I am pregnant with my third and need to tell my close friend who has been struggling with IF for five years. She has gotten pregnant four times but has had four early miscarriages (one very recently) and is obviously in very deep distress about this. I am dreading telling her at all, but obviously need to. She actually lives far away but we talk on the phone almost every day. I know that, given her emotional state, she is in no way going to be happy for me, which I completely understand and am fine with. I just want to tell her in the most painless way possible. Should I do it over the phone or by email? Any ideas on ways I can cushion the blow?