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what do you wish you had known?

post #1 of 10
Thread Starter 

i have two friends due with their first babies late aug/early sept and i thought it would be fun to make them a little "guide" with little tidbits of info i wish i had known before i had a baby/gave birth! even if it's not your first, i'd love to hear suggestions and such from you guys. nothing is tmi. wink1.gif i'll add my list soon!

post #2 of 10

I wish I had known:

 

* that some babies just want to nurse all.the.time.  literally.

 

* that no matter how you try to respond to their needs, some babies just cry. no matter what you do. and crying in loving, confused parent's arms is NOT crying-it-out.

 

* that if your family isn't the kind to be truly helpful (ie: cleaning house, making meals, etc, while being out of the way), then do whatever you can to postpone their visits (if they are traveling to see you) or to shorten their visits (if they live close).

 

* most friends and family that make judgmental comments actually mean to be helpful, even if it doesn't seem that way at first (not always the case, I know). Plan what your response will be now, so you can let it roll off your back instead of letting it eat you up. My favorite is the "pass the bean dip" method.

 

This list would be infinitely longer if it hadn't been for this DDC! So here are a few things I'm glad I knew:


* that I would still look 5 months pregnant for a few weeks after DS was born

 

* that I shouldn't bother looking "down there" for a couple weeks

 

* that I should stock my freezer with yummy, easy foods and snacks because I was often too tired to even put something in the microwave

 

 

post #3 of 10

That I should have found a chiropractor with a lot of experience working on babies. Mine was great but I wonder if the boob trouble would have happened if he was with this better one sooner.

post #4 of 10
ok, this is a fun thread!

I wish I would have known that I would still have lots of food restrictions after pregnancy due to breastfeeding. I had no idea chocolate, onions and dairy would be off the table and I would have eaten them more while pregnant. lol...
post #5 of 10

It's ok to ask for help.

 

Sleep deprivation is honestly a form of torture. You're going to lose your mind, but it's ok.  You'll get thru.

 

You absolutely can have a glass or two (or more) of wine and still breastfeed.

 

Find breastfeeding support before the baby comes!!!!

 

Do what feels right to you, and don't worry about what other people say (esp regards to cosleeping, bfing, and what you choose to do with vaccines and circ).

 

 

 

 

post #6 of 10

I really wish I had been more prepared for how much sleep I would actually be losing.  My best friend's baby is 2 months old and sleeps 10 hours straight,  Ada's longest is still around 7 hours and she's 7.5 months old.  I always read that babies can start to sleep through the night around 3 months so I thought that's what she would do.  Boy, was I wrong!

 

Any single person that EVER asks you if you want them to sit with the baby while you take a nap, DO IT.  They won't keep asking you forever.

post #7 of 10

This is what I would tell myself 37 weeks preggo if I could talk to her now;

 

- do not leave picking a pedi to the week right before you are due. She will arrive a week early and you will end up going to the first one on your list

- tell your partner/family not to zoom in on your arm fat while taking the pics of the baby

- when your midwive/doctor tells you to rest, that means stay in  bed/couch w the baby not grocery shopping or beach walks the first week

- Colase is your friend

- they look breakable, just watch the neck, the rest of it is pretty durable

- do not say no to a meal train

- be prepared to cut very tiny but sharp nails

- cry/lough whenever you want to, leave analysing everything for later

- do not bother buying socks for the baby

- enjoy every minute

post #8 of 10
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Originally Posted by elove View Post

This is what I would tell myself 37 weeks preggo if I could talk to her now;

 

- do not leave picking a pedi to the week right before you are due. She will arrive a week early and you will end up going to the first one on your list

- tell your partner/family not to zoom in on your arm fat while taking the pics of the baby

- when your midwive/doctor tells you to rest, that means stay in  bed/couch w the baby not grocery shopping or beach walks the first week

- Colase is your friend

- they look breakable, just watch the neck, the rest of it is pretty durable

- do not say no to a meal train

- be prepared to cut very tiny but sharp nails

- cry/lough whenever you want to, leave analysing everything for later

- do not bother buying socks for the baby

- enjoy every minute


wise words

 

post #9 of 10
Quote:
Originally Posted by elove View Post

This is what I would tell myself 37 weeks preggo if I could talk to her now;

 

- tell your partner/family not to zoom in on your arm fat while taking the pics of the baby


Or your double chin!!  

 

post #10 of 10

My tips:
When you start solids pick something other than banana's first. The resulting poop is really horrible. Work up to it. lol 

You do not need a million pieces of clothing. Just lots of bibs and burp clothes.

a baby tub isn't a necessity And that goes for nearly all the baby must haves. 
If planning to breastfeed pick a cover for your pillow that makes you happy when you look at it. It will be your friend for a long time. 
Trusting your instinct is more important than anything else. No one else knows YOUR baby like YOU. Not even your husband. 
Learn what your baby's cries mean. It will save your sanity. 

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