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[rik8144]

Originally Posted by jennyvangy 

I'm thinking baby is going to come right around my due date (as much as I'd love to meet the LO earlier) and probably be around 8 lbs.  I'm not feeling that he/she is especially large.  I'd love a Friday the 13th baby!

And, AFM, I just thought I'd let you all know that my waxer is warming and I am about to attempt to become the hairless wonder. At 37 + weeks pregnant, I'm not sure how wise this is. I may or may not try to do my bikini line, which I have not seen in months. We will see. I will let you know how it goes.  I'm not sure if applying hot wax to any area that I cannot see is smart, but hey, Brazillians are in, right?

That would be an awesome birthday! Haha!

I have an appt in two weeks with my waxer. I have been going for a year now. I hope it is worth it...as in keeping things a little cleaner down there for after birth!
 

[prettyisa]

Sunflower—glad it’s not pertussis!

I’m still getting over the ick, but it feels like I’m on the other side now. A few more days of de-gunking and I’ll be back to normal, hopefully. One funny coincidence is that they have me on amoxicillin to knock it out, so even though I came back GBS- (yay! And Hazel, I assumed I’d be +, too, so hopefully you’ll miss it also!) I’m actually taking the drugs they’d put me on anyway.

Kaismum—going out to get more yogurt soon! I had been eating it every day for the protein, but have slacked off lately (our poor fridge is so empty…). Maybe that’s why I’ve been lucky so far.

No Braxton hicks here—or I just don’t know what one is like when I get one. I think this kid will be mid-range (just under 8 lbs) and come a week late. That’s what I’m hoping, anyway. I’d really (really) like a week of mat. leave to get things organized and relax before the baby shows up. No clue on gender. I keep dreaming about girls but everyone says it looks like a boy.

Oh, and no waxing for me. If I manage to shave my legs we’ll be doing well.

[Aletheia]

Friday the 13th!  I hadn't even though of that.  I'm due on the 14th.  :)

As for Braxton-Hicks- Mine became regular around 36 weeks every evening with DS2.  I kept calling DH, who was often at work, to say, "um, they are 7 minutes apart!"  But nothing came of it.  Or rather, the first contraction of actual labor was so QUALITATIVELY different that it was clear all the BH's had been prodomol labor.  

But... I will say that I think having a lot of BH's can be productive.  DS2's labor was 2.5 hours from start to finish.  And he was engaged, as this babe is, around 36 weeks.  So here's hoping! 

I don't do cervical checks, but I am pretending that all these BH's that I've been having will have me close to 4 or 5 cm before actual labor begins.  :)  What's wrong with a little positive self-talk, right?  

Does anyone know where the Due Date List is?  I scanned through and wanted to bump it up so we could be aware of who's due when, but I couldn't find it.

[flavorfull1]

Ashley- so glad that it is not pertussis, how scary and stressful anyway!  Luckily DH and I are pretty similar as far as hospital/doctors go so it isn't a struggle.

Erin- lots and lots of hugs to you and your family.

Re: hair removal-  I too and lucky if I have shaved my legs....like I did a week ago but I hadn't since before christmas before that so I will probably not do anything before baby comes.  Definitely no extra care or waxing but I have been tempted to try it when not pg. Jenny you have to let us know how it went!

re: body cleaning itself out, I have been going back and forth but have seemed to kind of slow down to normal now.  When I went into labor with DS my body definitely go rid of everything.  I am hoping that happens again because it was nice to not have to worry about poop in pushing.

I am currently pregnant longer than I ever have been, DS was born in the morning of 38+1 and I am at 38+1 today.  It feels pretty fine and I am ok with it but starting to feel a shift in my emotions and state of mind.  I have tons of braxton hicks and do not have any internal checks done, not in labor either, so I am just hoping that means dilation is happing on its own. I do EPO vaginally every night since 37 weeks and I haven't felt my cervix but she is definitely lower than she has been and it was kind of exciting to feel a hard little baby head. I mean I know that there is a baby in there but it got a little more real.

I had a midwife appointment today and I am measuring 3-3.5 weeks behind but I gained two pounds in the last week. My mw is not worried and said my body type seems to just hide babies more. Not sure exactly what that means but I will take it.  She thinks DD is between 7 and 7.5lbs but that is also what another mw estimated for DS a little over a week before he was born and he was 8lbs 2oz. I am in that in between place of feeling a little irritated with people wanting updates (seriously, I just turned 38 weeks), being more ready than not to meet my baby, but also being content to rest in the normalcy of life as I know it right before it changes again.  I had myself a good cry yesterday because whether I like it or not, my life has already changed.  Having my sister here all the time is taxing in some ways because I am an introvert and all of my normal things in life are a bit altered.  She is super easy to live with, we get along great, and my house is ridiculously clean so I feel guilty for even feeling sad at all or irritated.  But, I just had a good cry, felt better, some of it might have been about not really feeling like doing labor any time soon, and then I went to a coffee shop and read a book for a while.  I felt a lot better and was very appreciative to have the luxury to have someone watch DS for me while I went to read a book.  Maybe I will stay pg longer just to get to go out alone more lol.

[rubyjune]

Oh I do hope all the germs clear up before the babies come...I started sneezing this morning. Having visions of shooting this baby out with a huge achoo!!!

Birthday was yesterday...officially over 40. but hey what is a number really.

I may be becoming immune to stress, or is it pregnancy brain damage, jury is still out..just letting go, as there is crap all I can do about it anyway. Freeing really. Stuff of the floor..what floor? I can neither see, nor get to said floor

BH all the dang time. Have thought we were getting somewhere a few times, but nope...not as of yet. I am getting tired of people acting like I may explode like a puffball mushroom, however. The dog knows something is up. I am being followed by a huge concerned poodle. He has to follow me into the tiny bathroom or he sits outside and whines

oh how i hate the talking baby dreams....the best thing about babies is they don't talk

beloved maybe / will be leaving soon after the babe comes to work in S. America for a while..a few weeks to a month out and few weeks home sort of deal. The money would be great and well needed...but I will miss his help. But millions of single moms manage so I guess I can figure it out.

[justKate]

rik, for some reason I'm anticipating a 41ish week baby too, although there's no reason in particular.  DD was 40+2.  Maybe its my way of not getting too excited about nearing 40 weeks.

rubyjune, love the attitude.  It will all work out.  And Happy Birthday, too!

Need to vent about DH for a minute.  DD brought home some crud/cough the weekend before last, and I started getting it (sore throat) pretty much right away.  She had a fever for a few days, but recovered quickly enough.  I started feeling like crap and being grumpy last Sunday, and was lucky enough to ditch DD and DH for two hours for a nap in the late afternoon.  Of course I got a bunch of guilt about it.  So now DH is feeling lousy (I am too, but that doesn't matter when he is) and stayed home from work yesterday and today.  Seriously?  You have a bad cold.  So now he's here, in the way, being coughy and gross, and I'm getting even less rest because I'm trying to keep DD quiet and away from him so that he can rest.  I swear, I love my husband, but if he dies I will not get married again.  I'm not even sure I would seriously date.  Ugh.

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

Thanks for all the well wishes, DD seems to be doing better, if still coughing a lot. DH actually apologized for being a jerk about the hospital thing, which is major progress.

As for body hair, well, I'm sort of experimenting with letting mine grow. I used to be really anal about shaving, but that's slid more and more over the years as I've become more comfortable with my body. I do still want to shave my legs and armpits, but I've been fighting a folliculitis infection in my pits for 2.5 years now, and about the only treatment I haven't tried is not shaving for awhile. So, letting my pit hair grow while trying not claw them out, hoping that this stops the folliculitis, finally. We'll see.

I've been cleaning out for 4 weeks, am only having sporadic BH, and baby is not particularly low. I don't think I'm gonna pop anytime soon.

Also, for those of you on my FB, we're planning a pretty spectacular birth announcement for Sunday (April Fool's), so just so you know I am not pregnant with twins named Nicole (Nickles) and Dmitri (Dimes). There may even be photoshopped pictures of my daughter involved to make the "twins" :)

[NicMom]

Kaismum - I totally get what you are feeling about having a due date towards the end of the month.  Makes the anticipation much harder.  But, at least we get a huge dose of birth stories in advance!

[rik8144]

Yes, Kaismum and NicMom! Being due at the end (and expecting to not have her until 41 weeks which would be 4/30) makes the waiting all that much harder!

[thomatuttle]

Hazel--so far, I think I am the only one who has tested gbs+. So if that means taking one for the team in order for everyone else to be -, I guess I'll do it!

Ashley--yay for no pertussis! What good news!

Kate--I hear you on annoying DH's! Mine complains about how horrible I am when I'm sick, but he is always ten times worse than me when he is sick. Plus, when I'm sick I still primarily take care of DD and still cook him dinner every night. When he's sick, I can barely get him to put the toilet seat down after he pees! DH has been a little pissy the past few days, mostly due to our shared lack of sleep due to DD's hive issue and her not sleeping. He really wants a day off during his spring break, and here am I thinking how unfair that is! I don't get a spring break! I'm exhausted and feel like crap and would love some time to myself before DS comes along but know that I won't get it. I never get a break or anytime to myself.

I had my most recent appointment yesterday. It was with the midwife in my ob's practice, because he is gone for spring break. It was the first time meeting her. She's on call if I go into labor before my ob gets back. I was worried about being constantly stuck to the iv tubes since I have to have the gbs antibiotics. She said that they can cap off the iv in between doses so that I can be in the tub and walk around which was reassuring to hear. DD is seeming to be doing better. Not sure if it's the steroids she started yesterday or if the hives are finally running their course. She'll go most of the day without too many hives which may be because she is busy enough to not constantly realize how itchy she is. Nights are still the worst because when she gets warm they have a tendency to pop up and she wakes up crying and scratching. Last night she was up every 30-45 minutes which really took a toll on DH and I! Hoping tonight is a little better because I really need some rest so that I'll have enough energy when it comes time for my labor to start. Mom and I just about finished painting DD's room today. We just need one more coat of paint on 2 walls and then we'll be able to put her room back in order finally!

[Thursday Girl]

Normally i can sympathize with annoying husbands, but mine's been pretty fantastic lately. I mean the room project is taking forever and it's been way too long since we have done laundry but it's not entirely his fault.

Thoma, I feel so sad for your little girl and her hives, I so hope they clear up soon.

I've been having consistent mild contractions similiar to what I have had with the other girls starting around 8:40 last night, I've been just sleeping through them but I woke up to eat. My guess is march 29th might be the day, maybe late evening. we shall see, now that I have posted it on facebook watch it not happen. LOL. I have a lot to do around the house but I am super excited to meet my wriggly little baby.

[NicMom]

Oh, I hope you didn't jinx it by posting on Facebook, too!  I finally feel "ready enough" so if he comes early I am good.  Still plenty that needs done but I can now start getting excited.

[Thursday Girl]

I think I did.

[Mom2SammyJoe]

I try to have good things to say around here, but today is already a hard day. DD, 3 next month, has been out of diapers at night for a few months now, with a couple of accidents. She wet the bed Sunday night. She wet the bed Tuesday night. I am really tired and just prayed and prayed for a good nights sleep last night. DH and I were out, so MIL put her to bed. We woke her up at 10pm to go pee. She then wet the bed at 12:30. Seriously. She'll go 4 hours during the day without peeing, no problem, but couldn't make it 3 last night. Then I was up with her another time or 2 getting a tissue or whatever. DH hit the snooze this morning, so he got up at 5:30. I got up to pee and went back to bed. Then I hear DD awake again. DH goes in, and she had wet the bed again!!!!!! How is there anything left in there? I get up to help him take care of things (at least she is in a tiny toddler bed and hates blankets, so there isn't a ton to clean up). I couldn't fall back asleep. I keep crying and feel like I have somehow damaged my kid that now she is wetting the bed. DH feels like it is his fault for not spending a ton of time with her lately as we have been busy trying to get things done before baby.

I get the kids up, and as we are leaving to take DS to school, he accidently knelt on his brand new Etch-a-Sketch that he bought with his birthday money and cracked the screen. I don't know why that set me off, but I could barely pull it together to get him in school and can't stop crying now. DS is a little upset, but not like I was. He was so excited to bring it to his friend's house this afternoon. Part of me just wants to go buy him a new one, but I don't want my kids to think everything is disposble/replaceable. Seriously,I am a mess right now.

I need to do about 50 loads of laundry (okay, 4) and I wanted to get the floors mopped today. But now I am just tired and crying and want someone to somehow make everything better. Instead, DD is watching Dora while having to deal with her basket case mom.

[chiromama01]

mommy2sammyjoe-- i'm so sorry to hear about your mental state this morning.  i'm with you, unfortunately.  give yourself a break today, don't worry about the floors, or the laundry.  rest when you can today and be kind to yourself.  mabye dd is just sensing baby's impending arrival.  most kids will regress a bit with new baby in the house.  maybe diapers at night for a few nights with the goal of keeping the diaper dry?  you need a break.  we recently put dd back in diapers at night because i couldn't take the laundry.  or what about a sheet protector?  then you won't have so much laundry.  anyway, BE KIND TO YOURSELF, AND RELAX

i hope you start to feel better soon!

more about my mental state later... late for work already...

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

Mom2SammyJoe: ::ehugs:: It'll be ok, and I've been kind of an emotional wreck lately too. I'd totally be crying over cleaning up spills. Heck, I'm probably cleaning up vomit a bunch today which means i'll be in tears soon enough!

DD developed a fever last night, much to our surprise. Am I the only mom who doesn't have any luck with thermometers; every time I've tried to use one on her I've gotten crazily inconsistent readings. Anyways, fever. Which means we're stuck at home AGAIN today. I'm gonna snap soon, I do not do confinement well. DH is being great about all this. He has to do a lot of the night time parenting because I just physically can't anymore. My biggest concern is what to do if I start labor in the next few days. All of our friends we'd send her to have young kids, and grandparents are probably unavailable and all live 3 hours away. Of course 3am yesterday I started having rhythmic menstrual cramps, which is how labor started with Evie, so I'm kind of nervous. Thankfully that stopped, and realistically I'm gonna be pregnant another week. I apparently cook my kiddos slow.

[AnnaB77]

Thoma-You are not the only GBS+. I will be hooked to an IV as well. :-(

mommy2sammyjoe-I am so sorry things are hard on you right now. Listen to the other moms and take it easy. Mopping the floor can wait for another day! As for the cracked screen I know how you feel. DD's ipod fell out of her pocket when she bent over to pick a four leaf clover. She was not happy about it but was ok since it still worked. She was mostly upset because four leaf clovers are suppose to be lucky. I was really sad for her and was so proud of her for not being a "drama queen" (she is 12) that I wanted to say we will buy you a new one. But I didn't. I went to the bathroom so she wouldn't see me tears.

Sunflwr- I hope that your DD sickness passes quickly! I could not imagine being stuck in the house. I am glad your husband is so helpful!!

I am 37 weeks and sooooo ready to be done! I am measuring two weeks ahead and the baby's head is so far down I feel like I would squish his brains if I tried to close my legs. I feel like he will be here any day. I am having a lot of menstrual like cramps, my body is definitely cleaning itself out, and today I noticed I lost 4 pounds. I am also feeling a lot of pressure in my bum. It almost hurts to sit. Has anyone else felt this?

Everything else is going great. I finished my list of things to do and then made a new one which is pretty much done. I am getting my car detailed right now. For some reason that makes it more real than anything else. Probably because our plan was to wait until the last minute to detail it and this means the end is near!!

I hope that everyone and their families are all illness free before your little ones come.

[prettyisa]

Ruby—What a bummer about your DH being gone so close to the birth. But yes, you’ll manage, and hopefully you’ll have other people around to be supportive. I laughed out loud about your poodle. My dogs want to sit on me a lot and are super-whiny, but the truth is that they’re always like that, so who knows if they can tell what’s coming. People have been advising us to start carrying a doll around (which would be easier if we had one) and to have DP bring home a blanket with the baby’s scent on it ‘when she comes home from the hospital’. We keep giving them blank stares, because unless there’s something wrong, there’s no way she’s coming home from the hospital before me and the kid get released. Or am I wrong? Do all partners leave after the birth and run home beforehand? We just expected that we’ll go there, have the baby, snuggle for the 24 hours or so our midwife recommended sticking around for and then go home together. Is that naïve?

Sunflower—that is hilarious. I should work on something along those lines…We joked for a long time about having twin boys named Venny and Ret—for Vengeance and Retribution. And then a little girl named Makepeace…

Still sorry to hear that everyone is sick. We’re all just getting it out of the way now so it’ll be over with until the newborns are healthy 6-monthers, yes?

Mom2—I’m sorry to hear that everything is so stressful. One thing that I read recently (and this is a little strange, so bear with me) is that some kids wet the bed because they have extreme constipation. For some reason they can still poop, but there’s just not enough room for their bladders to expand, too. It sounds like it might just be normal new-baby-taking-over regression stuff, but if it’s driving you crazy, or you're worried it might be worth looking into: http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2012/03/bed_wetting_the_simple_cause_your_doctor_probably_missed_.html

[RosieL]

Quick question, and I'm really sorry to be so me-focused in this thread...

Grandpa died this morning, my emotions did a 180, and we're going to do the road trip together. I'm putting a hospital bag list together just in case we get caught up there. I'm *MUCH* more comfortable risking a strange hospital birth with my husband around than going through labor without him...not logical...but anyways...

Should I as for a cervical check before we go? I've had zero signs of labor, except maybe some BH ctx, and even now I'm not sure that's what they are (my belly always seems tight like a BH when I stand up). In any case, not timeable by any means. No mucous, no plug, no blood, no water, and baby isn't even low. Would a cervix check even tell me anything? I kind of wanted to go through the whole pregnancy without any checks. Is there any real reason to get one before I take a road trip?

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

Rosie, I'm so sorry. Cervical checks don't tell you anything but where you are right now, they're terrible for predicting when labor will happen. I've hd friends walk around at a 6 for weeks before labor, and I went into labor with a very very unfavorable cervix. It's totally not worth it.

Isa, the first time around DH only left the hospital a couple of times briefly during our 36 hour stay. He went to lunch with his sister and then went home and took a shower. If We were planning a hospital birth this time I expect DH would be home with DD more, but we haven't really thought about it. With most of my friends it seems that both parents are in the hospital the whole time, but the other parent doesn't do much. One friend complained about a lot of "self-care" and another never woke up her husband to help with diapers or anything. I had DH doing everything that wasn't feeding the baby, and that's how this one's going to go too.