Okay...I have read all the threads, or the ones I could find, about this...and none of them seem to be my issue.
We have four kids: 6, 5, 4, and 3. I know girls potty train earlier than boys. Mt 5yr girl old day time potty trained at 2, and then night time potty trained at 3. My 3 year old girl potty trained at 16months, and then night timed at 20months. My 4yr boy old is just day time potty trained. I am not comparing kids - just giving background incase its relevant.
My 6yr old boy - he doesnt bedwet. Bedwetting, from my research, implies some level of competence or knowledge at night. He isnt night time potty trained - at all. He is currently wearing the biggest sized disposables that are out there - and fills them up. If he sleeps in just a little bit he outpees them. We have tried the trainers, or whatever that go cold or are more like underwhere - and he outpees those within 3hours of going to sleep - but even when he does, he doesnt wake up. He just sleeps in his own wetness.
We have tried having him in underwhere and waking him up before we go to bed for a bathroom trip - but in the 2-3 hours between his bedtime and ours he has peed the bed.
We have tried eliminating water a certain number of hours before bedtime as well. It doesnt help.
Our 4yr old boy doesnt pee this much at night.
I am concerned that he will soon outgrow the biggest size disposables - we cant afford to special order diapers for him, and the diapers he is currently wearing are leaving little rashy bumps on his sides where the 'straps' are. He outgrew our cloth long ago. Nor can we send him to school smelling like pee if he just doesnt wear diapers.
Im at a loss for what to do. I know every kid does it on his/her own time. And I am not trying to rush him so I dont feel guilty or embarrassed. I just wonder...when should I worry that something is up? Shouldn't he be making some progress towards this? How do I help him?