She's 11 and he's never gotten specialized help for her. He's just now getting therapy for her, but not specialized to help her with her "theory of mind" deficits (practice perceiving what people are thinking and feeling) and social skills and help for her debilitating anxiety. And her motor tics and gross and fine motor skills deficits.
I've tried pushing it since this is impacting me and my son now as we try hanging out together which is a new thing. His daughter has a phobia of crying. My son cried and she avoided us for the next 36 hours of our visit and couldn't wait for us to leave. My son and I were walking on eggshells after that.
We have another visit planned and I'm stressed out. We tried doing some homegrown CBT with my beau's daughter about it but I'm sure it's going to be a big issue. My son has said that he doesn't like my beau's daughter because of how it was last time we visited.
My boyfriend said that they (he and his ex) didn't want to have their daughter "labeled" even though a neurologist offered to give a diagnosis when she was like 4 or 5 years old. Are there some good sites or examples of Aspie's being glad they had the diagnosis to work with or being angry they did or didn't get the diagnosis?
HELP!?! and thanks in advance.
Is there a way to X-post this in "blending families"?
Edited by emma goldman - 3/22/12 at 11:40am