Joanie, . I think this is a crazy time for a lot of us with regards to sleeping. I get worried about it too; KJ has decided her bedtime is pretty consistently 10pm, and even when she's 95% asleep, she can't help pushing herself up into a sitting position over. and over. and over again. She never soothes herself to sleep, either. There have been maybe 3 times when she's nursed, turned away (still slightly awake), and settled to sleep herself. But even then she's pretty much nursed to sleep first.
I say this with great compassion and empathy: try to see the humor in this. Oh I wish I had a better way to say that; I know when my DH tells me to see the humor in something that is pissing me off, I want to set his face on fire. So please, don't set my face on fire when I say that lightening up and laughing a little will do you a world of good, I promise. Last night when KJ was compulsively sitting herself up at 10pm (after acting sleepy for more than an hour), and DH and I just started laughing... oh what a weight was lifted. Cause what am I gonna do? She's doing what her body and mind COMMAND her to do. She's not being contrary or bratty, you know? So is the case with Sora. Plus, you will blink and she will be a preteen who doesn't need your help ever and you might even be wistful for these days (maybe).
I do relate, I really do. But I think approaching this with a light heart and a sense of humor will help you feel better all-around. Again, .