My daughter just turned four and has recently started lying. I know everyone will say it's because I have a new baby, but this started long before the baby. She is never punished so she isn't doing it out of fear. She has been really sneaky lately as well and the two seem to go hand in hand.
She used to be a real stickler for rules and was very well-behaved. Now I catch her doing sneaky things all the time. She isn't allowed to go into her father's office, for example. Just a while ago, I found her in there eating his stash of cookies he saves for himself. Other times when I wasn't looking, she dumped a pot of dirt all over the dog as she was sleeping in her bed and took the broom, dipped it in the dog's bowl repeatedly and painted the walls with it and the dirt. All of these things she insists she did not do. She told me the dog did it. Sometimes she will say it was "magic." This morning she asked me for some gummy vitamins and when I asked if her father had already gotten her some, she insisted he had not. When I asked, him he said he had already given them to her. There are so many more things she has done. She does things she knows she should not all day long and then lies about it afterward. This behavior is not like her at all.
I have tried talking to her about honesty, about how lying hurts me and how it can be dangerous (like in the case of the vitamins). She looks at me and seem to empathize, but five minutes later, she's getting into more trouble. It has turned into an all-day-long thing. I'm so tired of watching her every second and now I have a newborn, so it's even more difficult and she has found more little moments in which I'm busy where she can skitter off and get into big trouble.
I also try to give her extra attention and fun time with me, but that doesn't seem to be helping.
I can't use time-out because there is no way to get her into time-out that does not involve physical violence. I really believe in parenting without punishing (it's only going to make her lie more anyway just so she won't get into trouble) so what can I do?