My daughter is almost 3, and goes to a preschool/daycare. When I pick her up at the end of the day, it's only her, the guide (it's a montessori school) and the guide's daughter left. When we're getting to leave, I ask DD, would you like to say goodbye? Often DD will not say goodbye to her friend, only her teacher (they shake hands). The guide's daughter sometimes looks hurt, which I don't like to see.
I know I can't and shouldn't force or try to shame my daughter into saying goodbye... but I don't like seeing that it's hurt the other girls' feelings either. Her mom will help by explaining that my DD doesn't feel like saying that right now, but I'm not sure what to say to my daughter about it. Do I just prompt and then, if she won't do it, just ignore it? Is there a way to gently make her aware of the affect her actions have on her friend?
I get the sense that sometimes she doesn't like to say goodbye because it makes her sad to leave, which is understandable.
The two girls are really close, and most of the time they get along fine, though I understand that they sometimes get on each other's nerves (natural for spending so much time together!).
Thanks for any advice!