I'm at the point with DD1 where I'm considering giving up homeschooling (we were unschooling for now). it's not a for sure thing.. if you've BTDT and have had to give it up due to your child's medical/special needs, can you help me out and help me feel better about it?
DD is 4yo. She is going in to the OT tomorrow for her first re-eval in a year (she was evaluated a year ago and put on a waiting list). We suspect some sort of ASD thing going on- she is a very bright child with serious quirks and behavior issues. She has social anxiety as well, and is just "different" in general. She'll be seeing the OT weekly.
I'm worried she'd be labeled the "shy kid" by teachers and not be eligible for an IEP (not sure how that works- we don't have a diagnosis other than sensory processing disorder, at this point), like I was, and struggle in a classroom environment.
I'm worried she's not "academically" ready for preschool or kindergarten. Her birthday is in December, so this school year she'd be in the second year of preschool. She doesn't know how to read, but I'm not sure when kids are taught to read. She knows all of her uppercase letters and some lowercase ones. She can write them just fine. She can't count in order to 10- she has always, always struggled with numbers (though she can recognize numbers 1-9). She can count to four. She has done some adding on her own with blueberries but that was the extent of it. She'd rather build a blanket tent or a tower with blocks, or color. She colors all day long... and she memorizes books.
I've been reluctant to put her in public school because we've been very media free.. no TV, no character stuff, nothing like that. I like it. I know things would change. I'm afraid of it but willing to accept it, I think. Our local school, where she'd be going, has nickelodeon listed and linked as one of their resources for pre-k students to go to on their website. That worries me.
I want to put her in school because I feel like she needs the socialization part. I feel like her behavior issues are control oriented and she needs to learn how to work with others. I feel like she's going to need an IEP. Her issues IMO will most certainly affect her education.
And then, I sorta feel sick to my stomach, and feel like I'm institutionalizing her.. I just don't know how I feel about it. I know my husband will oppose it (even though he wouldn't be doing ANY of the homeschooling and always says "it's up to you" implying that if it backfires it's all my fault). Family members will say "I told you so!", and I'm just.. ugh. I don't know.