So here is the deal I took an active role in talking with two pregnant moms on circumcision. I sent them both video links regarding circumcision and the forskin. One was "An ELephant in the Room" and the other was regarding what the forskin is responsible for. I also included a message stating that I knew this was a sensitive topic which many parents feel is completely private but I was going to break the social rules and message them any way. I also stated that unless they wanted to debate said topic I would not email them further or ask what their decision was. I just wanted to give them some info and urge them to consider it. Both moms are part of a large local online mommy group. One is a FB friend but not someone I regularly hang out with but we share common friendships. One is a mom I only know through the mommy group but have never met.
So my FB friend thanked me for the information and we ended the conversation. That's fine.
The other girl, we will call "Sarah" wrote me back with roughly the following...
She couldn't watch the videos beyond 2 minutes because it grossed her out. She had a few encounters with uncut men in her lifetime and was sooooo beyond grossed out that she dumped all of them and refused to talk to one ever again. She sees the forskin as expendable as the appendix. She thanked me for the info but could not rightly send her child into such an anti-forskin world and compared keeping her child intact to giving her child a handicap. She also stated she believes father and son should look the same.
Ok so I'm sure if you are anything like me and are very much against the routine cutting of infants then you've probably just been to the bathroom to throw up. I'll pause to let you pull yourself together.
Naturally I wanted to start debating her but I held onto what I originally said and only wrote her back to say...
"I'm very sorry you feel that way. I'm saddened that society has made many to belief something that is completely natural as disgusting. If you would like me to provide you with a link for making your sons circumcision as painless as possible and things to watch out for I can." She wanted the link and I provided her with one written by a mothering.com member to her sister when she could not convince her sister not to circumcise.
Ok and now for the venty part.
Are people idiots? I mean really? WTH! How can anyone in their right mind cut their child because they think it looks gross? It makes me sick to my stomach and makes me wish these types of people would stop reproducing. Ahhhhh! I know circumcision is still popular in American society but now with so many resources and evidence showing that infant circumcision is pointless.... Why do people still do it?!?!? I can't believe (although i know it) there are parents out there who refuse to do any research on a topic when it makes a huge impact on their child.
I'm not against circumcision. If an adult male wants it or even a teenager who's done research and has parent approval by all means have at it.
I know a study has come out recently stating circumcision has been shown to help prevent HIV... To which I reply... So does a flipping condom! Which all public school children in the USA are taught about in health class. We are not a third-world country without resources or knowledge on safe sex. You can even get free condoms in most cities in America. Also I don't know of any BABIES OR YOUNG CHILDREN having sex and for that matter if there are children having sex there is a much larger problem than a bit of forskin!
In conclusion.... People like Sarah really challenge my hope for humanity.
I don't need advice on this topic. I really just needed to vent in a place with like minded people. Thank you for reading.