Pregnant w/ #5, shocked. Really, really shocked. LOL « Back to Group Discussions

[HarperRose]

Hi! I'm Harper. Mom of 3, pregnant w/ #5 (miscarried in 2005), and in complete and utter SHOCK.
 

We were taking precautions. We haven't had an issue since AF started back after weaning my youngest. Clockwork cycle, I can tell about 2-3 days before AF that it's coming. This time: not one single symptom AT ALL. So I tested. First was negative, 2nd was a blotch in the positive spot, 3rd was a very faint bfp. I'm 5 weeks. 

To say I'm in shock is an understatement. My youngest is 4.5 years old, I just gifted my beloved Ergo to a friend w/ a 2 month old, I passed his convertible car seat on to an acquaintance for one of his grand kids, and I only have an umbrella stroller that I still use for him on long outings. 

I actually shut down on Sunday when I realized what was in store. Don't get me wrong ,we are very happy, excited, and looking forward to a new baby, however unplanned it was. The trauma, however, is because I know how sick I typically get in pregnancy and knowing I was looking down the barrel of a gun for the rest of this year did not give me any warm fuzzies in any way. 

That gun is hyperemesis gravidarum and I had it BAD during my last pregnancy, but my mw didn't understand it, didn't know what she was dealing with, and so I fired her at 32 wks, going on to self-treat the HG and have an unassisted homebirth. (I don't recommend self treating HG. I spent time in the hospital more than once and threw up blood more than once.)

This time, because I don't want to get as sick as I was, I've opted to see a midwife who works with an OB and birth in a hospital again. I'm actually very ok with it even though my first birth resulted in diagnosed PTSD due to the trauma of it, which led me to homebirth my next 2 kids. I feel like a hospital is where I need to be this time. 

I'm waiting for the hg to hit, but hoping it's not as bad as my last go-round. Doubtful, but one can hope, right? :)

About Us:

Max - age 12 (in 2 more weeks), hospital birth

Rachel - age 10, hb w/ midwives

Miscarriage in 2005 at 12/13 wks

Thomas - age 4.5, UC

[chrissy]

Congratulations!  I really, really hope your HG isn't as bad this time!  When does it usually start for you?

[finnegansmom]

Congrats!!!  Ours wasn't planned either and we gave some of our newborn/infant things away as well.  I have a 13 month old so we're not that far out of the loop but we will need a new moses basket/bassinette and a few other things...

I hope your hg is kind to you this time around...

[greenmamato2]

Congratulations. :)  I KNOW how scary it can be.  Ours was a TOTAL surprise this time around too, though a happy one.  My oldest is 10, youngest is 6, and I have NOOOO baby things for this coming little one.  I got rid of everything after my second miscarriage at 12 weeks.  

I also had HG with my 12 week miscarriage.  I can't say I know what you went through, having had it your whole pregnancy since mine ended at 12 weeks, but I remember how HORRIBLE it was when I did have it.  

Have you had it with all of your pregnancies?  Have you had any symptoms yet?  When does it usually start for you?

I am 7 and a half weeks, and have had what I consider "normal" morning sickness so far, though I am waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak.  Hopefully it won't for either of us!

[Bella Catalina]

Congratulations, mama. I hope by some miracle you don't have HG this pregnancy.

I can relate to the shock. Our youngest is 3.5 and we're starting over with all the "big stuff" - car seat, stroller, bassinet/moses basket and all that. A friend just gave me a bunch of her daughter's outgrown clothes and I'll hold onto them until we know what we're having, but I've given away all but a few pieces of our boy clothing.

[Gray's Mommy]

Welcome & congrats...hope that your HG doesn't kick in at all!!!

[HarperRose]

I have had it every pregnancy except the m/c. It starts around 5 or 6 weeks, I'm 5 wks today, so we shall see what the next week brings...

So far I'm just nauseous and some dizziness. I'm the same way -- when am I gonna start puking blood again? you know? 

I blogged about it:

http://parentingwithaspergers.blogspot.com/2012/03/expecting-new-baby.html
 

Originally Posted by greenmamato2 

Congratulations. :)  I KNOW how scary it can be.  Ours was a TOTAL surprise this time around too, though a happy one.  My oldest is 10, youngest is 6, and I have NOOOO baby things for this coming little one.  I got rid of everything after my second miscarriage at 12 weeks.  

I also had HG with my 12 week miscarriage.  I can't say I know what you went through, having had it your whole pregnancy since mine ended at 12 weeks, but I remember how HORRIBLE it was when I did have it.  

Have you had it with all of your pregnancies?  Have you had any symptoms yet?  When does it usually start for you?

I am 7 and a half weeks, and have had what I consider "normal" morning sickness so far, though I am waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak.  Hopefully it won't for either of us!

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by chrissy 

Congratulations!  I really, really hope your HG isn't as bad this time!  When does it usually start for you?

Thank you!! Around 5 or 6 weeks, so anytime.... :-/

Originally Posted by finnegansmom 

Congrats!!!  Ours wasn't planned either and we gave some of our newborn/infant things away as well.  I have a 13 month old so we're not that far out of the loop but we will need a new moses basket/bassinette and a few other things...

I hope your hg is kind to you this time around...

Originally Posted by Bella Catalina 

Congratulations, mama. I hope by some miracle you don't have HG this pregnancy.

I can relate to the shock. Our youngest is 3.5 and we're starting over with all the "big stuff" - car seat, stroller, bassinet/moses basket and all that. A friend just gave me a bunch of her daughter's outgrown clothes and I'll hold onto them until we know what we're having, but I've given away all but a few pieces of our boy clothing.

Thanks!! I hope I'm ok, too. Ugh. Glad to know we aren't the only ones who got rid of nearly everything. LOL
 

I gave away Thomas' car seat literally a WEEK before I got a bfp. Kicking myself now. But it'll work out - it always does. And I gave it to a person whose grand kids were NOT properly buckled and he didn't like that, so he was very happy to have the carseat. I did something good for someone in need and that makes me happy.

Originally Posted by Gray's Mommy 

Welcome & congrats...hope that your HG doesn't kick in at all!!!

Thank you!!

Congratulations to all of you guys, too! How exciting for us all. :)

[jillc512]

Originally Posted by HarperRose 

I gave away Thomas' car seat literally a WEEK before I got a bfp. Kicking myself now. But it'll work out - it always does. And I gave it to a person whose grand kids were NOT properly buckled and he didn't like that, so he was very happy to have the carseat. I did something good for someone in need and that makes me happy.

We bought a box of condoms a week before I got a bfp .  

[eggsandpancakes]

Originally Posted by jillc512 

We bought a box of condoms a week before I got a bfp .  

Us too! And it wasn't a little box either. . . .

[Thyme Mama]

The irony!!!

HarperRose - I hope your HG stays away. I had it with all of my pregnancies, except one, and it is a living hell, I know. I had to manage it on my own. So not fun. It seems to be on the verge of overcoming me this time too. Though somehow I've been keeping it at bay so far. I bought some homeopathics and I have been indulging every dietary whim I can afford to.

[HarperRose]

HG is staying away.... miscarrying. :( Sad. It sucks.

I still find it very amusing about giving away all my stuff the week before the BFP, though. :)

[greenmamato2]

I am so so sorry :(  SO sorry. :(  I know nothing a person can say makes it better, and I am sure you know by now you are not alone... but if you do need anyone to talk to / yell / cry / whatever... we're all here - and you know you can message me.  (((HUGS)))

[HarperRose]

Thanks so much!! 

I'm doing ok. Kind of sad, but it's not nearly as traumatizing and devastating to me as it was last time. I'm doing pretty well, which I'm really glad about and surprised.