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post #41 of 112

I'm squatting a lot while gardening! It's also the easiest way to pick up my son without hurting my back. :)

post #42 of 112

Hello Mommas,

 

So much fun to read everyone's pregnancy journey.

 

Bootsvalentine--I'm throwing up about once a week too. Weird huh? I didn't deal with that my second trimester with my 1st. It's not too bad, though. Just hits and then it's over. Hope this becomes a thing of the past for both of us, though. 

 

I'm so excited! My husband and I have a consultation with an amazing OB in Hudson, WI this Friday. It's over 2 hours away but I really want to birth there because they do VBAC waterbirth. I really want a waterbirth and am glad that my husband is open to the option even though the distance scares him. He's so supportive, though. (I first told him tonight that I have this appointment. Yeah, I was nervous about his response.) All is good, though. I'm optimistic.

 

Wishing all of you a blessed, peaceful and healthy week.

 

Melissa in MN

post #43 of 112

If anyone wants a mid-week laugh, check out this pregnancy video.  Hilarious.  My favorite is her doing a very pregnant Roger Rabbit.  Also, the hilarious Braxton Hicks reference. 

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THAaNPIxEek&feature=share

post #44 of 112

boots and mamamellisa I got hit really hard today with this feeling of motion sickness and then suddenly felt like I needed to throw up (but didn't) odd you are experiencing something similar.

 

lilytiger thank you. that was awesome!

 

 

 

I had a really tough night last night with my toddler, he had a tantrum for almost 4 hours (yes, I kept track). The kind where I am afraid the neighbors will call the police. It all started because we wouldn't let him eat chocolate bars for dinner and then he took a toy truck he has and started to hit the dog with it (which then, we also took the truck away and seperated the dog from him). He was so upset, I have no idea what caused it to snowball so horribly. . .

 

Anyhow, no other news here. I am going to check out the hospital tomorrow which I have mixed feelings about, still wishing I could do the birth center or homebirth route but without any support here to do those things it will be impossible. .

 

We also found out we won't have a car as of this summer which I am now stressed out about. I feel like a lot is going really right and wrong at the same time. Just thankful my family is all healthy including the twins.

post #45 of 112

ithappened - Hugs to you! What a tough night! hug2.gif Is it possible for you to hire a doula? I'm sure you've thought of this but it just sounds so difficult to contemplate birth totally on your own. I'm assuming there are no birth centers there? Otherwise, I'd say you'd get more support there than at the hospital if is going to be just you. I'm sorry if the questions are annoying, I just hate to think of a mom w so little support! You're amazingly strong!

post #46 of 112

ItHappened I'm so sorry to hear about your night.  That sounds so difficult - hard enough even if you weren't pregnant!  I'm glad you guys got through it.  grouphug.gif

post #47 of 112

ithappened  As you know, I can totally relate.  Sorry about your night.  What kinds of action do you take when he freaks out like that?  I've gotten to the point where I just take my little one to her room (which sort of bums me out, cause I hate for her room to be a place of 'punishment') and tell her that when she's ready to stop screaming she can come out.  Sometimes we have to do this 4, 5, 6 times before she stops.  But it's better than screaming back at her.  The 'extinction' stuff only works for me if we're outside when I can get a good distance form her.  Our house is tiny, and she is LOUD.  When I was inthe Montessori classroom we set up a Peace Table- a child sized table where they can sit on the floor- with some nice pictures a little table cloth, and some little flowers, and maybe some nice rocks for the children, and if someone was having a tough time we would lead them to the table until they could collect themselves.  I haven't tried it for my daughter yet, but I'm getting materials together to assemble one.  This could be helpful for your boy.  But it will take some work to get him used to it.  Be sure to expose him to it when he's not having a fit, that way it will be something 'special' for him to learn how to calm himself. 

 

Sorry about the car, too.  Sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now.  Hopefully you are able to find some time to nurture yourself, and relax.  Are you able to walk or do yoga?  A once a week yoga class does wonders for my spirit!

 

We had a session with our midwives yesterday!  Heard the heartbeat- the girls get a real kick out of it!  We ended up having a two hour meeting, which was so needed and so nice.  It gets to be a little mini family therapy session as well as a baby check :)

  I learned I need to up my protein to like every meal and snack.  And they gave me a little heads up on soy.  Anyone have any good vegetarian/vegan ideas for tasty snacks w good protein???  Just lookin for some variety.  Something more interesting than handfuls of nuts!

 

Hope everyone is feeling good today.  I' feeling a bit tired, but the sun is out!!!

 

post #48 of 112

LilyTiger Thanks for the laugh!  That vid is hilarious.  So hilarious I peed my pants a little, hahahahaaa!

post #49 of 112
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Originally Posted by LeAnn A Doula View Post

Is it possible for you to hire a doula? I'm sure you've thought of this but it just sounds so difficult to contemplate birth totally on your own. I'm assuming there are no birth centers there?


No doula's here. There are some in Vienna but thats 5 hours from here. I really wish I could hire someone.. its horrible that I'm dreading birth just because I don't want to do it alone.


 

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Originally Posted by sheaffer View Post

What kinds of action do you take when he freaks out like that?


When my toddler has bad tantrums I usually go to the other side of our apartment (we have a studio so we have no other 'room' but the toilet. Anyhow- after a few minutes I go sit near him and calmly without reacting at anything he does to me start to tell him how its ok to be angry or grumpy but that he needs to do that on his own and not take it out on other people because no one likes to be around mean people and I continue to talk on and on about what I do when Im in a bad mood (go outside, take a nap or shower etc) eventually if I do it long enough he stops.. not always but I found it works really well at some point if he sees me totally calm and explaining to him why 'mean people suck'

 

post #50 of 112

Ithappened, I'm sorry about everything stressing you out.  hug2.gif It stinks to have so many things to stress about when you should just get to focus on being excited.

 

LilyTiger, that video is hilarious.  

 

I've been doing some research about birth centers around where we're moving and I think I found one that may work.  It is only about 20-25 minutes from our house and everyone who has gone there seems to really have enjoyed the experience.  I'm going to set up a tour once I'm up there. They also offer Bradley method classes and I've gotten some recommendations on LLL meetups and the names of some natural and baby wearing groups in the area.  Additionally, I've looked up some pediatricians who are okay with delayed and alternative vac schedules, so I'll have to do some more research on that.

 

B just got to the new house and sent me some more pictures (we didn't actually see it in person when we rented it) and it looks so nice!  There is a huge backyard with a fire pit.  Plus, he says there are a lot of song birds, and I love birds, so I'll be getting some bird feeders to encourage them to hang around.  Although maybe I should put some bells on my cats....  

 

There were some teenagers sitting at the pool at 3 in the morning making a bunch of noise (my apartment is right by the pool) and they woke me up.  All I could think was "What a bunch of hooligans. Don't their parents wonder why they're not at home?"  I finally went out and asked them to please stop yelling at 3am, and they apologized and left shortly after that.  That was totally me when I was a teenager...I'm not looking forward to having a teenager.

post #51 of 112

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Originally Posted by mommamelissa View Post

I'm so excited! My husband and I have a consultation with an amazing OB in Hudson, WI this Friday. It's over 2 hours away but I really want to birth there because they do VBAC waterbirth. I really want a waterbirth and am glad that my husband is open to the option even though the distance scares him. He's so supportive, though. (I first told him tonight that I have this appointment. Yeah, I was nervous about his response.) All is good, though. I'm optimistic.

 



I'm glad you're getting into Dr. H! I have an appointment with him this Friday as well! I hope you and your husband like him!

post #52 of 112

We're having a boy.  I'm alternating between Yay and this is not the third girl I was dreaming of.

post #53 of 112

I usually want a girl when I've been out shopping. LOL. 

 

Oh, I tried a Brest friend pillow at the store a couple nights ago.  OH my goodness!  That thing is amazing.  Anyone used one?  Have any feedback?  I didnt buy it but I think I probably will.

 

ithappened, I'm so good with fits nowadays because I've had to deal with so many. LOL.  I know how to ward them off, to some extent.  But seriously, some things I always watch out for (which you probably already know) are overtired, overstimulated, new things and hungry.  If any of those things are going on, I pretty much just do whatever they want me to.  I know that sounds crazy.  But basically, if I know they are tired or overstimulated and they ask to sit in my chair at dinner, I will let them.  Or if they ask to go outside, I'll go out there with them. Etc. Usually, I'll give some kind of limit along with it, but still give them some control.  I just HATE fits. And maybe that's to lax for some parents, but I'm really authoritarian the rest of the time.  I just try to show mercy when they feel overwhelmed, or whatever.  Make sense? 

 

Then once it starts, I just leave them be usually.  I walk away or ask them to go get control in their rooms (if they are old enough) or stand at the wall till they calm down.  If they are very little, I hold them.  FOUR HOURS is killer. I havent had a child do that since my aspie.  And man, would she throw them.  Even now (12) I still have to do the eggshell dance. LOL (That's what i think of it as...walking on eggshells.)

 

Anyway, just letting you know I understand and telling you what i do.  Basically, it's survive!!!!  LOL.  But there is always a consequence when they calm down. Sometimes it's just the immediate thing...whatever they wanted, they don't get.  But as they get older and understand more, there is a bigger consequence. 

 

 

post #54 of 112

People tend to have a "love it!" or "hate it!" feeling about both the Boppy and the MBF. Me, I started with MBF and didn't like it, and when I switched to a Boppy, it was amazing. But I know the reverse is true for others. I think it's one of those things where you really need to try both to determine which works best for you!

post #55 of 112

I am totally behind on reading the threads this week! I'm probably responding to issues and questions that are far from your minds by now... I agree that it's amazing to be at the potential halfway point right now!! 

 

Sol, I am into tons of fruit, veggies, and and gelato this week. I was really into spicy Mexican for a while, but this week I got some spicy arrabiata pasta sauce that I've been experimenting with. 

LilyTiger, I'm sorry you had that scare at night, but that sounds like something I would worry myself about, too. I saw that video linked through babble's pregnancy blogs and thought it was great!

Demeter, it's great that you can feel movement from the outside. I think I can, but then call dh and he can only feel it half of the time. 

Sallyrae, how exciting you'll see the babe soon! I still can't get over looking at the pictures we have and thinking that he's growing inside of me. It's amazing.

LeAnn, I will only have dh at the birth because the rest of our family is far away.

NewMumJoy, I'm jealous of your tapas meal! Sounds great.

Sheaffer, it's great that you can walk daily! I wish I could. Dh and I took a great walk yesterday, but it took us a lot longer to do fewer miles than when I walk alone. What was great was all the important issues we discussed that slip our minds when we are just in the house after work.

Boots, I do hope you get another scan and find out the sex! Sorry about the discomfort.

Waffler, I got the flu shot the month before I got pregnant. I always get it, though, mostly because of my intense fear of vomiting.

Ainh, those pollen counts sound tremendous! We now live in a part of the country with really intense pollen in the spring, but strangely it doesn't affect me like at "home" on the east coast!? Dh usually gets hit hard, though, and loses his voice.

Keuriweo, happy 19w :) and hope your scan goes well on Fri!

Happy 18w, Lakeruby!

Ithappened, I do hope you won't be alone for the birth of your twins. Congrats on the job and the probable boy/girl mix!! Sorry about the car. I hate driving in Europe (well, at least Spain) but I am sure it is much different if you don't live in a very urban or concentrated area.

Veritas, the new house sounds lovely. 

Congrats on finding out the sex, Honey, despite the slight ambivalence. 

Intime0 and Cecilia'sMom, I'm hoping to use the snoogle somehow for support for nursing; there seem to be so many positions for it on the insert I got in the package.

 

Not much new here, probably why I haven't jumped in earlier, and work has been kind of intense lately. I am enjoying feeling more consistent movement, even at random times when I'm not necessarily still. And since last Friday lots of people at work have suddenly realized I'm pregnant, which is pretty funny. It is also kind of a relief to see them notice/realize because it also means that I'm not really the subject of much gossip, I suppose, although most of us are pretty independent.

 

My complaint for the week is hemorrhoids, which sucks because I am not suffering from constipation!?!? So, they just randomly came on, I guess from pressure and sitting? I don't know, but am not enjoying it. It's not a terrible case, but uncomfortable nonetheless.

 

I have a ton of research still to do before the consignment sale Friday and am not sure when I will have time to do it. Definitely looking for some good stroller options.

 


 

post #56 of 112
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Originally Posted by Honey693 View Post

We're having a boy.  I'm alternating between Yay and this is not the third girl I was dreaming of.



*hugs* I was gutted when I found out my son was a boy. Now I'm pretty cool with it. :) That's why I found out with both kids. - If I was going to be disappointed, i'd have a few months to get used to the idea of the gender I was having!!!!!

 

I LOATHED my boppy. I got it 2ndhand though, so maybe that had something to do with it but I HATED it. I did better just building a nest of pillows and leaning back on em. Like this: http://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/01_laid_back_breastfeeding.pdf

post #57 of 112


I had the Brest friend pillow and loved it. I was completely reliant on it for the first 8 weeks or so, and really think it helped with that floppy newborn stage. The one down side (at least as I was using it) is that it was hard for me to lean back and really relax.  As I got more comfortable with nursing and the baby's head got stronger I gradually just stopped going through the trouble of using it. Still I'm really glad I had it and plan on pulling it out again this time. I'll be curious to see whether it feels just as helpful this time, or now that I've been nursing a baby and then toddler so long without it, it doesn't seem as necessary. 
 

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Oh, I tried a Brest friend pillow at the store a couple nights ago.  OH my goodness!  That thing is amazing.  Anyone used one?  Have any feedback?  I didnt buy it but I think I probably will.

 

 

 

 



 

post #58 of 112

agh. I just found out the job offer in Switzerland was withdrawn..

 

 

 

post #59 of 112

Oh, I'm so sorry, Ithappened. You're having a rough go of it lately, but things will all work out.

 

Honey, congratulations on a boy for when you're "yay" about it.  

 

Andaluza, I hope that discomfort passes quickly.  

 

AFM, I think I may have a new niece in the next couple of days!  My twin says she is having mild contractions, but then they briefly stopped, and then she had a couple more....so judging by her past pregnancies, within the next 72 hours is likely.  She's taking her 3yo and her 3yo's bestie to a puppet show today, lol...but hopefully I'll have a new niece soon!

post #60 of 112

ithappened, that sucks.  Getting all excited for a possibility that doesn't pan out is the worst.

 

Veritas, very exciting on the new niece!  Though it will be kind of sad that you and your twin won't be pregnant at the same time.  I've loved the pics you've posted.  So cute.

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