I'm wondering where other moms are at when it comes to cleanliness of the floor and general household cleanliness with their crawling infant.
I am a first time mama, my ds is 7 and 1/2 months old and just started crawling. We have gone the no-vax route.
We had to move around a lot after he was born due to abusiveness in our domestic situation, and as of this February live in a collective household of ten people (including us) to give us a sense of community and also cut the costs (I'm low-income with no child support or outside help).
Ok, so back to the topic at hand. The household I live with has kids, but they are two teens and a 10 year old. It's a bit of a "punk house" with kids, anarchistic, countercultural, blah blah. And I am having major issues with the level of cleanliness to that is kept by the group as a whole. The floors are generally filthy, and I just made a request that we start a no-shoes rule in the house since we live in a dense urban environment and I don't feel comfortable with the shoes in here given the amount of time everyone seems to spend cleaning (little to none). So far there is general cooperation with the shoes-off agreement, but some people aren't so into it and don't respect it.
The kitchen is at best wiped down on the very surface but very sticky and grimey. The bathroom is difficult for me to deal with, mildew and gunk in the shower that I can't even get out.
There are three cats, one dog, and a hamster.
I feel a lot of emotions around this and I think it might just be a new mom thing and also control thing, given that I planned to have more control of Nate's home environment before our lives were disrupted. But I also really feel like there is some basic standard of cleanliness that needs to be kept for a baby.
Plain old dirt isn't an issue for me, but urban filth is quite another thing.
I am just starting to get out there and try to meet other moms with babies after our whirlwind of traveling for a home, so I don't have anyone to speak with about this. The mom who lives here seems to think it's more about my own issues than anything else, but she has teens and is very wrapped up in their current age dilemmas.
Any thoughts? I really need stability and to be in a place that I can afford, but I'm considering leaving.