a person who everyone joked as being compulsively fit and active.

 

I had labor at 27 weeks, due to bacterial vaginosis. I went on antibiotics, ibuprofen, and nifedipene, and those all have controlled the contractions. I had to be on strict bed rest for a week after that because my cervix was shortened to 2.1cm and it was funnelling. But, as of last week, my cervix is back to 3.5cm and looks great, so I'm back at work.

 

Now...I can't imagine having up to 8 more weeks of this! The hardest part is my 1-year-old cutie that I can't carry or play rough with. Daddy is picking up all the slack (and I mean everything!). God bless a husband who can cook and a great babysitter who loves my little one.

 

Now, I just am shocked at my body. I can't believe it's me! On some days I feel like a goddess, and on others I don't think I will ever regain my fitness and hard body.

 

So sorry if I'm being negative! I really have to laugh at the hard stuff because what else is there to do?

 

Another reminder: I have a coworker with breast cancer. She feels terrible every day too, and I complain about this temporary condition that produces two beautiful babies? Wa, Wa.

post #33 of 92

 

Originally Posted by ithappened View Post

Question: how many of you are planning a natural birth vs. a scheduled c-s? and do you mind if I ask which you are choosing and why?
 


I will attempt the VBAC if Baby A is vertex and labor begins before 38 weeks. My doctor doesn't feel comfortable inducing me with a one-year-old C-section scar. I've never labored before as my son was delivered via c-section because he was breech.

 

I'm very nervous about it, but it would be great to be able to twist and move sooner after birth.

post #34 of 92

Oh dear. Sounds so so hard. Sending you hugs and the treat of your choice. Twin pregnancy can be very very tough. And the fact that there are babies at the end is awesome, but it doesn't negate the struggle you're going through right now. So complain, if that helps. And definitely laugh at the hard stuff, because laughter is good for the soul.

 

Check out the laws in your state. In some places you can go on maternity leave a month before your due date, or even earlier if you and your doctor feel it would be best. Don't know if that works for your family, but it's something to look in to. And twins, on average, come a bit early. (but hold out as long as makes sense, given the medical circumstances. No NICU time is *awesome* and it's more likely if you get closer to term) (I was on bed rest for three months, then delivered at 36 weeks 2 days, but that was things very specific to my pregnancy)

 

You have a wonderful husband, and you are doing amazing things. And they're really hard. And it's fine to struggle. But you are amazing.

post #35 of 92
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Now, I just am shocked at my body. I can't believe it's me! On some days I feel like a goddess, and on others I don't think I will ever regain my fitness and hard body.

 

 

me too. i try not to think about it, I know there is nothing I can do but I do really hate being pregnancy because it makes my usual active liftstyle impossible some days..

 

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I will attempt the VBAC if Baby A is vertex and labor begins before 38 weeks. My doctor doesn't feel comfortable inducing me with a one-year-old C-section scar. I've never labored before as my son was delivered via c-section because he was breech.

 

I'm very nervous about it, but it would be great to be able to twist and move sooner after birth.

 

How long was your c/s recovery? I mean, in terms of being able to not be in pain, exercise etc again?

 

 

rinap do you know why they tend to be born earlier? My DS was almost 42.5ws so I am curious what early means for me..

post #36 of 92

Originally Posted by ithappenedView Post

 

 

How long was your c/s recovery? I mean, in terms of being able to not be in pain, exercise etc again?

 

I had a great c/s recovery! I was walking .5 mile in a week, a mile in 2 weeks, and 2 miles by 3 weeks. I was up to running 3 miles with baby in the stroller by 10 weeks. I had sex again by 4 weeks (completely weird and unspectacular, but it was good to get it out of the way).

 

I had topical pain around my incision when wearing any non-loungewear for about 8 weeks. So, I stayed in stretchy clothes or in pants with the big soft maternity panels. Be careful with underwear, as many styles run right across the scar line! The deep pain inside eased up in a couple weeks.

 

Don't push it if you don't feel up to it. If you overexert, you will feel sore in your abdomen and you will bleed more.

 

post #37 of 92

Some of it is because of planed c-sections, which is probably not relevant to you.

 

Some women go into labor earlier, and the theory is that it's because there's a whole baby's worth of weight on the cervix long before that would happen in a single pregnancy. Basically, the body says "okay! this is as much baby as we can handle, get it out." And twins are considered full-term at 36 weeks: they tend to be more mature at 36 weeks than singletons would be.

 

In our case, with one placenta, we looked at some studies and there were better results *for twins with one placenta* in getting them out before week 37.

 

But I think in a lot of cases, two babies is twice as much weight, and it's just harder on both mom and babies, so if there is a tendency for something to go wrong, it's more likely to go wrong (in terms of preeclampsia), and there are twice as many babies (so twice as many chances for there to be issues there), in addition to twin-specific issues like twin to twin transfusion (again, only in single-placenta cases) and single-sack issues.

 

Also, in cases where the babies were IVF, statistically, there are more preterm babies born, and that's a not insignificant proportion of multiples.

 

For single babies, average the average birth is at 41 weeks. (why they have decided that 40 weeks is the right time is an interesting question), second babies tend to be a bit earlier regardless.

 

I agree. It will be interesting to see when your twins are born. Lots of twin moms go to term or past it. And have big healthy babies. (mine were early, but six pounds each, which was awesome)

 

I will say, that while you may well be able to carry to term, remember that there are two babies in there. You are building two bodies and brains. So you may have to slow down more than you did with your first baby, and earlier. And you may have issues like fitting into cars (I couldn't drive eventually because I just didn't fold that well). So be gentle to yourself.

 

 

post #38 of 92

I'd love a DDC sort of thread for us!!

 

I'm in the October DDC right now, but pretty sure I won't make it to 40 weeks (Oct 1st).

 

On the other hand, I went to 42 with my DD1.. :)

post #39 of 92

Caitlyn, we're only a day apart!  I'm due on Sept 30 with di/di twin girls.  I'd love to do a kind of DDC.

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Question: how many of you are planning a natural birth vs. a scheduled c-s? and do you mind if I ask which you are choosing and why?
 

 

 

I'm hoping for natural.  I've talked to my OB about it and she's on board as long as Baby A is vertex.  This is my first pregnancy and I want it to be as natural as possible, even if I do have to deliver in the OR (standard for twins in my hospital).

post #40 of 92
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Right now baby A is vertex but Baby B is extremely transverse breech which is making me a bit nervous
 

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