My DS will be 4 in April. He's been in pre-K since October. The preschool is great; however, DH and I are always getting talked to about our DS's behavior in school. He's a very active boy, but a very sweet, smart boy. His teacher always tells me about his personal space issues at school. He seems to bother the other kids and always seems to touch them. It seems he can't contain himself. They have been working with him on that and it seemed to have gotten better; however, recently he has been doing it again. (Keep in mind we do have a new baby in the house, so it could be part of the adjusting.) Now, the teacher says she can hear other kids telling him to stop, so now it's really bothering the other kids, if it wasn't already. I take note when we're out with him around other kids and he seems to be like velcro to them. He'll follow them around and get in their face, as if he is trying to make a friend. I am boggled by this behavior because the kid acts like he's never around people! He's always around people; however, besides school, he is not really around other kids his age too much, so I wonder if that is part of it. I wonder if he is unsure how to act around other kids his age, but then again, he's been around kids his age consistently for a few months now and should know better, I think.
Here's my dilemma....I have thought about a therapy evaluation (for a possible sensory issue) in the past but have put it off because I believe labels are given far too easily anymore, and I really wanted to give him time to mature. (I've read about sensory issues and it seems he has a couple of symptoms but not enough for me to truly believe he has this issue.)I do think he is immature for his age and am hoping he grows out of it and learns. On the other hand, he doesn't seem to be getting it just yet. The thing that is really bothering me is that if he is bothering the kids, the kids won't like him and he can develop low self-esteem. He is such a cool kid when he's not behaving like that and he has the greatest personality. He deserves to have a lot of friends. He's very outgoing.
I guess my question is, is this normal behavior for a 3/4-year-old? I know kids have issues with personal space but when I look around, I don't see other kids do what he does. Does this behavior warrant therapy?
So confused on what to do and will take tips/advice/experiences.
Edited by SilverMoon010 - 3/21/12 at 11:02am